My nudist experience without wife

I'm a long time married guy who has always enjoyed nudity but very restricted due to the opportunities on where I can be naked. Recently while I was on a vacation I had the chance to visit a nudist resort twice. Had no problem in stripping down. So I enjoyed the freedom of hiking, walking around, and hanging out by the pool. Loved the feel of the warm wind and sun on my body, especially after exiting the pool.

I did not tell my wife about the experience because she would not understand on how liberating it is being naked. She has tolerated my nudity at home and says nothing about me being naked in the backyard. I feel there is nothing sexual about it and that I fully plan on returning to a nude resort next time I have the opportunity when I travel. But I don't like having to keep this part of my life a secret from my wife.

Anyone with similar situations? And how do you cope with this secret?

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hello,
i have a similar situation to you, in fact, i think you will find many guys in the same situation.
i would really like my wife to join me at our local nude beach, but i have suggested it a couple of times and the response is always the same. when i examine my reasons for enjoying it, i have to be honest and say that i like looking at other people nude. i enjoy the beauty of the human body, both male and female. I love looking at my wife, and i would enjoy others seeing her nude as well.

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Very similar to my situation. My wife is fine with me being nude at home unless we have company. She knows that I sometimes go to a nude beach but I often just say I am going to the beach.

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Many, many guys sneak off to be nude with other folks without telling their significant other or anyone else. Most of them will rationalize their decision to Justify the true reason for their escapade. Sadly, most of them again will not be honest with you or themselves about the issue.

From a true psychological view, there is a lot more to the enjoyment people get be nude, especially outdoors, with others who are not their spouse or significant other. When I was working on my PhD, I did some research on the subject of why guys, particularly those married for more than 20 years, experience being nude with others more than younger, single guys.

Unfortunately, the answer is quite complex. It involves genetics, brain chemistry, socioeconomic dynamics, religious background and more. The best part, it was a great excuse to be able to hang out at nude resorts and beaches, as well as getting to meet aNd talk with bunch of other nude guys and girls. I had an awesome time writing about it.

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My honest advice is just to tell her. I know it's easier said than done (really, I do, lol) but if you love her and respect her, then deception is not something you should have between you.

She already knows you enjoy nudism, why do you fear she would be upset over your expanding the scope of it? When's the last time you asked her to join you in it? Maybe she'd like the idea of trying it in a controlled setting such as a resort? Some resorts are clothing optional, maybe she could accompany you while clothed so that you still have the time and experience together?

If you sneak off to do it, and she finds out that way, it seems like something dishonest and might make her insecure.

Ultimately, you know her better than anyone here does or can; if you think she'd react so badly that it would imperil your relationship, then I guess... you're just in a crappy situation, and I feel for you.

Personally, I would be honest, even if reluctantly, because ultimately deception is just not healthy in a relationship, and it's a fundamental undermining of trust - even when it's an unknown deception.

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I'm a long time married guy who has always enjoyed nudity but very restricted due to the opportunities on where I can be naked. Recently while I was on a vacation I had the chance to visit a nudist resort twice. Had no problem in stripping down. So I enjoyed the freedom of hiking, walking around, and hanging out by the pool. Loved the feel of the warm wind and sun on my body, especially after exiting the pool.I did not tell my wife about the experience because she would not understand on how liberating it is being naked. She has tolerated my nudity at home and says nothing about me being naked in the backyard. I feel there is nothing sexual about it and that I fully plan on returning to a nude resort next time I have the opportunity when I travel. But I don't like having to keep this part of my life a secret from my wife.
I was in a similar situation as you 4 years ago. after I visited the nude beach, I decided to tell her. Her response was "why didn't you take me?"
Not at all what I expected.
My attitude since becoming a nudist is that I'm 60 years old, If I want to experience something different in life, I've earned the right to try anything I want. My motto became "Because I Can"! No regrets, no "what if's". Bucket list stuff, before I'm too old to do it or enjoy it.
If she respects you, she'll understand! If she doesn't, then why care? Just do it anyway! But you shouldn't need to hide it from her.
Every relationship has it's own dynamics, I know, but having the freedom to be who you are is liberating. Especially once you've reached your 60s.

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I am in team honesty. But... every couple needs some layer of autonomy as well. I suggest telling your spouse, but not necessarily asking. You can say things like "I've come to understand this is a part of who I am, and I need to be able to express myself in this manner...". If she respects you, she may be confused, skeptical, etc, but she swill not protest. You make sure she knows she is welcome to join you to see what it's all about (she can stay clothed), and you're willing to accomodate her insecurity/skepticism about it for a little while. But in time, she will need to wrap her head around the fact that it's not about sex or other people, it's about the self.

I think what makes couples more interesting is that they have lives outside of their relationship. I am sure she has interests and pursuits that are not yours as well, right? Well, carve out time for each of you to take trips alone, visit friends/family, go do things independent of each other. If you spend your entire life attached at the hip, what is there to talk about? But if you are out having your own adventures, you'll get to call home excited or share good stories/pictures when you get home.

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I think what makes couples more interesting is that they have lives outside of their relationship. I am sure she has interests and pursuits that are not yours as well, right? Well, carve out time for each of you to take trips alone, visit friends/family, go do things independent of each other. If you spend your entire life attached at the hip, what is there to talk about? But if you are out having your own adventures, you'll get to call home excited or share good stories/pictures when you get home.

I agree with this completely and that's what we are doing. My wife has no problem with me going to the nude beach or resort. We've been married for 31 years now and she knows it's not about sex but of my love for being nude. My wife loves to salsa dance and I have no problem with her doing that. She has even gone on what they call "salsa Congresses" (dance weekends) with girlfriends and I'm okay with that.
We have worked together out of our house running our business for 30 years now and so around each other for most of 24/7. When I do go off on my nude weekends to Cypress Cove she says it's like a vacation for her as well. We are even thinking about getting a small camper and she said that way when you do go to your nude resort you won't have to sleep in a tent the whole time and maybe can stay a little longer. Apparently I'm a lot to take at times. :-)

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I understand completely I dont tell my wife eather I do hangout nude at home every day she doesnt know I go to nudist resorts Ive talked to her about going and of course she wont hear of it she wont have anything to do with being nude. But I sure do love it I get nude every chance I get Im not very close to a resort but at least I have nudist friends not to far and get to go over to there house and have cookouts and hangout nude with them.

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You covered it al my friend-nicely done.
I have several married buddies that enjoy hanging nude with other dudes as the wife does not allow it at home.
Yes, many discover the nudist need after 20+ years of marriage. Not sure if it's lack of sex at home that drives this urge to hang nude with others or they just happen to be late bloomers~
welcome one and all~
Bill

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Sounds all to familiar. Ill keep trying hoping one day that shell join me or understand that being naked around other people is ok.

Wish me luck!

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