More difficult for men?

I can only approach the topic of nudism from my own experience, but I wonder if it is harder for men--at least in the United States--to find nudist friends who aren't into sex. Throw in a commitment to follow Jesus and live according to the Bible, and it seems almost impossible. As believers, we should ... more than anyone else ... recognize that shame in our bodies is from the fall and is not God's design. I just read Meeting at the River, and it was astonishing how much Christians have accepted nudity up until our modern era. Now, it is automatically interpreted as pornographic or disrespecting the body. In my own life, I have had a few other Christians who have supported my desire to be a nudist, but none of them have felt comfortable actually being nude around others themselves.

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RE:More difficult for men?

I'm actually kind of in the same boat, with the added fun of dating.

Since I'm a young-ish male nudist, I think the initial impression people get of me is that I'm just in it for sex. But I'm someone who very much wants to remain celibate until marriage.

It's difficult on both fronts. I'm finding there aren't a lot of nudist women who are Christians. Most girls on here (if they indeed are real) are bisexual, gay, long-divorced cougars, or swingers (if that's what they choose as the lifestyle--I hope it works out for ya but I also hope you find God).

I am finding some Christian women who are somewhat open to the idea of nudism. I would sometimes share on the first date I enjoy nudism, but I've been refraining from that lately unless I hear an undertone of acceptance of nudity. Like I was having a video chat with a girl who was saying she wanted to live on a farm with a lot of land and privacy...turns out she loved being naked.

But more times than not I think nudity is associated with alternative lifestyles. It's not imperative that my wife enjoys nudity, but I think I would at least like a little acceptance that I'll be wandering around the house naked as much as I can, and that the trust that when I go to a clothing optional beach I'll be doing nothing more than reading a book and playing in the water.

I'm talking with a girl now. She's not a Christian but we have a great chemistry as friends so I'll just remain friends. It's so sad how she just expects men to be sending messages of their genitals and beg for a shot of her boobs. In a way I'm trying to show her that not every guy is trying to have sex with you. Some guys like you for you and just happen to like hanging out naked with a girl without the intention of sex.

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I was fortunate to have a friend from the same church as me with whom I had the opportunity to share moments of nudity during the bath and on some moments we traveled together. But it is still taboo for many Christian men. Many confuse it with immorality, sin, homosexuality and only see nudity under the bias of sex.

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It's hard for me to make nudist friends because all my guy friends are Christian and I don't bring it up.I was on a trip with a Christian guy friend once and slept nude. When I got up to go to the bathroom, he said he was offended and became angry. That made an impression on me.I'd be interested in hearing how members here make friends with other nudists.

Thats unfortunate that he reacted that way. Nudity shouldnt be a big deal, but even in the locker rooms guys wont change or strip for the sauna, but then you know they will send nudes. I will say, going to a Korean spa really helped me be more comfortable naked and not be ashamed of my body. I wish this was a topic you could feel comfortable discussing with other Christian men at church.

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I was fortunate to have a friend from the same church as me with whom I had the opportunity to share moments of nudity during the bath and on some moments we traveled together. But it is still taboo for many Christian men. Many confuse it with immorality, sin, homosexuality and only see nudity under the bias of sex.

Thats awesome that you had someone from church.

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I hope you find peace around the issue of nudity and Christian faith. I don't think they need to be in conflict with one another, but they often are in contemporary US Christianity. The Bible is a rich library of texts with a lot to pull from.

On one hand was Jesus enjoying how a woman massaged his feet with an exquisite balm and her long hair. Since he was human and had a penis, don't you think he was aroused? If he was not of sin and separation, why would he have felt shame over it if he wasn't giving false impressions to her or others? Couldn't he just enjoy the moment and isn't that what he preached?

On the other hand was Paul who thought of his body as the thorn in his side. Somehow he associated it more with the Fall than the beautiful creation story. That is separation, and separation is synonym for sin. I see this view in direct contrast to Jesus' teachings.

God created your body naked for a reason. It's perfect without clothes, at least given the right temperature. Enjoy it. Embrace its sensuality and nerve endings. Where's the borderline between sensual and sexual acts? Does it have something perhaps to do with intent rather than how others may categorize your motivations? What causes intimacy vs. separation from God and others? Maybe it's more important to go for the path of less separation of heart rather than intellectualize how behaviors may be misinterpreted by others out of their heart context. Everyone may be out to emulate Jesus, but few seem to have anything good to say about his friends. Have a heart and be of a heart worthy of being Jesus' friend, and the rest will follow. Good luck and blessings.

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