Well, technically this is not supposed to be a chat box, but the discussion forum of a ladies' group with very restricted membership. The problem is that TN's setting to close discussions to non members doesn't seem to work, yet another TN bug.
I thought I'd revive an old topic.
What do you ladies prefer, a slow steady luxury ride or something more fuel injected with real horsepower under the hood. ;-)
Just curious. And yes, a car analogy, seeing it's coming from one of the guys!
I bet I would have got more answers than you, FreeLee. I know, women are strange creatures but, even though the audience is the same, who asks the question is important. This is why in Cap, because I just wrote a 5th part of my review, in swingers clubs it's almost always the women who establish contact.
Or suppose I and hubby are dining with a couple of very close friends. We have discussed sex before and made silly jokes and mocking teasing and we are not exactly shy. If the girl asks me this question, I would laugh and immediately answer. If the guys asks it, well I may answer or I may not, but my bet is on not.
But I will answer your question as I am behind a screen and you have also answered many of my questions. I am not, and I think most women are not one-trick poneys or, to take your analogy, one-speed cars. There is a place for everything and I definitely do not disdain the latter. In fact, I probably like the latter more often than not.
Thank you for your openness areader. Just like men, we are all different down there. There are not many huge men and not many women who can take huge men without discomfort. What you see in porn are the exceptions. The tails of the curve.
My experience is far more limited than you would guess from my banter but I did have a (long-term) relation with a big guy. It was uncomfortable in most positions and painful in some. Rough sex was out of the question in basically all. Hubby is a great match for me - and I'm not saying this only because he may read this :).
I am very sensitive and very multiorgasmic from both kinds of stimulation but I do not use a dildo often. I don't even have one of the type you describe. My only dildo was offered to me by hubby and it's the kind with a big, vibrating ball-shaped massaging head. It doesn't get much use although it's very effective. But so are jacuzzi spots in a couple of German spas and yes, I can give addresses ;).
So kind of you ladies to be so forth coming. :-) I do find it fascinating, the differences between women.
Last year, I read the book "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski Ph.D. A New York Times best seller.
Annie wasn't real comfortable with it when it arrived at the door from Amazon, thinking I bought it for her. Then laughed when I told her she was welcome to read it but I get to read it first! Actually she was quite impressed!
It is an excellent read. The premise is that all women experience their sexual pleasure in different ways and they are ALL normal! I found it to be very educational and helpful.
I read it all, Annie about half. It was very informative, All the stories are of the same frankness as you ladies here.
I recommend it for everyone who has ever had questions of what makes women tick sexually or if you have wondered why you're not like someone else. Probably all of you!
A great read for the guys too as you will better understand your women.
BTW, it was really fun to read! :-) You are all so unique!
Thank you Carla for your openness. Of course we are all different and you see in porn some extraordinary performance, but I would bet that 90% of ladies see 6 to 7 inch with normal to decent girth as ideal, while 90% of men would want to be 10 inch with huge girth... You'd wonder whether they like more women or mares.
Many women use big toys and online profiles say they want men 10 inches or more so that is where it comes from that they want to be 10 inches or bigger. Many women want girth as well though since their toys are fat.
I don't get where women keep talking about 5-6 though. I am 7-7.5 and yet most men I have seen are bigger than me so I think people are underestimating sizes.
But there will always be men who want to be bigger than everyone else just to try to stand out and show off so your point is right in that regard but forget about 10, those guys want to be the 12 or more so that people will be in awe of them.
I'm short so if I had a big penis I would look like Pinocchio so don't want to be huge. And women who are so big they need a giant fat one would probably crush me anyway.
I don't think watching porn is harmful per se as long as you take it for what it is, a show. Entertainment. The problem is when you are a single guy, get your info about women from porn and don't understand the difference between some, many and most. Then you may lose the sense of proportions and enter into a vicious cercle of misunderstanding and rejection.