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RagazzoLA

RagazzoLA

Barefoot [26] | 11 months ago | More Info

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Male | Los Angeles, California United States | 37

to tell a friend or not to tell a friend...

I'm trying to figure out how to tell a new friend that I'm a nudist. Here is the situation.  I have now been renting out my spare room to guests on www.airbnb.com and I have found a guy that wants to rent my room when his place is being rented on the same site - he's rented from me before and I usually stay clothed out of respect.  He's stayed with me probably 5 times now and I'm always clothed.  He'll be renting from me for sure in the future.  OH, btw, he's Straight and 26 years old, but totally okay with me being Gay, has NO issue with it whatsoever.  :-)Well, recently, he's stated that he doesn't mind if I rent the room while he's here, and he would just sleep in my room  - I offered my bed at first and that I would sleep on the floor.  Well, this creates two problems.  I sleep naked, he sleeps in boxers, shorts and a t-shirt.  He's gotten more relaxed about changing his clothes around me over the last few weeks...  He won't fully get naked around me, but he will change from work clothes to his sleep clothes in front of me.  He's not overtly shy, but nor is he an exhibitionist either.  If he is going to be staying with me more often, I want to feel okay about walking around the house naked, sleeping, walking from shower to room naked, etc..How do I broach this subject with him?  Should I start slow and say I sleep naked? or???  Please Help! Oh, and he's also becoming a really dear friend so I don't want to jeopardize that in any way.
Thanks

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Topless [55] | 11 months ago | More Info

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Male | ., Madrid Spain | 37

RE: to tell a friend or not to tell a friend...

As I understand it, its a bit complicated situation... I see that you only know this man from a few days and as you say he have no problems with change his clothes in front of you, maybe due he is use to be naked around other men in locker rooms... or maybe not, but if you think about it, it is not usuall to find a man who change or get undressed to underwear in front a strange man without problems... and more if he know the other man is gay...  the most commom act will be change himself in the bathroom or other  place where he can have a bit of intimity... but if he by his own have this lack of this kind of intimity may be he wont have problems with have a nudist roommate... you have to be sure that you want to stay naked IN YOUR OWN HOUSE, because at last he is only a man that rent you a room... but if you have some kind of feeling further than a friendship you will be in a trouble if he is really a straight man...
Talk about nudist beaches, you live in CA most of people know about nudist life stile in this area... start to sleep naked without give any importance... get out from bathroom with a towel or go around the house covered only with towel... but all you do, do it without any kind of flirting or maybe he get scared
zakandsam

zakandsam

Super Nudist [816] | 11 months ago | More Info

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Male | Veliko Tarnovo, Bulgaria Bulgaria | 43

RE: to tell a friend or not to tell a friend...

Just be nude in your own place- if you don't make an issue then he won't.
Philfreeeuk

Philfreeeuk

Ultra Nudist [3499] | 11 months ago | More Info

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#4

Male | Canterbury, Kent United Kingdom | 60

I Philfreeeeeee ..... Do you?

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Link to duplicate post. ... trying to figure out
ravensflyinnow

ravensflyinnow

Super Nudist [693] | 11 months ago | More Info

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Male | Long Beach, California United States | 47

RE: to tell a friend or not to tell a friend...

Tell your friend that you are a nudist...Its nothing to be ashamed of. Also tell him that you have been clothed on his account, that when he's not there, you are completely naked.  Ask him what he would be comfortable with. He might surprise you and say...sure be naked. Maybe he his hiding his nudity from you. Discuss it, this won't come between your friendship as long as there is mutual respect between both of you. Good luck!! and if you have anymore brunches or want a naked bud to hang out with by the pool...please contact me.. I am really in need of some naked pool time.. Hugs, Raven
notwuk

notwuk

Barefoot [22] | 11 months ago | More Info

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Male | London, London United Kingdom | 42

RE: to tell a friend or not to tell a friend...

The first thing is that sleeping nude is not odd... I would say that nearly all my male friends sleep nude and none of them are nudists (as far as I know). There's nothing unusual about it and you should continue to do that... it's also a great way to introduce your flatmate to the idea of seeing you nude - waking around the bedroom, going to and from the bathroom etc.
Secondly, there's nothing to be ashamed of about being a nudist, but I can understand that it can be awkward telling someone you live with especially if they're not nudists. My first forays into nudity were on holiday, at the beach, by the pool etc. - these all seemed to be natural places to be nude, however, I couldn't walk around my own flat (which I live in alone) nude; it just felt odd. Similarly I can't see myself going to someone's house just to sit around nude... this is something that, I hope will change over time, but I do understand your concerns in telling your flatmate especially if you want to walk around your house nude - as you being nude can make it very awkward for your flatmate.
Take the process a bit slowly... mention being a nudist (maybe invite him to a nude swim) and slowly be nude a little bit more often and see how he takes it.
Good luck and do keep us posted on how it develops
Jabbari

Jabbari

Butt Naked [413] | 11 months ago | More Info

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#7

Male | Jersey City, New Jersey United States | 18

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RE: to tell a friend or not to tell a friend...

it a nachural thing a man sleepin nude, gettin up nude, goin to bathroom nude, toweliin after shower nude, shavin nude - aint got to be livin nude alla time for a man doin these thing nude. so do them normal nude thing nude wen he around. he soundin like he also doin all normal thing all mens doin nude even they aint nachurist. if he a true friend then be up front - tell him u livin nude - this u way - this how u roll - this how u happy. mebbe show him this website. mebbe show him this forum. mebbe explain aint nothin sexual since the gay paranoid thing wat make most boi nervous who be gettin nervous about another dude bein nude. im thinkin cuz my nude upbringin im a lil more bolder then most about this type a thing. aint nobody make me live any ways but my way since aint hurtin nobody. anyways this how im thinkin on this. hope it help. peace, jabbari

uechin11

uechin11

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Male | Kincumber ( Central Coast ), NSW Australia | 55

Be nude ,the garment of honesty will not expose anyone. safely wear it.<br>

RE: to tell a friend or not to tell a friend...

I can't see any big deal about telling friends, that I'm a nudist and it's being my lifestyle, that I'm living at home naked, even if in a share situation, going to nudist beaches, skinny dipping, nude bush hiking, nude driving, naked yoga....and so what?...It can be either accepted for it, or not. The important thing is, I'm feeling good about myself.
Jabbari

Jabbari

Butt Naked [413] | 7 months ago | More Info

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Male | Jersey City, New Jersey United States | 18

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thats rite pa. if they u frends then they acceptin u n livin naked how we livin so frend acceptin that or they aint frends in my humble opinion.
AndyDi

AndyDi

Super Nudist [703] | 7 months ago | More Info

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#10

Male | Temecula, California United States | 60

Loves being naked, plays well with others!

RE: to tell a friend or not to tell a friend...

I've told all "my" friends and haven't had one that had a problem with it.  If I were in your shoes ... I'd be upfront and honest.  The problem I see is two things;  1) he accepts your nudism or he doesn't, 2) he comes to live with you or he doesn't.  You can curb your way of life but are you willing to live with someone that is against your way of life and will not tolerate it at all?  If the stay is short term ... you can probably curb it for a short time but if it's long term ... is that something you're willing to do for a long period of time?  We have a similar issue we may be confronted with but ... I have 3 clubs within 45 mins of our driveway and I can always get away ...  but I would still tell those coming to live that this is who we are and what we do, but that we will be respectful of them as long as they respect us in return.  They will either come and stay or they won't.
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