Where to go from here?

Im brand spanking new at this. I had a older couple that were my friends in Wyoming who were nudists. We would close down the bar and head to their house to get naked and jump in the hot tub. I wasnt uncomfortable around them so their friends at all . However, that was twenty years ago, and I miss that carefree do as you will or want atmosphere! I am curious on how other nudists respond to one who is a single guy. I am straight and a good hearted fellow, and just wonder how the community reacts to my situation. I would love to hear from you all!

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RE:Where to go from here?

The reception you get if you're single or not seems to depend on where you're living. In your area, there are plenty of nude and clothing-optional venues to explore. Go to the websites The Naturist Society and the American Association for Nude Recreation to find the contact information for your local non-landed club, and see what resorts there are. My impression is that there isn't the bias in West Coast venues that there is in the Midwest.

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Welcome back to social nudism! The reception you receive is quite dependent on the venue and don't be surprised if by being a single there are some who will shun or ignore you or discriminate. I've had the opposite experience for the most part in my nudist experiences. Considering I was a single nude dude for the first eight years before finding my partner, it has been wonderful not to deal with much of the negative I've read about and heard of from other people, and there is unfortunately plenty of it out there. Rules at some resorts where if there are a certain number of single men no other males can enter until more women show up to balance the numbers (referred to as quotas, or what I prefer to call 'dickscrimination'), or even something as simple as a guy who no one interacts with because he's by himself - with a group of individuals who are discriminated against by general society, you'd think there would be a minimum of that present in the nudist realm. Alas, that is not the case and some guys fall by the wayside of nudism due to bull like this. I think it is also dependent upon where you're trying to be bare, given that laws are different in different places, municipalities, states, and countries, and that point has been brought up already.

I have heard plenty of stories around the bare dinner table and the hot tub about strange rules like couples having to produce documentation to prove they are divorced if they are not with their original partner, which seems bizarre. If anyone here can explain that I'd like to know why. The only thing that is required when someone new comes onto White Tail Family Nudist Resort property is a background check to be sure the individual has no history of sexual issues - that's called discrimination for safety and it is very important. I also understand why naturist places require proof of parental/legal guardian status to make sure the kids are those of the adults they're here with.

Age discrimination in naked places, as in only adults are allowed to attend, is another thing entirely, but the line has to be drawn somewhere when it comes to our youngsters and some social nudism includes open sexual activities. I've never been to places like this and have no desire to go, though I am glad there are places for strictly adults. Otherwise, I think there would be a lot more sexual misbehaving at family nudist resorts with the 'friskies' not having other avenues for the stuff they enjoy doing in front of each other. Age discrimination is a needed control for the lack of personal control in a segment of the nudist community. I feel as though I'm sounding discriminatory against adults who practice open sexual
activities, dammit! To each his or her or their own as long as it's done safely and far away from the youngers.

My advice, if you can take it, given where you are located, try a nude beach because there's no discrimination to be dealt with. You may not be paid attention to but that's human nature. Just remember to follow the three second rule - don't gawk. Nudists are in general very open and social folk, so be patient and enjoy, and never forget your towel!

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wildwilly1 wrote:

The only thing that is required when someone new comes onto White Tail Family Nudist Resort property is a background check to be sure the individual has no history of sexual issues - that's called discrimination for safety and it is very important.

That seems to be standard practice. Every club I've been associated with has run a prospective member or visitor's name and address through a database of sex offenders. It may not be a perfect system, but at leas it demonstrates that the club or resort has done due diligence and thereby protected itself from litigation.

My advice is: find the places you're welcome at, ignore the ones where you're not welcome, and have a good time. Don't forget your sunscreen and your towel.

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I have heard plenty of stories around the bare dinner table and the hot tub about strange rules like couples having to produce documentation to prove they are divorced if they are not with their original partner, which seems bizarre. If anyone here can explain that I'd like to know why.

That club or resort may have been dragged into a divorce proceeding, due to a Sugar daddy bringing his sugar baby in and got caught. Rules like that are often a after the incident type of thing.

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My recommendation is to call a resort and get a sense for how you will be received and don't bother coming if you don't feel welcome.

I'm surprised that even men can be so discriminatory against other men, who in my opinion are the same men whether or not they have a woman escort. I agree that general checks for all visitors such as for sex offenders are justified, but am wary of demands for legal documentation. Can you imagine that checking into a hotel? I was willing to bring my kids' birth certificates to visit a local resort, but when the manager told me they wanted a signed waiver from their biological mother, I crossed them off the list for disregarding my legal parenting rights. I work in due diligence and it's a very complex field with many records and databases. That makes it ripe for discrimination in that it will be arbitrarily applied.

Don't put up with crap just for the chance to hang naked.

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I've visited resorts in Florida and Arizona solo and never felt any discrimination. I think it's a good idea to become "affiliated", that is join either AANR or TNS. I think the folks running the resorts feel more comfortable with new visitors that are members. I've been asked at every resort I've visited and shown my AANR card. I can't remember one that did not offer a discount on the resort fees and even accommodation rental for a week long stay. I've seen a few resort websites with policies that either didn't allow or limited the number of solo males. I didn't go to any of those.

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