Stupid Sexual Questions

I guess it doesn't matter where you go, there will always be those that just can't help themselves. Asking questions that just have nothing to do with being a nudist. They just can't separate the two things. It bothers me to see them, but I know we my (nudist) never be able to rid ourselves of them. But I am always hopeful.

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I think until everyone experiences nudism, or anything different from "mainstream of life" there will always be questions leaning towards the negative, or unwanted, or misunderstood. Nudity, does bring up a large nest of issues because of cultural upbringings. Heck, I've moved 5000kms from my home town and the cultural differences are still amazing even though I'm living in the same continent!, lol

Oh well, perhaps we should still answer them, and maybe they will come across to our side of the fence?

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I think until everyone experiences nudism, or anything different from "mainstream of life" there will always be questions leaning towards the negative, or unwanted, or misunderstood. Nudity, does bring up a large nest of issues because of cultural upbringings. Heck, I've moved 5000kms from my home town and the cultural differences are still amazing even though I'm living in the same continent!, lol

Oh well, perhaps we should still answer them, and maybe they will come across to our side of the fence?

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It usually takes a while for people to parse out nudity from sexuality, because our culture forces the two things together. So when people encounter nudism for the first time, they think of it as a sexual situation requiring assessment of their bodies compared to others... what size their penises are, what size and shape their boobs are... because all those parts of their bodies have been either concealed or modified by underwear before. They're naturally confused, and it behooves us to be understanding and guide them away from that mindset.

It doesn't do any good to simply say "We don't talk about that!" Instead, we let them air their concerns and reassure them that those concerns are insignificant.

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what are stupid sexual questions? are they stupid or just not well-informed? or is "stupid" a label for others not feeling comfortable bringing them up. sexuality is a gift so there's nothing stupid about it!

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I have also seen so many stupid questions not only about sex but also asking if they should trim armpits or pubic hair lol

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Perhaps the schoolteachers adage that The only stupid question is the one you didnt ask. should apply?

Ive been a naturist for a long time now so Ive seen all the perennial questions come around again and again. But Im grateful that they do! Perhaps we need to occasionally remind ourselves that we should be delighted to see new naturists stepping out into the light and engaging in discussions etc - and we should make a point of being welcoming.

Yes, posts about erections etc are as old as the hills but isnt it a good thing that there are new people asking those questions afresh?

There seems to be a chasmic difference between the friendly, welcoming positivity of the real world naturism Ive experienced ( in Europe ) and the somewhat stale and sarcastic, negative undertones to many discussions on this and other nudist sites.

And on topics related to sex this chasm seems to widen.

Its a huge problem for naturism that its predominantly portrayed as porn etc online and so its understandable that many naturists are zealous about righting that wrong. Me too! But, in my opinion, some go too far and portray naturism as a community thats hostile to healthy humanity, unwelcoming or downright nasty to males who arent supervised by a woman, and evangelically asexual.

Younger generations are staying away from formal nudism in droves and this signals the death of formal nudism as we know it. And thats a very good thing. Ive seen in my sons and heard from other naturists that the young dont want nudism with a club tie and a tut-tutting committee. They want to hang out with their friends regardless of gender, sexual orientation etc and be free to be naked or not, to show affection if they want and to and to laugh if a healthy male has an inoffensive erection.

If the thought of such a group of friends being beside you at a pool or on a beach meets with your disapproval then I think you need to ask yourself why that is so.

Lets stop getting worked up about sex and put nature and good-nature back into natur-ism!

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They want to hang out with their friends regardless of gender, sexual orientation etc and be free to be naked or not, to show affection if they want and to and to laugh if a healthy male has an inoffensive erection.

A serious question.

If a man can have an inoffensive erection can he also then have an offensive erection?

Is it for the observer to decide, and if the observer finds it offensive is it justified simply to call them puritanical?

And to be clear, I like getting an erection, Ive just managed to keep it private up until now.

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BlgDudeMan;

There is no such thing as an offensive erection.

There is such thing as offensive or inoffensive behavior.

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Thank you for that insight mr Milwaukee

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They want to hang out with their friends regardless of gender, sexual orientation etc and be free to be naked or not, to show affection if they want and to and to laugh if a healthy male has an inoffensive erection.If a man can have an inoffensive erection can he also then have an offensive erection?Is it for the observer to decide, and if the observer finds it offensive is it justified simply to call them puritanical?And to be clear, I like getting an erection, Ive just managed to keep it private up until now.

Great reply!

In answer to your first question : An erection is never offensive or a problem unless the man attached to it is! So if the erection is a manifestation or expression of bad behaviour then Yes.

Your second dual question is also great and very well thought out. The notion that an observer can just decide if another persons conduct is offensive or not is absolutist, and the lessons of history teach us to fear such dictatorial impositions of opinion. However, any notion that the owner of the erection can unilaterally decide on the appropriateness or otherwise of his erection or behaviour in a particular context would, in my opinion, be wrong for the same reasons. .

An abstract discussion such as this doesnt allow for the specifics which might inform different reasonable perspectives and, through common sense, possibly reach a compromise or even consensus. The answer, as is so often the case, lies somewhere in between. This reality is reflected in laws throughout the civilised world which navigate the ever-complex considerations of balance of rights, freedoms and obligations.

To the second half of that question: if the observer finds it offensive is it justified simply to call them puritanical? No. Its not. Depending on the context they may be puritanical, sexually obsessed, phobic, misandristic, or absolutely balanced, reasonable and right!

If a man acts to exhibit an erection to people who havent indicated a will to engage with him or it, its bad behaviour and utterly offensive. Its also rightly, legally speaking, an offence in most countries. If a man is nude in a naturist context , and becomes erect and doesnt hide it away but doesnt flaunt it hes just being naked and healthy. Shaming masculinity is as wrong as shaming femininity.

Your choice to keep your erections private is good. Others may feel that, as natur-ists, erections should be neither imposed nor shamed.

And in the same way as you explained in your last paragraph about enjoying your erections privately, let me clarify in reciprocity that Im not a nihilistic libertarian, and I have, more than once, challenged men behaving badly on nudist beaches.

So one question in return ( with apologies to the writer of the OP ). Should all erections should be hidden or shamed in naturist settings, regardless of the intent or conduct of their owners?

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