A different "erection" question.

I usually don't discuss "erection questions" because it's been "done to death." But recently I was confronted with a different kind of erection issue.

So I was at a nudist venue (which will remain confidential because the venue is actually a very nice one and we plan on returning) with just three other couples. The other couples were all newbies; and amongst them was a younger couple. At first I thought my eyes were deceiving me; but as I got to socialize with the male part of the young couple, it became pretty clear that my eyes were not deceiving me: he was frequently full erect.

After a few interactions with him it became clear that there was no "agenda" behind his erections. It was so consistent that it struck me as a possible case of priapism. They guy was actually so friendly and disarming that no one seemed really bothered by it. I was mostly concerned with my wife's comfort level around him; but even she seemed to understand that this was not something to take umbrage to. She socialized and was friendly with him without getting uncomfortable; much to her credit.

So at one point we were all sitting around chatting. The female part of the young couple started talking about wanting to explore nudism more and try a nudist resort in our area. My wife volunteered her experiences and recommendations; I mostly stayed silent. Because I was thinking to myself the entire time that he might be accepted at our current venue; but his "condition" might create some issues for them at a family-oriented nudist resort. In all probability, he might not even last 10 mins before being promptly confronted and asked to leave.

That was a pickle (no pun intended) for me. I feel I "failed" a bit by not pulling him aside and explaining that a trip to a nudist resort might result in expulsion. On the other hand I didn't want to embarrass the guy.

What was the right course of action? Letting the guy find out the "hard way" (again...no pun intended!), or explain to him that perhaps the family-oriented nudist resort might not be the best place for him?

This topic was edited
RE:A different "erection" question.

My personal opinion, maybe you should have spoken to him about his condition in private like you said that way he wouldnt have been embarrassed, hell there maybe a reason for it whos to know.

This post was edited
RE:A different "erection" question.

I usually don't discuss "erection questions" because it's been "done to death." But recently I was confronted with a different kind of erection issue.So I was at a nudist venue (which will remain confidential because the venue is actually a very nice one and we plan on returning) with just three other couples. The other couples were all newbies; and amongst them was a younger couple. At first I thought my eyes were deceiving me; but as I got to socialize with the male part of the young couple, it became pretty clear that my eyes were not deceiving me: he was frequently full erect.After a few interactions with him it became clear that there was no "agenda" behind his erections. It was so consistent that it struck me as a possible case of priapism. They guy was actually so friendly and disarming that no one seemed really bothered by it. I was mostly concerned with my wife's comfort level around him; but even she seemed to understand that this was not something to take umbrage to. She socialized and was friendly with him without getting uncomfortable; much to her credit.So at one point we were all sitting around chatting. The female part of the young couple started talking about wanting to explore nudism more and try a nudist resort in our area. My wife volunteered her experiences and recommendations; I mostly stayed silent. Because I was thinking to myself the entire time that he might be accepted at our current venue; but his "condition" might create some issues for them at a family-oriented nudist resort. In all probability, he might not even last 10 mins before being promptly confronted and asked to leave.That was a pickle (no pun intended) for me. I feel I "failed" a bit by not pulling him aside and explaining that a trip to a nudist resort might result in expulsion. On the other hand I didn't want to embarrass the guy.What was the right course of action? Letting the guy find out the "hard way" (again...no pun intended!), or explain to him that perhaps the family-oriented nudist resort might not be the best place for him?
I guess it all depends on the comfort level of your acquaintance and dialog.

What really stuck out about your story was that no one was offended. None of you persecuted him for his condition. There was concern for him rather than disdain, that he may be offended if it came up in conversation, not the other way around.

If the opportunity arose in a private conversation,perhaps broaching the subject of how "first Time" experiences can be quite stimulating or sensory overload, to see if he responded regarding his condition.

A safe way would be to recommend they read all the protocols regarding any future resort considerations before they go. Almost all the ones I've read address erections somewhere in their rules, so they would know what to expect in advance.

Me, I may have had a more difficult time ignoring the elephant in the room. I think I would have approached it with a witty humorous segue to bring it up in conversation, one on one of course. Then talk about some of my experiences, before I gave him a "heads up" as to what to expect in other venues.

I totally understand your reservations. It could be a touchy subject if not handled properly.

P.S. All my puns are intended!

This post was edited
RE:A different "erection" question.

No one among the three couples was offended. You say the guy is personable and presumably socially aware. My guess is that he's likely to be aware enough to intuit just how relaxed he can be in various contexts, even if that's happening at a subconscious level. The perennial erection thread is really about social obliviousness, and that's not an issue here. My guess is he'll be fine.

This post was edited
RE:A different "erection" question.

