My wife will not participate in nudist activities. She said she dont like nude people and and dont even like to see me nude. Have I got a snowballs chance in hell of ever converting her over to my side. I love her very much. Should I just give up on the whole nudist thing?

No don't give up being a nudist. Give up being married.

This is a dificult one, but you are not alone.A lot off male nudists have the same "problem" encounterd.It is no use to reform your wife that is something that almost never works, in my case my wife and me have a agreementthat I go on my own to "do my thing" like going to the nude beach and resort and every time we go like a family we go tothe textile area and I wear swimming gear like speedo or whatever, thisis for us the closest thing that works for both of us. Good luck with your situation...

I am also in the same situation. When we met, she was the one who would lay around the house nude any time. She only got dressed when we had people coming over, or we were going out. It took me a while to get to where I liked sitting nude with her to watch TV. But once we had kids, especially once they started talking, my wife does not go nude near as much now, and the idea of going nude in a group is of absolutely no interest to her. We still walk around the house nude a bit when the kids are around, and much more when they are at school or asleep, but I do not expect it to be anything like we were. My wife will not go outdoors nude, or go to even clothing optional events. But on the good side she is not having a problem with me wanting to do this. Hopefully within a couple weeks I will make it to an SCNA meeting and see how well I fit in with the others around here.So, I guess my spouse is basically supporting me, just not joining in.

It can take many years.  So far it has been 27 years.  I have made a little progress, but there is more to be made.  It takes a lot of love, compassion, all around sweetness and more patience than you think you had.  Never argue about it.  Just gently discuss your desires with her and that it means nothing if she is not with you.  But you have to see to her needs, wants and desires first.  Zig Ziglar has said, "You can get whatever you want, if you help enough people get what they want, first."    -JR

The first and foremost issue should be ...  why doesn't your wife wanna see YOU naked?   For the life of me and the Love of God... why are there wives out there that are "so in love" with their husbands but can't stand the sight of him naked!???   It is absolutely amazing to me that there are husbands and wife's that don't see each other naked any more.   One problem I know I've experienced was the assumption from my wife that I am comparing her to women I see on the street and in magazines.  I'm not that 20 y.o. young buck I used to be and I never will be again so it's unrealistic and unwise to either get caught gawking a younger, more fit women or looking on the internet for naked women or have Playboys or Penthouse's lying around the house .... because you like to read the articles.... believe me... she knows better!   I subscribed to Playboy for a couple dozen years and after I threw them all away ... and got my head on straight that my wife was the most beautiful and important person in my life, HER attitude changed dramatically.  Guys want instant results and they don't happen that way.  You need to find out why your wife doesn't want to see you naked anymore.   My guess is ... there's something else ... NOT just nudity.

The first and foremost issue should be ...  why doesn't your wife wanna see YOU naked?   For the life of me and the Love of God... why are there wives out there that are "so in love" with their husbands but can't stand the sight of him naked!???   It is absolutely amazing to me that there are husbands and wife's that don't see each other naked any more.   One problem I know I've experienced was the assumption from my wife that I am comparing her to women I see on the street and in magazines.  I'm not that 20 y.o. young buck I used to be and I never will be again so it's unrealistic and unwise to either get caught gawking a younger, more fit women or looking on the internet for naked women or have Playboys or Penthouse's lying around the house .... because you like to read the articles.... believe me... she knows better!   I subscribed to Playboy for a couple dozen years and after I threw them all away ... and got my head on straight that my wife was the most beautiful and important person in my life, HER attitude changed dramatically.  Guys want instant results and they don't happen that way.  You need to find out why your wife doesn't want to see you naked anymore.   My guess is ... there's something else ... NOT just nudity.

Excellently put!

My situation is a bit different. My wife has no issue with being nude or me being nude around the house. She just has no desire to take it anywhere else, not even our own yard, or to a friends pool etc. Actually, just before I came to get online, she was nude for nearly an hour, and just decided to put on a shirt because she felt a chill sitting at her computer. I am still nude as I went online. I am very glad she is okay with me going outside nude, so I guess in a way she is supporting me. For now we are not hiding our bodies from the kids, but we are a little more discrete. They see us nude, but we do not want to give them anything that imght sound wrong if said out of context at school. As long as I am not doing anything illegal, my wife is just fine with my doing things nude. She will not join me in any of it, except for in our own home. I have been invited to a few different get togethers. I have not been able to go to one yet, but I hope to soon. I will see how my wife acts when I return from one. Will she ask about it??? Or does she not want to know what happens?? I think she is more curious then she leads on to be. I agree on the other posts though, if my wife did not like being nude and seeing me nude, I don't think I could have married her. We practically lived nude ion the house until we had kids. For guys on here that met in a more conservvative mode, and are just now discovering how good it feels to be nude, I can see that being very difficult. I list myself as only being a nudist for a cpl weeks now, but the more I think about it, I really have been a nudist since I was about 7. I was afraid of what people would think so I hid my feelings and only got nude when i was alone. I even snuck outside a few times in my teens, when I was certain noone could ever see or find out. This site has really made me re-think those early years. The big differnce for me, I do not feel like I am doing anything wrong when I go out and relax nude in my backyard now. I have spent hours out there since I joined this site. My wife gives me the odd head shake when she sees me out there, but has told me she is okay with it. Her rule for now is, not when the kids are around, and she better not hear any complaints from neighbors. She is nervous about me going hiking in the angeles national forest though.

My wife doesn't even know I am a nudist, and it's almost impossible finding a nudist female friend. I hate it.

