Sometimes people will ask, "But what if a child should see it?" My response is, "And?" A child is in no more danger than anyone else by seeing a hard cock or being in the presence of one. My own children saw my hard cock a few times. I asked one of them about it many years later. She said she had no memory of that.
It is sad to say, but a psychologist trained in childhood trauma might diagnose the fact that your daughter doesn't remember the times from her childhood when she saw you erect to be due to her "blocking traumatic events". We readers don't know the context of these incidents, but it is possible her young mind couldn't fully process seeing her father in that state, so instead her brain closed down and she 'forgot' that it happened - a very common reaction for a child in such a situation. You weren't flaunting your hard-on or having sex or masturbating in front of her, she was not in any physical danger, but ignoring the mental damage a child might suffer in such circumstances is unfortunate. If you had immediately explained your erection to your child instead of leaving it to her immature brain to process, maybe this loss of memory could have been avoided. Instead, you bringing it up with her as an adult years later makes no sense to me. Maybe she simply didn't notice the erections you allowed her to see, but you seem to remember the times when it happened quite well.
Not being sexually-aroused during such an event has no bearing on the fact that, given the child's level of sexuality education when it happened, the child may not fully comprehend the difference between arousal or some other reason for an erection. What should never be ignored in such a situation is the mental capacity for a child to understand. Children have to be taught sex education, the earlier the better (with discernment), and the best person to give that education is their parent or guardian. Unfortunately, I have read right here in True Nudists that some parents feel it is appropriate for that education to include teaching their kids how to masturbate by showing them how. What the hell? I find that to be utterly perverse.
Please do not construe this comment as a personal accusation. It is your right to raise your kids as you see fit. Not hiding a benign, non-sexual erection from your own kids is not even in the same Galaxy as a parent who'd masturbate while their kids are watching.
An issue is that it can be our own reactions to being seen that train the next generation. It Your child walks in and sees dady with a boner and Daddy quickly covers up, what is the message? The same with almost anything, if you are changing and some walks in and sees you nude and you dash for the towel, the message is clear, your body should not be seen. So what to do. Well practice an explanation that works for you. I once used "Yes it does that, it will go away soon". Sound relaxed, be relaxed, don't rush to cover, just dress normally, after all you did not go out of your way to be seen, so those who look on you should accept or not look. the body is beautiful be it with a shrivilled tiny penis or a hard one trying to poke some ones eye out. Love it all, love yourself.
Steve
I never hid mine at home and refused to be ashamed of it. Nor did allow my son to be shamed of his by his older sister. If you treat it as a normal, everyday occurrence - and don't make an issue of it - then it just becomes mundane. Honestly, I don't see the need for such shaming tactics and prohibitions at beaches, campgrounds, or resorts either - no one's forcing them to look at it - but, some people just go about life looking for something to be offended by on a daily basis.
Same about looking over the fence to see what you are doing by the neighbors. Dont look ! I wish people could relax about life on today. Its 9/11 today. Marie and I were on the nude beach in California this day so many years ago.
Freedom is something we need ! So many things have changed and not for the good of people. This is not as important as everything but where do we start to get better. Even women are having a hard time posting pictures of themselves with their legs apart. Why ? Its a nude body and its healthy to let air to the skin.
We as men know that we have this happen to us. And should be happy about it. With all the prostate surgeries going on now. And the fact that its very difficult to get a erection after. We all should be proud of them.
Love everything about this. It is so refreshing to see a group that is all for accepting erections. My boyfriend and I get them regularly and if were hanging out with another guy, I believe, that there is no judgment as it happens naturally, were men, its just what happens. There is no point in shaming it. Celebrate the erection
I agree. Sometimes they just pop up!
I've always got erections quite easily and quickly from young just about anywhere and time, even in front of family and taught it was natural and hiding it would make it worse! I think it's good to see an erect penis!
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