New here, first post.
Anyone ever thrown an optional party? How'd the first one go?
We are around 50 and while I'm an avid nudist my wife is morereserved about it. We have a fairly private pool area and arethinking ofhavinga clothing optional partysome evening, it'd be our first. We want our guest to know up front we plan on getting nude and would like for them to as well, but we have no idea how it will be recieved up front. Several attempts at getting them to ditch the swim suits at the pool usually ends up with me having to put mine on, so we thought an announced party lets them know up front what's going on. If they decline we know, they attend, well...party ison.
Figure with nothing but torch lights around the pool and string lights here and there it's give a good dim light mood.
Finger food and drinks, no sit down dinner or anything.
Biggest issue will obviously be our friends, not sure how many are game for something like this. One couplewe know would even though we've never interacted nude with them, their nudist around their pool all the time as well,the other two not so sure of. Like to have 3-4 couples total if possible to make it worth while.
We're all 40-50, they know we're nudist, one iffy couple probably would since they just got back from a resort with a nude beach (first time) and said they got used to it, the last couple probably would if the others did, it'd be a new experience for them.
Based on the nude beaches and resort parties I've been to women wear thin sarongs or a see through cover shirt only when they're not in the pool, men would wear nothing or unbuttoned hawaiian type shirts, which is what my wife and I wear when we visit them.usually we wear nothing lounging or in the pool,but usually put something on to mill about, but not always.
Based on that we could tell the other couples what to bring to make them more comfortable. It is after all "optional" or should we approach each couple first to gauge their interest?
How did your first private optional party go, either throwing it or attending someone elses?

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I'd suggest contacting CheriDonna by PM. She's another South Carolinian and is the grand poobah of the Travelites, a non-landed nudist club that often hosts nude parties. She's a fountain of knowledge,

Peace!

Update: it appears that our resident experts have contributed their usual valuable insight. Excellent!

if you send out a invitation i would note a clothing optional party but nude in the pool, for those uncomfortable nude but still interested the darkness will give them a chance to slip in and enjoy the party especially if other encourage them, if left clothing optional they will be left in their bathing suits and not part of the nudism experience.

I think the idea of a clothing optional party is both doable and accepted. If you decide that only nudity is allowed in the pool, it should be stated. Also, you may need to emphasize this is not a sexual or swingers party. Overt sexual activity is taboo. You want people to have fun and you want them to wear nudist/clothing optionalattire like a pareo, open weave tops,open weavewraps, belly chains, etc. The idea is to describe the event properly with proper parameters and limits. If the event is described properly, there are no surprises and attendees understand what is expected and the state of undress of the participants.
If your idea is to have a clothing optional party, then give suggestions and delineate that it is not a "sex fest".However, if a "sexfest" is what you want, then contact a swingers organization and do not use "clothing optional" as an euphemism.
COguyCO

Our first nude dinner party went very well. But every one we invited were nudists. A suggestion would be for you to invite your friends to a skinny-dip party.I also agree 100% with what CoguyCO posted regarding being very clear about it not being a sexfest or not using C/O as a euphamism.


As far as Nude Beaches are concerned Ican tell you that whenever we've been to a nude beach, the only time a sarong was worn by me or clothing worn by my husbandwas the walk from the parking lot to the beach. Once we pass the "nudists beyond this point" signeverything comes off andnothing goes back on until it's time to leave.Same for the nudist clubs and resorts we've been too. Unless, of course, it gets really cold. Nude where possible, clothed when practical.

Jen

I had a nude party at my house several years ago. I talked to my friends about nude parties and eliminated those that said no. Sent out the invitations via email and everyone came.My party wasn't clothing optional however - nude start to finish.A couple of people who had said no later told me they wish they had come. They didn't come because of fear of social nudity and regreted missing the opportunity to try it.

Thanks for the quick replies.
We're having most of the couples over this weekend fora July 4th cookout at the pool, since it'll carry over into the evening I'll bring up skinny dipping. Butan initialskinny dipping party sounds like a nice "youthful" sounding way to get started instead of a clothing optional party.
Definitely not looking for any type swinging parties. We just like to shed the clothes.
The wife and I would like to meet more nudist in the area, since we don't have that many friends our close friends are the only ones we know to invite. Meeting and having more couples for a later party that could also recipricate would be nice.

