Re-reading this because someone shared today, my last post on the subject three months ago, me now sporting more thoughts, as usual.
I mentioned an intercom but I feel like that's more trouble and expense than is really needed. Unless you are listening to loud music or the television is blaring, a simple bell, some Christmas jingle bells hanging on the door, or something similar hung on the door that your stepdaughter usually comes through should do the trick. How about a little string hanging outside the door with a bell attached to it inside that gaily announces her impeding intrusion a few seconds before she strides her self-absorbed butt into your not-so-private home?
I'm also further curious about your situation ~ didn't your wife marry you knowing your want to be nude in the life you were about to be making together? Did the stepdaughter know about your naked tendencies before she moved in to the attached apartment, or was it that you moved into your wife's home with the daughter already next door? If you got married and came in to a situation which was already in place, then began asking for the freedom to be nude, as opposed to you and your wife came to be living together in a new place, stepdaughter moving into the attached apartment at the same time, the dynamic is now altered. If yours is the latter situation, she's treating your home like it is hers, barging in anytime she pleases and then pushing you to change your habits. This sounds like a family power struggle and more than likely you're going to lose and end up relegated to keeping your boxers on in the main living area, and that's horsehockypucks - that is unless your wife acts with authority and soon. You need to let your wife take the reins of this wagon or your home nudism is going to end up under the wheels. It may be too late to do much.
How old is your stepdaughter? She sounds like a twenty-something, and possibly also an only child? Many of that generation have somehow slipped into this mindset that they deserve to be treated like the center of the Universe. I blame smartphones but that is not important now. She's got no right to bitch about you being natural in your private residence when she drops by on a whim. The lack of respect she's showing you both with her clothing demands says much about her underlying feelings for her mom's decisions and life choices. You are the love of her mother's life and she's treating you both like you have no right to be yourself just because she decides to pop in unannounced. I wish your wife would back you up with a little more motherly power.
I may come off a bit brass for some other opinions or taste. Our kids were instructed very early on when they started to drive to call ahead. Sometimes they forgot but then they had to bare the naked consequences for not doing so. If they could learn it as teenagers so can an adult step child.
Truthfully they were more afraid of there birth mom catching her forbidden open nakedness rule in my home than anything else. They would catch the bitch session without a doubt should it leak back to the ex.
Compromise as forementioned is a good thing in almost every married situation by both sides. One thing I will not tolerate is a kid telling me what I will do or not do in my own home and I am speaking of our now 30ish old kids. They know better than go to that place since they were tots. Getting run over in your own home if I didn't walk the line was an unhappy place I personally found. That is why they call them ex's.
She very much needs to decide to just ignore you when yer nude, that is ignore the fact that ya aren't wearing anything. It will help her tremendously to relate properly with a boyfriend. The scene she puts on of horror is all made up and artificial. Does she do that when seeing a cute little naked baby? So what's the difference between the baby and an adult? Size!! That's all. And that's totally irrelevant.
Communication is the key. Our son lives 100 yards from our house . He knows of our nudity being we and he all are members of next doors nudist resort. He prefers not to see or be seen by parents though. My wife tends to comfortably agree the same way as he. So we decided Communication is needed. If he is stopping by our house or his, we announce that we will be. Same as the resort, we tell each other if we are there. If we happen to want to be there at the same time....it's large enough to be distant from one another. It all works for us, though a bit of a pain to do.
Communication is the key. Our son lives 100 yards from our house . He knows of our nudity being we and he all are members of next doors nudist resort. He prefers not to see or be seen by parents though. My wife tends to comfortably agree the same way as he. So we decided Communication is needed. If he is stopping by our house or his, we announce that we will be. Same as the resort, we tell each other if we are there. If we happen to want to be there at the same time....it's large enough to be distant from one another. It all works for us, though a bit of a pain to do.
It seems strange that an adult who is comfortable being nude in a group setting and know that his parents are too would prefer not to see or be seen by his parents. Were you nude around each other when he was a teen and young adult before he moved out?
I concur with minimalist, as I almost always do - it does seem a little quirky that with you all being nudists there's such an aversion to seeing each other bared. Everyone's family dynamic is unique of course, and you've found a way to make it work in and around your nude resort, though work it is, having to pull on the coverage for your son who you know sees other nude bodies constantly, or to have to vacate the hot tub if the son wants to bubble and you're already there bubbling with the wife. Gosh that's a drag.
"Oh please gouge my eyes out - I saw my mom's hoo-ha!" I'm guessing your wife is not your son's biological mother? My honey and I are lucky enough to live within a hundred yards of her mom here at our beautiful naked resort. Upon reading this, I feel quite fortunate there is none of that silliness between us. I hope in time your family can stop it with the theatrics and become one with the skin showing. To each his/her own, but dammit I love the way our family doesn't have such hang-ups.Communication is the key. Our son lives 100 yards from our house . He knows of our nudity being we and he all are members of next doors nudist resort. He prefers not to see or be seen by parents though. My wife tends to comfortably agree the same way as he. So we decided Communication is needed. If he is stopping by our house or his, we announce that we will be. Same as the resort, we tell each other if we are there. If we happen to want to be there at the same time....it's large enough to be distant from one another. It all works for us, though a bit of a pain to do.It seems strange that an adult who is comfortable being nude in a group setting and know that his parents are too would prefer not to see or be seen by his parents. Were you nude around each other when he was a teen and young adult before he moved out?
I am having some issues with trying to live a nude lifestyle. My wife is not interested at all. I accept that. I walk around the house naked all the time, and she doesn't seem to mind terribly much. Her adult daughter (my stepdaughter) lives in an attached apartment of the house and comes over unannounced pretty often. The daughter gets very upset and runs out of the house. My wife has spoken to me about this, and I agree that it seems inappropriate for me to be naked in front of the stepdaughter. This is MY house though, and this is my life. I do not know how to work this out. I always put shorts on when she comes over, but sometimes, forgive me, but I just don't want to. Has anyone else had this problem? I would love to hear some experiences that you may have had and how you worked it out. Thanks.
Late to the game.
If you haven't already and suspect you already have, talk it over and remind your stepdaughter that YOU would not just walk into her apartment unannounced. Come to an understanding of respect and privacy in your own homes. If she continues to show up unannounced you have two options, lock your doors or walk in on her unannounced and she how she likes it. If it bothers her that much for you to do that to her, tell her that's how you feel.
Our daughters, sons in law and grandkids ALL know to call or text first. They've forgotten a couple of times and they just have to wait on the porch til we cover and answer the door. Those times, they were more embarrassed than we were about forgetting to announce their visit.
Our youngest went through a divorce and we were going to allow her to come back home with her two kids. After discussing this with her, we all decided that it was best for us to supplement her income so she could have her own place. We did that for a year and she was able to do it on her own. Too many times, parents continue to enable, and the kids never learn to live on their own and fend for themselves. I always ask friends and family that do this, "what will happen to them if you aren't here tomorrow to make life so easy for them?" I'm not sure what your situation is but it seems as though ground rules were never set, especially with her living right on top of you.
I do not advocate remaining naked in your home if you have people over that are uncomfortable with your nudity. I don't buy into, it's your home, you should do what you want. If that's the case, don't invite people over you know you're going to make uncomfortable. That being said, a compromise is that they are made aware of your way of life and if they are embarrassed, uncomfortable or offended... announce your visit!
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