Ok so I am sure that there are other forum posts on here regarding this but I can't find them so I will start this one, and hopefully get some ideas.I had a dream the other night that myself, my wife and family went to a nudist resort for our summer holidays-apart from myself none of my family are nudists in any way. It was very vivid. My middle child who is normally very private was open to the nudist holiday, in my dream I could not belieev my luck that we were going to a nudist resort. When I awoke sadly I realised it was a dream. Anyway as the day was progressing I thought why not try my luck and raise the possibilty of doing something to introduce my wife to nudism, so I mentioned my dream and asked her if she consider trying it. She has always known I was interested and knows that for a long time before we started going out and even after that I would go to nude beaches. Well I was told that all nudists are pervs, that they are all swingers, and really ugly and overweight and well it went on and on. I am very aware that she was correct with some points such as pervs etc, but I tried to explain that in nudism it does not matter how people look, but no matter how hard I tried it was going no where. So here I am not sure which way to go now, I would like to be able to share the lifestyle that we all enjoy with her and not feel like one of those single males that are here for the wrong reasons, because I am not single or here for the wrong reasons!Aanyway I am getting off track. Any thoughts would be good and much appreciated.

My wife thinks nusists are pervs, and there is no way to convince her that we are normal people, living as nature intended.

 

I like the way you think. At least you seem to be able to get out and about nude quiet freely. I need to snatch my moments of being nude when I have the house to myself. Unfortunately there is no way my wife or kids would tolerate med being nude when they were around. Never mind. Thank god for TN.

hi there, even i had problems with my wife but day by day i convinced her little bit more to join, it took me 3 or 4 years to get her to come and meet a nudist and sit with us, us nude she clothed. she liked it, she said she ok with doing it but only with decent people who are not perverts or swingers. its true what your wife said all those things but i find in normal textile life you find the same type of people so whats the difference?. i guess if they is no cameras around and you guys are in a secure location and im sure by now you must of made some good nice nudist friends that can help your wife get into nudism if she does decide to join. keep speaking to her make her feel as comfortable as possible and then break her in slowly if she wants she can be in a swimming costume till she feels comfortable and gets to know your friends, once she feels they are nice people maybe she will change her mind. tell me how it goes and if they is anything else she dosent like about nudism or herself like her body image, etc.

 Well I was told that all nudists are pervs, that they are all swingers, and really ugly and overweight and well it went on and on. I am very aware that she was correct with some points such as pervs etc,

And there are no pervs, swingers, uglies, and overweights in the textile world, right? That's how she can tell who's a nudist just playing dress up, right?

Been doing this since I was 10, albeit in the privacy of my home, but I had no idea I was supposed to be a perv and a swinger at the young age of 10.

And since you partake of nude beaches, what does she think of you? She married you, knowing you partake, so what does that say about her?

I'm sorry, but your wife is narrowminded, and her comments just pissed me off. To not want to join in is one thing, but namecalling and lumping *ALL* nudists under such vulgar umbrellas is totally uncalled for.

A couple things;  First and foremost ... ALL nudists are NOT pervs.   I would suspect that there are MORE pervs in one's circle of friends, aquaintances and co workers than at an entire nude club or resort on the busiest of days.  Second;  why is it that guys with reluctant wive's/partners JUMP right to going to a resort???  Is your significant other comfortable with being nude at home, in your backyard if able (privacy)?   If they are NOT comfortable with nudity period ... what the heck makes you think they'll jump right into visiting a nude club?  Nudism starts at home ... not at a club or resort ... believe me, cuz I married a woman that was all for home nudism from the start but going to a nude resort was not agreed upon til way later in the game ... way later!  Third;  nudists are NOT pervs and fat ugly people.  We are a cross section of society.  We are the very people your wife is in contact with in her life.  When you get her to understand that ... when you reinforce the philosophies of nudism and show her the positives FAR outweigh ANY negatives ..., start by getting her comfortable at home first ... then you can suggest you take it social/public and visit a club or resort.   Walk before you try and run.  ; )

