Why men are crazy cowards
In these days of intense male pics challenge, let's try to also deal with something lighter. Something complimentary about our male members. They may not be very pretty to look at but surely they have some hidden qualities, right? Let's discuss them. Like why men are crazy cowards. I'm not making any value judgments here, just using with no bad faith some words which unfortunately have a negative connotation but do express with precision the heart of the matter.
Men are crazy and cowards. That's a fact. They get all in in conflicts which they should avoid and avoid conflicts which they should deal with.
Let's take Exhibit A. My hubby. He actively or passively avoids conflicts, he prefers to not bother sending back some minor stuff which he has bought online or to give negative feedback a waiter. Whenever we have some negative stuff to say to a neighbour or a salesman, I am the one who needs to bitch about it. And no, I do not enjoy it, I would prefer a hubby with more balls, OK?
On the other hand, until his late forties he climbed a few times in the octagon. He even tried it again later, after we met and after a knee accident which torn a meniscus and some ligaments, but I told him clearly that he does whatever he wants but he won't find me when he gets back home. Not gonna wait to see what bone he broke this time. Now, why would you get into a cage, like a rabid dog, trying to rip the head off of another guy whom you don't even know? While the other guy tries to do the same to you. Please give me a reasonable argument. No, there was not even any money involved, this was amateur fighting. But even for money... Why hurt someone badly or risk being hurt badly for money? It was only about some medals or trophies... I said tell me the size and colour you want and I'll buy you several of them...
Ok, he had also done some rugby before. Which is also a "sport" whose goal is to maim your opponents using the pretext of an oval ball. But at least you do have a pretext. You claim that you want to do some smart stuff which I never quite understood with that stupidly almond-shaped ball and then to get a shower together with your other 14 testosteronic pals (and I don't want to know what happens in those showers to which I was never invited...) then go to a bar and pour ten bers in your belly and claim that you have smashed those opponents who beat you 40 to 5... But yeah, you marked that trial, you are the hero of the day.
But you don't even have the pretext of a ball in the octogon. You can't claim that you are beating the other guy in a pulp because some fancy stuff you want to do with a ball which looks like an oversized testicle. You climb those stairs with the clear objective to maim or put to sleep another human being whom you don't even know and who, to the best of your knowledge, has never done anything wrong. I think this is an objective and fair description of an MMA game, right?
What's wrong with men?
Exhibit B. B like buses. I was improperly touched a few times in buses and I made a fuss, I raised my voice, I slapped and kicked... Told you about it in a different topic. And never did I see a guy intervene to defend me. Never. Women do intervene, try to interpose, raise the voice, call the police... Men pretend to be fully absorbed by their mobile phones and get out at the first stop.
Exhibit C. Social media. I do get into arguments say on Twitter. For me it's about facts and logic and I always get ad hominem abuse back. When I had a woman's profile, it was lots of misogynistic, sexual-related abuse. And none of my followers ever defended me. I changed my profile to male and you know what? I get far less insults and more often than not my friends jump to my defense. Also here, on TN, I can't really say that guys defended me when I was attacked.
So yes,I have my theory about why guys are crazy cowards (again, qualificatifs used for convenience's sake, with no value judgment...). They are crazy because they are cowards and cowards because they are crazy. They have evolved to know that a conflict can turn violent any time. We ladies don't have this handicap. We can go Karen anytime, anywhere, with little to no fear that we will get punched in the face or kicked in the groin. I've seen videos from the US which seem to indicate the contrary but no, I never got violent with another girl, I never felt the need to do so and I never felt in danger that another woman would get violent with me. So yes, men are cowards because they know that they are crazy and any confrontation can turn violent any time. It's this cowardice which makes them have an excessive fight or flight response, ready to snap anytime. Hence, cowardice makes them crazy too. Speak about a vicious cercle.
What about all these aggressive guys online? My theory is that these ar the little guys, the weaklings, the small-dicked ones, the ones who have been bullied all their lives without daring to fight back and who, all of a sudden, realise that they can finally bully, with no fear of retribution, somebody else. They lost their craziness, they know that nobody will find them and beat them up, so they lost also their cowardice and go to everybody's throat.
But everything else being equal, I still prefer the natural crazy cowardly guys. Just like I prefer free-range chicken, non-GMO grains and French beef without hormones and antibiotics.
Wonder why.
The real question now is will I still be here in an hour or two after the above response but I digress. Most anyone who has small children has listened to the endless questions about why something happens. Thus, the 'because' reply. It's part of natural curiosity and should be reinforced, but at times it turns into a game and goes on & on & on. Parents understand this and patiently give real answers until at some point they (we) reach the end at which time the response becomes a repetitive "because". Now...Talion, cut me a little slack here before I get a verbal 'dress-down'. Your questions are as old as humanity and obviously will never have a real, sound response.
