Dating
This is for all the nudist men out here. Whats it like to date a girl who is either a nudist or not a nudist? Share your experiences.
Well nothing on the dating thing? I have gone with many woman to nudest places. I find it fun, and dont hold back taking my clothing off. What is interesting is many women wont go. Some go and talk about how they used to skinny dip and its no big deal. Then they get there and everything changes. I find it funny and usually just before you leave they might go out undressed for s few minutes. Then there are the ones( fewest) that are just as bold as me, and they dont care. Thats when I have had the most fun, just being friends and talking like we were out like anywhere else!
For anyone, just ask. See if they are interested. Give them time to think about it. If your a nice person( guy) many will try it once at least!
Here in the Midwest US I find it difficult enough for a woman to accept that I can be nudist and still straight and moral, much less finding a woman who is comfortable with any nudity herself. I have the impression that it's better with younger generations though.
When my now-wife and I started dating, she found out I was a nudist the first time she came over to my place. My bookshelf was filled with nudist books and mags. She asked me about it; I responded candidly. I told her that I went to Mazo Beach frequently in the summer; and she was fine with it. She was actually pretty open-minded; and did not assume there was something sexual behind it, as many others do. But she did express complete disinterest in accompanying me. I thought: "well ok; let's just see how this develops." You never know what the future holds...
She also responded relatively well to my home-nudity (unlike my first wife who fought me on it). Again; she did not join in, but rather adopted a more "casual" and practical approach by not always covering up after showering or before going to bed. Still, "no dice" on trying to get her to stay naked with me. But I didn't see it as a good reason to break up either.
But people and circumstances can change. You just have to let it happen naturally. As the relationship got more serious, she started taking a closer look at ways to enhance our connection and intimacy. And she found that maybe stepping out of her comfort zone and connecting with me on a nudist level might prove beneficial to "cementing" our relationship. After a failed attempt at a nude beach and an ensuing two-year hiatus, we got married and she decided to give it another shot at a nudist resort, albeit as a "non-participating spouse." She quickly (within an hour) found that the resort provided a suitable environment for her to try participating - for her own benefit. What was for her a "quick social experiment" turned into an entire day spent nude and a total "change of heart" about social nudity. She's been a social nudist with me ever since.
Sometimes, while dating, and unless a very strong opposition to nudity is expressed; it can be worth playing the "long game." Would it be easier to find an "already-nudist? Obviously so. But that can prove to be a long and arduous process.Here in the Midwest US I find it difficult enough for a woman to accept that I can be nudist and still straight and moral, much less finding a woman who is comfortable with any nudity herself. I have the impression that it's better with younger generations though.
I'm in the Midwest too and my wife has female friends that reportedly would be "open to trying." Maybe it's a "city vs everwhere else" thing. Not to sound like a snob; but while dating I avoided suburbanites - in spite of the larger dating pool - because I felt that the odds of them being ok with my nudism would be much much smaller.
My situation is different than most. My wife and I began dating in HS. I figured, after a while and many questions, that I should come clean about my not wearing underwear, sleeping naked and laying out naked when I was alone at home. I thought she'd bail on the relationship, but she stayed. To my surprise, she came over later in the relationship and laid out with me topless several times. She finally came over and laid out nude when we were almost seniors. She had lots of questions. I answered as best I could, not being an educated nudist at that time.
She went off to college and went into the Navy. We remained devoted and we got engaged at 19 and 20. We were married at 20 & 21. On our wedding night, we were of course nude all night. That was on a Thursday, and we never put clothes on again until Sunday when family requested our presence for dinner. Di commented that she loved living that way and we became nudists that weekend.
Point of this story is that I really don't have any advice with dating a non-nudist.
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