What business is it of hers to determine how other people look?  Yes, there are overweight people in the nudist movement and yes there are swingers and perverts involved, but the majority of nudists are not like that.
She sounds very immature and small-minded.  I don't know whether you'll be able to convince her to try it, but the least you could get out of it is her letting you do your nudist activities as much as she has activities of her own that you may not be interested in.
The nudist movement has a name for this problem known as RSS (Reluctant Spouse Syndrome).  ;-)

To enjoy nudity, a person has to have at least to a degree a healthy self-image. That lacking, one constantly worries about one's own shortcomings or is possessed by true or imagined shortcomings of others. Aussienude's wife's comment show at least the latter.

Anyone willing to change that kind of attitudes in their significant other's behaviour need to tackle that first. Nudity starts at home is a good point to get it started with. Does your wife ever stay nude outside bed and bathroom? What about you? According to old "my home is my castle" -principle, you should have right to be in your home in any outfit you please - as well as without one.

Opposing more broad social nudity is natural if one has not got used to be nude and like being nude alone and with nearest ones at least in some non-sexual situations, first at home and then maybe other ones, like sauna, sunbathing (in secluded spot at first and not a public beach/resort). After person is comfy with nudity in such manner, one can present a case about more social kind of nudity and it will fall on more fertile ground - hopefully.

There have been over the years dozens of girlfriends and female friends whom I introduced into nude lifestyle, usually in such manner that first making them comfy in privacy and then going more social. Always worked, sometimes slower process, sometimes faster, depending on person. Even in random cases with fems from more restrictive societies in regard to nudity like US, AUS and so on, often after initial strong opposition, some social nudity has been surprisingly easy, even surprising me. Most important is to be natural, logical, not pushy and keep it simple and nice.

There also people who fail to have any interest in being nude with others or even alone outside sex and shower. With such people getting into situations like simple sauna experience (in privacy better for starters than in some public bathhouse), where very difficult NOT to be nude in somewhat social but not sexual manner might be good start. Sunbathing nude in private spot like nature, empty stretch of beach, garden or balcony would work, too. Or skinny dipping in private setting.

Most important is to use a psychological evaluation of a person and avoid thing that cause a conditional reaction, if already achieved dead end thanks to prejudices. Such signal words may be "nudism", "Naturism", "nude sunbathing", "being naked" or whatever. With reluctant ones nudity has to be approached through avoiding words that raise their defense mechanisms and focus on activity itself, secondary that it is, will be or has to be nude. Can be very simple like walking from bedroom to bathroom and when coming back, dropping into kitchen or sitting down to watch TV or listen to the music without putting clothes on. Just by giving positive example and acting naturally one can achieve a lot.

I am not suggesting that there would not be "hopeless cases", but I am stating that plenty of those who considered "hopeless" are just not rightly brought into enlightenment.

firstly thanks for all the positive comments so far they have been helpful. To the few that have been offended, sorry, its just her view point which evryone is entitled to. My wife and I have no problem seeing each other nude, and I should have probably said that before we got married I did encourage her to try some nude sunbathing in my garden. It was a one off and she wasnt comfortable. I guess her thoughts are very clear now. However I have been known to be very persistent and I will try again even just to be nude in the garden again. We will see. But, thanks again to those positive comments, I will try an put some to use, at least I enjoy the nudist lifestyle.

Ok so I am sure that there are other forum posts on here regarding this but I can't find them so I will start this one, and hopefully get some ideas.I had a dream the other night that myself, my wife and family went to a nudist resort for our summer holidays-apart from myself none of my family are nudists in any way. It was very vivid. My middle child who is normally very private was open to the nudist holiday, in my dream I could not belieev my luck that we were going to a nudist resort. When I awoke sadly I realised it was a dream. Anyway as the day was progressing I thought why not try my luck and raise the possibilty of doing something to introduce my wife to nudism, so I mentioned my dream and asked her if she consider trying it. She has always known I was interested and knows that for a long time before we started going out and even after that I would go to nude beaches. Well I was told that all nudists are pervs, that they are all swingers, and really ugly and overweight and well it went on and on. I am very aware that she was correct with some points such as pervs etc, but I tried to explain that in nudism it does not matter how people look, but no matter how hard I tried it was going no where. So here I am not sure which way to go now, I would like to be able to share the lifestyle that we all enjoy with her and not feel like one of those single males that are here for the wrong reasons, because I am not single or here for the wrong reasons!Aanyway I am getting off track. Any thoughts would be good and much appreciated.