For some unknown reason, I will offer a pale response to your ending comment, "But everything else being equal, I still prefer the natural crazy cowardly guys. Just like I prefer free-range chicken, non-GMO grains and French beef without hormones and antibiotics."
1) everything else being equal...your take that the given exchange is not taking place on a 'Mad Max' set and current over-arching mores stand;
2) prefer the natural crazy cowardly guys...at least you have some idea of the normal response to a given stimuli;
3) prefer free range chicken...our ancestors developed a taste for the original bird over hundreds of years, not the new-fangled style 100 days;
4) (prefer) non-GMO grains, see above, the same logic applies;
5) French beef...and antibiotics...beef that has not been 'shot-up' will have different texture & most probably fresher.
Really, your question was rhetorical in nature and not really requesting a response. But, I really had to, just...because.
Rhetorically answering, doesn't know any better John.
Funny thing, I say the almost same thing about women !
Where men fight about a word said !
I typed out a big answer, but then deleted it all. Hmmm
Why ? Did I do this ?
I think its an argument that I have no way of proving my side.
And no I wouldnt allow a woman to be handled by someone on a bus ! Matter of fact I would offer her the seat and I have done it for women. I am glad I dont have to prove anything in a cage. I am proving to anyone who I am every day by my actions. I am proud to be a boy scout and quite about it. Also I am a sheep dog ! I will be there to protect you and anyone who needs it ! But I will let someone learn from there mistakes.
But here I am saying something anyway. Hmmm. Sorry all men are not good. But then the same can be said about women. Its best, that we are not all the same. Because life is different for everyone.
Wow I am having a hard time pushing the send button. Hmmm
I don't mind being contradicted, what I do mind is when people replace arguments with personal insults.
Two questions: who in couple is more likely to say "Honey? We need to talk!". That's readiness to deal with issues, the opposite of cowardice.
Who, from the couple, is more likely to get into a fistfight in a bar? That's craziness. Nothing good has ever come out from a bar fight.
Sure, giving up a seat to a woman is altruistic, ie it benefits another person at a cost for yourself. But let's face it, both the benefit and cost are low. I wouldn't even accept it, I'm not that old and would suspect you have further intentions, and your cost is standing for a couple of stops while the risk is minimum.
On the other hand, confronting an agressor comes with a high risk - and this is because men are likely to not stop at an exchange of words, but get physical. And this is not the point, what guys should do is just come closer in numbers and ask the culprit to stop, threaten with calling the police...
In fact, in self defense we are trained that, if we are aggressed, we should never cry "Help" - everybody will run away - but "Fire", people are attracted by such show...
True about crying for Help ! But screaming Fire, is definitely a better way of doing things.
Oh, by the way, calling somebody Honey. Between the wife and I is an insult, a nice insult. Because really, what is honey but Bee throw up. Lol.
And we dont go to the bars anymore. Too dangerous with drunk people. And the reasoning I give my seat up on the bus. Is respect, but if theres a woman on the bus being accosted. Now thats a different story Ill be helping the woman. And not to mention, I think Maries been in more bar fits than I have. lol
Exhibit B. B like buses. I was improperly touched a few times in buses and I made a fuss, I raised my voice, I slapped and kicked... Told you about it in a different topic. And never did I see a guy intervene to defend me. Never. Women do intervene, try to interpose, raise the voice, call the police... Men pretend to be fully absorbed by their mobile phones and get out at the first stop.
If I was witness to such an event, I would politely ask "friend of yours?" Any negative response would have me standing between the two of you! Then, let the chips fall as they may.
Chivalrous Lee
Guys,don't get me wrong, I LOVE men. I think they are cute and nice to play with, and quite uselessly protective with their woman, also so easy to deflate both when they are too self-righteous and angry at us...
Suppose my hubby comes back home angry because something minor which I did. Say I kept him waiting for me in the rain for a short half hour. It's so easy for me to change all this in 5...4...3...2..1... Done, now he's smiling. What did I do?
Guys,don't get me wrong, I LOVE men. I think they are cute and nice to play with, and quite uselessly protective with their woman, also so easy to deflate both when they are too self-righteous and angry at us...Suppose my hubby comes back home angry because something minor which I did. Say I kept him waiting for me in the rain for a short half hour. It's so easy for me to change all this in 5...4...3...2..1... Done, now he's smiling. What did I do?
My only surprise was it took you a count of 5 to get the smile... a count of 2 would surely be quite sufficient for some of us :)
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