I usually don't discuss "erection questions" because it's been "done to death." But recently I was confronted with a different kind of erection issue.So I was at a nudist venue (which will remain confidential because the venue is actually a very nice one and we plan on returning) with just three other couples. The other couples were all newbies; and amongst them was a younger couple. At first I thought my eyes were deceiving me; but as I got to socialize with the male part of the young couple, it became pretty clear that my eyes were not deceiving me: he was frequently full erect.After a few interactions with him it became clear that there was no "agenda" behind his erections. It was so consistent that it struck me as a possible case of priapism. They guy was actually so friendly and disarming that no one seemed really bothered by it. I was mostly concerned with my wife's comfort level around him; but even she seemed to understand that this was not something to take umbrage to. She socialized and was friendly with him without getting uncomfortable; much to her credit.So at one point we were all sitting around chatting. The female part of the young couple started talking about wanting to explore nudism more and try a nudist resort in our area. My wife volunteered her experiences and recommendations; I mostly stayed silent. Because I was thinking to myself the entire time that he might be accepted at our current venue; but his "condition" might create some issues for them at a family-oriented nudist resort. In all probability, he might not even last 10 mins before being promptly confronted and asked to leave.That was a pickle (no pun intended) for me. I feel I "failed" a bit by not pulling him aside and explaining that a trip to a nudist resort might result in expulsion. On the other hand I didn't want to embarrass the guy.What was the right course of action? Letting the guy find out the "hard way" (again...no pun intended!), or explain to him that perhaps the family-oriented nudist resort might not be the best place for him?

Nudony,

You and I have been participating in online nudist discussions and involved in social nudism for decades, most times on the same websites and have visited some of the same naturist places. You are aware of the reaction many old time nudists have about erections and how those that have them and don't do something about them, will be viewed and treated. No matter what anyone's personal view is on erections at nude venues, not ALL male and female nudists are as accepting as one would think, as you are well aware and have witnessed here and at nude beaches, clubs and resorts.

With that, I would say that if you like this person and consider them a friend or perspective friend, give him a heads up about what some nudists will think and what some clubs and resorts might do if he walks around or lounges with an erection and doesn't take the expected steps to be discreet. If he thinks it's okay to have an erection at all times at a nude club or resort, he may encounter those that are strongly opposed and he may think it must be okay at all nudist places.

This post was edited
RE:A different "erection" question.

I will agree with Andy. A friendly talk may have been embarrassing for him, But nothing like what could lye ahead in public view.

This post was edited
RE:A different "erection" question.

You are not giving thus young guy a fair chance...remenbervwhen we were young once....i am sure he can't help it....msybe one odmfvthe guys can gave a casual chat....it all normal to have an erction

This post was edited
RE:A different "erection" question.

I imagine once he gets used to socialising nude this will become less of an issue.

Interested to know what the rules and expected behaviour at the venue you encountered him differ to the one you are fearful he would be ejected from.

From what I know of uk clubs and venues, all have very similar rules and attitudes.

This post was edited
RE:A different "erection" question.

Its fortunate for him that among the 4 couples that no one was upset. Of course theres an equal chance it could have ended badly.
Whats interesting to me is that he didnt try to hide it . Even a newbie (I think chances are anyway) would have been a little embarrassed to be walking around with an erection for most of the event. So the fact that he nor his wife seemed to appear unnerved by it is kind of strange in my opinion . And I understand you didnt know him well enough to say much. Ideally though, like the others , rather than having a serious discussion about it and embarrassing him , that a little man to man light / fun chat about it and expectations with a bigger crowd would have been appropriate.

This post was edited
RE:A different "erection" question.

I've had to experience with 'newbies' at resorts. Both were younger males, 30s I would say. With the first guy we talked for a bit and yes he was getting a good semi but not out right hard on. I didn't mention anything and it went away. A discussion late on, again he got semi. Nothing side. A bit later, another male member pointed to me that my 'friend' was sporting a good size semi if not hard. We had kinda a laugh about it. Short after that he was talked to from a staff member of the location. He looked rather upset so I went over and made small talk. He was a bit confused why nobody had mention to him that his erection was offending. I had no response but to say, it happens, just roll over. Shortly after that, guy left and never seen him again.

The second time, talking to a couple, the guy showed some wood, granted been smaller in that department it wasn't as noticeable as a guy with more to show. Wife and I left them. We later walked by them, guy was again erect. I stopped, made some small talk and asked guy that if he wanted to see more of the place. He agreed and we walked over to horse shoe game area, we played a few games. I did then take the time to explain to him that getting an erection would result in a staff member coming over to talk to him. I was grateful that I had taken time to mention to him about it. He said that he would take time to hide himself when he felt one coming. They come back a few times after that first visit.

It also depends on the situation you are at. Our male nude group, we have newbies join our group and we take time to explain that erections will happen, just to let them be. In order words, don't help them along. For the most part, we as guys understand them but in a social nudism gathering, we stress that sexual activities are not part of the 'social nudism'.

This post was edited
RE:A different "erection" question.

Luann and I saw one of these situations several years ago. The young man I'm thinking early 20's had the "condition" at the pool. It was his 1st time ever to visit a club. He was not trying to make a show or be intentionally exploitive what so ever. Woman that we sit and are friends with brought our attn to it and mentioned she was going to report him to management. I told her to let it go and the reasons why, he's young, it's his first time anywhere like this and I felt he was harmless which Luann felt the same.

Well she could not contain herself and reported him. Management did have a discussion with him. The young man left no doubt in an embarrassed state and I have never seen him again. He didn't get kicked out by management he just left. Just recently same woman saw another infraction and told us about it. No matter what I said to her she could or would not refrain from alerting Management. She said she just can't stand broken rules. I doubt that couple will ever be back. The kicker to me is she has been to Hedo ever year annually.

This post was edited

This site is only available to users 18 and over and we use cookies

We use cookies for functionality, social media, and google analytics. To view our cookie policy please view Our Cookie Policy