I'm so sorry your wife has all these misconceptions about nudism/naturism.  There are two articles I highly recommend.  The first is "the reluctant partner brochure" This document was written by one of the members here, Cheri Donna.  Cheri is a long time activist for nudism.
The second article is  This is a long document (65 pages) but well worth the read.
Reading both of these may change your wife's perspective.  Good luck!
Jen

Sorry, not sure why the link didn't work, let me try again:

205 Arguments and Observations in Support of Naturism

The Reluctant Partner Brochure

Jen

Thanks for the info i will have a read and pass it on.

I am reposting on this thread, a post originally submitted by Philfreeeuk on the thread My Story , just in case the My Story thread is deleted by the OP as suggested by SteveinKona:


RE: My story
 

This may help you if you can get your partner to read it.

It's a letter that jackieinoz sent to the "Go Natural" Magazine.

(If you think it unwise for her to see this thread, it is also on my profile as a blog.)

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Naturism, Nudity, Nudism. Call it what you like...it put the fear of God into me. Anyone that could walk around naked, let alone socialise naked, in my eyes, could only be one thing, a pervert, and a deviate. Someone not quite right! BUT here lies the opening of not only my eye's but my mind as well. So sit back and perhaps you may enjoy reading about my ride from "Textile" to "Naturist."

Having met the love of my life, I thought life could no longer throw me the proverbial curve ball. I had all I could ever want, a man that loved me, and a man that I loved, but whoa up, that curve ball was bearing down at me at a rapid rate. It started slowly, a few hints here, an Internet site there, and the odd, "hey honey this wouldnt be so bad would it" thrown in for good measure. This old prude was less than pleased; I called him everything from an exhibitionist to the much more forceful pervert.

No way Jose was I going down the Naturist path that he was so intent on becoming a part of. However after much cajoling (and with my mind firmly decided that it just wasn't going to be a part of our lives) and a trip of 20 minutes all the way in stony silence between us, we arrived at "that" place. Sadly the initial visit was far from congenial, my man, my safety net if you like was whipped away from me, and I was serendipitously (in my mind) paraded from camp site to camp site to be introduced. I hated it...I WANTED OUT OF THERE! Some months later (God only knows why) I decided to try once again. It could not have been any different if I had of wished it.

There was no pressure, everyone was exceptionally friendly, and I was actually made to feel welcome and a part of this little community. My man and I then rented the cabin for a week of total bliss, there was no-one there just he and I and the sounds of the cows lowing in the back paddock, birds chirping gaily every morning and the scent of pure fresh air. Slowly during this period of awakening, I came to accept, and perhaps understand, the Naturist way of life. The bliss of clothes-free living, it was a true awakening for me.

We now own our own little wee cabin, and we spend many a pleasant weekend amongst real people who have become real friends. I'm still not quite "there", but I am making head roads, and we now have a wonderful, active social life. Thank you to my man and to those that have taught me that it really is a natural way of life.

And just as an aside. I was sooooo very aware of every flaw of my body, from the cellulite to the stretch marks to the scars from numerous operations, to the flabby skin from massive weight loss, but do you know what? Not once have I seen the perfect body at our club or any of the other clubs we have visited. There is no perfect body, I have finally discovered that. Start at being nude together at home, lock the doors pull the curtains and just enjoy each other's nakedness, build up the trust from there, perhaps you could even venture out into your backyard, make it fun pack a picnic lunch, spread a blanket down and enjoy the sunshine. Gentle, gentle, little wee steps towards perhaps a day visit to a club close by.

Just my humble thoughts but I do so hope it helps.

jackieinoz

Your story nudeaussie,

 

it is all the same overhere.