Larry, my late wfe was never supportive of my being a nudist either. I found out the more I tried to convince her to try it the more determinded she was to resist it. I took my nudity to my nude buddies and their spouses in the Navy. They finally told me to quit trying to get her to be a nudist. When I stopped she quit getting pissed at me. So when the ship would pull into San Diego my buddies and some of their wives who would make the trip down from the bay area would hit Black's beach for the weekend. If she's not into it now she may never will be. Just stay nude with those friends you have and all will hopefully be fine with you.

Thanks for the good advice. I have became a member at the nudist resort that is 5 miles from my house. I go there 3 times a week and work out in the gym and use the pool. I really enjoy this and as a result being an at home nudist has lost its importance.

Make sure she's aware that having a smooth pubic area is NOT a prerequisite!  It's more than enough just to have her participate and enjoy the freedom.  She doesn't need to feel obligated to be "groomed" a certain way for anyone but herself! :)

I find that most guys that describe their non-nudist spoouse really have not sat them down and talked to them and debunked their myths that it's just a sexual thing.  Really, sit her down in front of the computer and show her AANR and all of the resorts and beaches and women talk and how positive it is.

I find that most guys that describe their non-nudist spoouse really have not sat them down and talked to them and debunked their myths that it's just a sexual thing.  Really, sit her down in front of the computer and show her AANR and all of the resorts and beaches and women talk and how positive it is.

Yeah sure, if only that bullshit worked.  Most guys like myself, have already tried and there comes a time when enough is enough. One has to admit to marrying a none human.

This may help some of you if you can get your partners to read it.

It's a letter that jackieinoz sent to the "Go Natural" Magazine. 


Naturism, Nudity, Nudism. Call it what you like...it put the fear of God into me. Anyone that could walk around naked, let alone socialise naked, in my eyes, could only be one thing, a pervert, and a deviate. Someone not quite right! BUT here lies the opening of not only my eye's but my mind as well. So sit back and perhaps you may enjoy reading about my ride from "Textile" to "Naturist."

Having met the love of my life, I thought life could no longer throw me the proverbial curve ball. I had all I could ever want, a man that loved me, and a man that I loved, but whoa up, that curve ball was bearing down at me at a rapid rate. It started slowly, a few hints here, an Internet site there, and the odd, "hey honey this wouldnt be so bad would it" thrown in for good measure. This old prude was less than pleased; I called him everything from an exhibitionist to the much more forceful pervert.

No way Jose was I going down the Naturist path that he was so intent on becoming a part of. However after much cajoling (and with my mind firmly decided that it just wasn't going to be a part of our lives) and a trip of 20 minutes all the way in stony silence between us, we arrived at "that" place. Sadly the initial visit was far from congenial, my man, my safety net if you like was whipped away from me, and I was serendipitously (in my mind) paraded from camp site to camp site to be introduced. I hated it...I WANTED OUT OF THERE! Some months later (God only knows why) I decided to try once again. It could not have been any different if I had of wished it.

There was no pressure, everyone was exceptionally friendly, and I was actually made to feel welcome and a part of this little community. My man and I then rented the cabin for a week of total bliss, there was no-one there just he and I and the sounds of the cows lowing in the back paddock, birds chirping gaily every morning and the scent of pure fresh air. Slowly during this period of awakening, I came to accept, and perhaps understand, the Naturist way of life. The bliss of clothes-free living, it was a true awakening for me.

We now own our own little wee cabin, and we spend many a pleasant weekend amongst real people who have become real friends. I'm still not quite "there", but I am making head roads, and we now have a wonderful, active social life. Thank you to my man and to those that have taught me that it really is a natural way of life.

And just as an aside. I was sooooo very aware of every flaw of my body, from the cellulite to the stretch marks to the scars from numerous operations, to the flabby skin from massive weight loss, but do you know what? Not once have I seen the perfect body at our club or any of the other clubs we have visited. There is no perfect body, I have finally discovered that. Start at being nude together at home, lock the doors pull the curtains and just enjoy each other's nakedness, build up the trust from there, perhaps you could even venture out into your backyard, make it fun pack a picnic lunch, spread a blanket down and enjoy the sunshine. Gentle, gentle, little wee steps towards perhaps a day visit to a club close by.

Just my humble thoughts but I do so hope it helps.

jackieinoz

 

Here are two other threads on the same topic:

 

Getting my wife involved

Wife is getting cold feet.


 

I find that most guys that describe their non-nudist spouse really have not sat them down and talked to them and debunked their myths that it's just a sexual thing. Really, sit her down in front of the computer and show her AANR and all of the resorts and beaches and women talk and how positive it is.

That's just one ingredient; not the solution itself.  I liked Phil's quote, it sums it up nicely. 

• There's a lot that goes into a spouse's "potential" for becoming a nudist.  Sometimes, the anti-nudity views are so deeply ingrained that there's no amount of rational discussion that's going to change that fact.  Very often it's the result of upbringing and education.  I call them nudity-adverse spouses.
• Then you have nudity-reluctant spouses, whose views about nudity are more moderate, and the concerns are usually body-acceptance or sexually related (fear of voyeurism or being objectified).  That can sometimes be debunked through conversation, debate and example.  By example I mean setting the example and demonstrating comfort with nudity.  But she has to be open to that for that approach to get anywhere.

And then there's timing.  After a few shy attempts at nudism, all it took was one day, on a quiet early morning day at the resort, where my x was feeling particularily content and comfortable with herself.   We were sitting by the pool, and when I invited her to go for a walk, she got up without reaching for a towel or sarong, and started walking nude next to me.  For some people this takes mere minutes; for others this takes years.  And there's not a lot you can do to influence that moment.