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My bone popped up and down a lot that day and nobody gave me any sht about it so I paid it no mind either........I think a lot of old school types got issues with all that. ikr? haha thanks god the world changing.....And that obviously threatens so many. Pay it no mind...

You guys are all the same person, right?

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StevieLorna wrote:

You guys are all the same person, right?

I think they might be. I just clicked on the user profile for both of them and found myself blocked. ... the only two users who have blocked me, to my knowledge. I guess "they" don't like to hear what I'm saying.

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Woodsman I get the feeling that the three of them (maybe more) are recently created profile by another long standing member to help him promote a pipe dream he has.

All three have blocked me too.

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Woodsman I get the feeling that the three of them (maybe more) are recently created profile by another long standing member to help him promote a pipe dream he has.All three have blocked me too.

Why? Because they are African American and have an opinion different than yours?

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Mary Magdalene loved hard ones, thats why she hung around with all those dudes.

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Beautifully stated!

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Beautifully stated!

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Having been to several different nude beaches and resorts, my wife and I have seen erections at every one and were not offended or threatened by them. Most of the guys were trying to cover them or roll over. I know ,at times, it can happen without warning. It happened to me on a nude beach. I was talking with my wife when she pointed and said you might want to roll over. My dick was standing straight up. For some reason, the Viagra was kicking in when it wasnt wanted Embaressed somewhat, I looked to see if anyone noticed. The lady next to me had put her book down and was smiling. She looked at my dick, then went back to reading. I rolled over, but thought she didn't seem to be bothered at all. Maybe because she didn't see it as a threat, and had seen them before. It does happen through no fault of the owner. I guess its what you do with it that matters

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Funny how its almost always single men who are advocating for erections.

Are you under the impression that married men have a different sensibility? Does the wedding ceremony rewire a man's brain? I don't think you mean single men are defective rejects in life because a person must be married to be happy. As a gay man, things may appear simpler than they are from my perspective, but some patterns have firmly stuck out. For example, I have seen straight men leap to do many, many things at a woman's behest. Things at which he scoffed and belittled other men for doing before he too gave homage to the ancient power exchange. It's not uncommon that the mere appearance of a fully clothed woman with big boobs will distract a straight man into dopiness.

So I suggest to you than it's not always the single men who are _________________________________. It's always the married men who are being diplomatic, for the sake of their marriage.

Objecting to boners is about fear. Historically, before the development of effective contraception on-demand for all, sex was a mortally dangerous affair for women. Not necessarily the intercourse, although arousal and aggression are never far apart. Rather, the consequences of sex. Even the desired outcome - creating another human being, could be daunting. If pregnancy did not follow, women were unfairly considered defective. Or if there was miscarriage. Or if the baby was not male. For women, a few awkward moments would be a life altering event whose outcome was often disastrous. This is why boners are scary and should not be flaunted when women are around, and why male nudity is generally considered more offensive than female nudity. "The pill" didn't fully eliminate all of those dangers and it certainly didn't eliminate women's fears. It only reduced them and allowed us innovative humans to develop the ideas that nudity has no relation to sex , that the "natural" state of being has been corrupted by a shame-wielding textile industry, and that any standard of privacy is an oppressive conspiracy. But pretending that these very real fears are only a thing of the past seems a bit delusional to me.

For 99.9% of human existence, boners and naked men in general were harbingers of doom for women. Their liberation in this regard is very recent, and a bit illusory, because all the same dangers are still considerable for every woman confronted by the imminent attachment of a fertilized egg to her uterus. The fear is genuine and residual, not regressive, and should be respected by us men. Truly I tell you, my fellow boner-wielders, the feminine sensibility is exactly as it should be. Women are more in tune with the enduring fundamentals of human life. They are better at creating essential comfort in marginal situations. They are more circumspect. They are more aware of the importance of children, and even the young children know who they should stay close to. So it is a wise husband who remembers the simple rule: Happy wife, happy life.

(For those who feel their hackles or schmeckles setting up toward the generalizations I've made, do know that as a gay man, I am aware of exceptions. I contend they are uncommon and therefore highlight rather than disprove the pattern.)

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One of Dad's sex talks was about erections, In short he said, to avoid the embarrassment of getting one when you don't want it, just keep your mind out of the gutter. Yes, that was a struggle in the early years. By junior high they would happen during the day because of a full bladder, the same as my night erections still do to this day....Self control is possible if you are willing to try.

You are contradicting yourself. You say erections are controllable yet "they would happen...because of a full bladder". I've only ever heard them preventing the draining of a bladder, not being caused by one but I suppose its plausible. So you have reported this instance of an involuntary erection. Can't you imagine that other involuntary causes may exist?

It seems your Dad led you to believe that "getting one when you don't want it" is a character flaw. Labeling sexual arousal as "the gutter" is a way of internalizing shame as a tool of distraction. The problem is that internalized shame in response to involuntary bodily functions has other undesirable consequences beyond the momentary distraction it provides.

If fact, I don't think I've heard a claim of voluntary tumescence that doesn't depend on shame. Is there such?

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