Welcome to TrueNudists. It's a pretty good community. It's always great seeing other Carolinians on here..
I am the founder and director of Travelites, now in its 24th year. We have over 100 members at this point. Please email me if you'd like to have the club's information packet. You can email travelites@prodigy.net or me at cheridonna@prodigy.net - I respond to all club email within 24 hours. It would be great to have another pool among our members' ammenities.
Be careful having a nude party without being part of an organization. Should someone drink too much and have an autowreck on the way home or anything else, you would be held responsible. I have learned through others' actions over the years.
Best regards, Cheri

My wife is a nudist, also. However, she takes medication that causes her to have a sensitivity to the sun and burns easily. When we go to a nudist venue, she stays nude as long as she can without becoming damaged (which is what happens when she REALY burns). Then seh covers up until she feels she can stand another dose, she is in the shade, or the sun goes down. When a person covers up, don't judge too fast. There are quite a few with similar problems.

John

My wife is a nudist, also. However, she takes medication that causes her to have a sensitivity to the sun and burns easily. When we go to a nudist venue, she stays nude as long as she can without becoming damaged (which is what happens when she REALY burns). Then seh covers up until she feels she can stand another dose, she is in the shade, or the sun goes down. When a person covers up, don't judge too fast. There are quite a few with similar problems.
John

Sounds like a good case of "Nude when possible, clothed when practical" to me!

Jen

Oh shoot, I thought this was a political party, lol.

Well... In South Carolina it is.

"Our first nude dinner party went very well. But every one we invited were nudists."
And what a lovely dinner party it was.... it was my first nude dinner party. Even though I've been a nudist for over 20 yrs (mostly home and a beach girl), I just discovered social nudism about7 yrs ago with resorts and clubs. The dinner party was great, nice mix of people, met some new friends, and took the plunge into the snow angel club.
I agree with all the others about being specific and clear as to what the party is about and what is expected.... If these people are new to the concept of public nudity you should make them as comfortable as possible. You may also need to make sure each brings their own towel and explain the towel thing to them.

Good luck

"Our first nude dinner party went very well. But every one we invited were nudists."

And what a lovely dinner party it was.... it was my first nude dinner party. Even though I've been a nudist for over 20 yrs (mostly home and a beach girl), I just discovered social nudism about7 yrs ago with resorts and clubs. The dinner party was great, nice mix of people, met some new friends, and took the plunge into the snow angel club.
I agree with all the others about being specific and clear as to what the party is about and what is expected.... If these people are new to the concept of public nudity you should make them as comfortable as possible. You may also need to make sure each brings their own towel and explain the towel thing to them.

Good luck

Thanks i2gobare, you always make everything we do much more fun!

Caster, I should have mentioned, everyone we invited, we met here on TN.

Jen

Caster1, I hope you've had several parties by now since this was originally posted 8 months ago. I see that you've also posted about 57 other posts since then so you must be getting to know you way around. I hope that all of your parties are indoors during these winter months. Stay warm, stay nude, stay happy.

all partys sould be clothing opp. thats just my thought

I notice that this is an old thread.  Was wondering how it went - if you had one or many?  We are in NJ....I want a nude dinner party think it will be so much fun!

Hope they are still having more parties

Several years ago, a friend of mine had a naked party.  It was a lot of fun!  The core of the group was a men's naked yoga group, so many of the guys had seen each other nude lots of times.  Some of the yoga class invited friends (like me) who were not part of the group.  It was just a fun time.  I was a stranger to almost all the people there, but as is typical, it seems to be easier to get to know people when I am nude.  The party was entirely non-sexual, aside from a couple of mildly naughty jokes and comments, and felt very comfortable.  It was a success to me because expectations were set--nudity was OK, sexuality was not, and because there was a core group that was comfortable being nude together.

My parents who are nudist hold garden parties and they are either fully clothed or nude ones. They feel having clothing optional paties may make either the clothed or the nudist feel uncomfortable.
I've always attended both types of party they have and sometimes someone who normally goes to one of the clothed ones asks if they can attend the next nudist one. Naturally my folks are delighted if this happens and we go just that little bit further to make the newcomer feel welcome and not try to do anything that might make them embarrassed to be there.

My wife and i have a nudest pool party every month from April till October and always put it out as clothing optional and almost every one gets naekkid eventually. we have from 30 to 50 nekkid people in oue backyard partie. In facrt having one april 20th. Never been an issue for the nudist or non nudist

I would propose a pool party and mention skinny-dipping permitted after 10PM.  That would allow all of your friends to stay as long as they want and even talk amongst themselves.  Even if they don't stay until 10 that night, they may still ask if they can come back later when they have more time.

We have been hosting nude parties for years and had groups up to about 40 prople.  Love it and plan one next month.  Try a theme like appetizers only, or board games.  The large size Junga is fun but hard on bare toes.