parent talk: have you ever been caught by your kids?
In the first place you make no big deal about it whether it was being caught nude or having some sort of sex...after the fact and the shock has settled down have an honest chat with them and tell them its natural and happens, its life and try and be more discrete about it though I know at times it difficult....kids are smart and will understand honesty and appreciate it...Dan
In the first place you make no big deal about it whether it was being caught nude or having some sort of sex...after the fact and the shock has settled down have an honest chat with them and tell them its natural and happens, its life and try and be more discrete about it though I know at times it difficult....kids are smart and will understand honesty and appreciate it...Danthat's a beautiful answer, thank you Dan. I think it's great afterwards to collect everything that has happened and talk it out with them IF they are open to it, if they're too ashamed then i will not go out of my way to explain, let time settle things. Sometimes they just need to time to think about what they saw and heard.
Totally agree. If you make a big deal out of it by trying to hide or something like that, you're sending the message that it is wrong or shameful. Just be honest and matter of fact about it.
My son caught me in the pool one day and freaked out about it. After a little while it doesn't even bother him anymore. Not sure if he has ever skinny dipped while we were gone but he doesn't have any interest while we are in the pool. I have noticed that he is a little more relaxed around the house than he used to be. He used to be fully clothed when he went to and came out of the bathroom to shower now he just wraps a towel around him.
We have raised our kids that nudity is not rude or crude, but is natural, and we have gone nude in front of of kids since they were babies. As for getting caught "in a little adult activity" we try to not make it am issue and will talk to them later about what they saw and if they have any question
What do you do in a situation like that?We all have different methods and different theories to share with our kids, but what's your story?Have you ever been caught? What happened & how did it turn out?It's all a matter of what it was you were "Caught" doing. Was it simply being nude at home or was there some kind of adult play going on, that you were "Caught" doing? That info may help to refine the answers you may receive on this question.
Haha ... caught by them many times! BUT ...
They were being raised as nudists til they stopped at the age of 12. We continued and they saw us naked all the time. Being naked was one thing but as they got older and they began to drive, they'd leave the house and then show up and find us in a compromising situation. We were both a little embarrassed, at first, but the great thing was that it didn't linger, it didn't go on and on with silence and not knowing what to say. The oldest one just said ... "I promise to alert you some way if I come back home after leaving." We just always prepared for their unannounced return. But we all talked about the situation and talked to them like the adults they were growing up to be.
Flash forward many years and our grandkids ... they know we are nudists and they've gone to the nude beach with us several times and then went on a week long nude vacation with us to a beach resort in the Caribbean, where they all, including our daughters and one SIL, all participated fully. Best vacation they ever had and talk about it today, and can't wait to go back.
Around here, nudity is treated as normal and no big deal. We've all been out playing and get sweaty and come inside and all of us except the 14 year old granddaughter, strip in the laundry room and head for the showers. It's pretty funny that the pace slows down considerably during this time. None of them are in a hurry to get to the showers ... ages 12 to 4.5. What they do miss is the outdoor shower. My water heater for the outdoor shower stopped working and they are all bummed because they loved getting naked or staying naked, after swimming, and taking a shower, then laying on their towels on the pool deck and drying off with the sun. They are quite accustom to nudity around our home but I think because it isn't practiced much at home, it takes them a bit to get reacquainted with it when they are here. Our grown daughters also experience and are exposed to our nudity while they visit. Though they are not comfortable with living naked, as we do, they still enjoy skinny dipping, sunbathing naked but once inside the house, they'll wrap a towel around themselves until they put something on. Still, we will be naked for a bit and then slip on something so they don't feel uncomfortable.
Kids and nudity go hand in hand. It's truly the adults that have the issue with it. As puberty sets in, there are some inhibitions but if the child has been raised continually as a nudist, those inhibitions are no where as noticeable as those pubescent children who were not exposed or raised to nudity, at home. Our 14 year old granddaughter has said many times ... "I'd be more comfortable with nakedness if I had lived here and not at home. It's kinda contradictory at home and it's always the same here." We've not changed and nudity in this house is always treated as normal and no big deal ... that's made it comfortable for our grown daughters and grandkids.
Getting caught is something that can happen to any family, nude or textile. Either way, it is a natural act between two people and nothing to be ashamed of.I wouldn't go out to say "nothing to be ashamed of" some of us moan in different ways, or perhaps the position you got caught in, or how loud you were. It all depends, but all in all I agree with you!