from a business perspective: they would have gotten my business - as in I would have been a paid member if it wasn't for a few of these things. I only had it hapoen to me once, but witnessed a lot of unfair treatment like that mentioned in this thread.
I also didn't like that I couldn't use the video chat type stuff on either my phone or tablet - laptop only. That just recently changed, it seems, but years too late. Even changed it's really of little use because, like so many other examples on here, it doesn't format in any sane way so if using the camera at all I can't see ANY text or maybe part of it, but not all or the name of who is sending it until i switch over...but then the cam is gone, etc. it's far too much work.
I understand having special features, and would probably list vid chat as one if it had ever worked properly, but I am super duper averse to this crap about having to upgrade to see photos - like even in groups. That's just cheap. I also made the mistake of using here to basically store a few self pics I liked to copy and keep later on a new phone or whatnot...but didn't get that they would now be forever watermarked with the site name over them. Was nonplussed with that. But yeah...it really pissed me of back when I uploaded some pics/vid material to a few groups I had joined only to discover that I couldnt even view my own shit there unless I upgraded.
And speakung of upgrades... it doesn't take long until seeing the UPGRADE message on every damn page no matter how many times you try to close it just wears me out and makes me feel almost adversarial to the notion of doing so.
It's sort of a shame, though, because all the ingredients are there for it to just be a spectacular site...or they sort of are. You can see what it could be, but isn't, and watching it sputter along without ever seeing a WOW. moment of progress happen is just frustrating. It just makes me feel like I'd be wasting money on something that won't ever really get where it needs to. I immediately envision getting these new features but still not getting to really enjoy them because the other people I want to engage can't use them on their end and that sort of crap.
So I'll pass.
Oh...and personally I'd rather be where I can just be an adult and not be "dick policed" and all that without necessarily having to completely go full sex - swinger - porno - rama, ya dig? I get thoroughly chapped by the sex and body shaming done around here - and I'm sorry but automatic scorn at erections and such just flat out IS body shaming. All that kind of crap irks me to the core. If someone behaves truly inappropriate to someone else in a very offensive or scary way, people should call them out and we should all have each other's backs. But if the mere sight if a boner is your problem, then COPE. A nudist should be able to handle the sight if a penis, and should appreciate an erection for what it is and stop furthering shame around it and stop promoting sexual stigma in general. No, nudity does not automatically equate to sex, but it doesn't require getting neutered, either.
ok im done now. rant over.