RE: Nusidm with the family

That was never a problem in our family. My wife raised also up in a nudist family, so we did the same lifestyle with our children, at home, holidays, naked when possible. They are now adults and still love and do it.

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There's some helpful advise in this post. We have dealt with some of the same issues as we try to bring our nudity out to the open more. Our children have two different responses, one loves to join the other does not. Also seems like the kids are more comfortable with mom nude than dad. It's a interesting challenge.

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RE:Nusidm with the family

There's some helpful advise in this post. We have dealt with some of the same issues as we try to bring our nudity out to the open more. Our children have two different responses, one loves to join the other does not. Also seems like the kids are more comfortable with mom nude than dad. It's a interesting challenge.

In my experience that is often the case. When Dad goes nude but Mom stays covered, the kid(s) stay covered. When Mom also goes nude, the kid(s) are too. I think it all has to do with the "Mom=nurturer" thing. It can make for a challenging situation if the Mom doesn't always go nude. I was lucky; while my daughter was growing up my wife was naked a lot. So my daughter was as well.
There are many nudists who have one kid that "does", and another kid that "doesn't."

But I do get the challenges you're facing! You just kind of have to go with the "vibe" and ajust your expectations accordingly.

We are raising our children as nudists and we both feel that too much pulling away or putting boundaries on where you can be touched and where you can't sets the kids up for confusion and learning shame about their bodies. If I say it's not ok to touch me in certain areas but then hug them or bathe with them then what kind of a mixed message are they getting? I think it's much better to let the kids grow up in a free environment to minimize any shame about their bodies or ours.

I don't think setting boundaries is necessarily a bad or confusing thing for the kids. With my daughter we "instituted" that genitals were off limits - fairly early on. But breasts were not; as it would have made breast-feeding, cuddling or hugging impossible.
Obviously, there is going to be "passing contact" as you play with, or hug your children. My daughter and I often had wrestling matches, where passing contact was unavoidable and natural. But there is a difference between "passing contact" and "direct/focused contact."
My daughter was not at all confused by her boundaries.

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RE:Nusidm with the family

This topic was started over 2 years ago, not sure if the OP is even reading still, but I can offer some advice from the perspective of the kid who grew up in the nudist home.

We were nudists for financial reasons, we were quite poor. Since we did own our home, and we were white, we did not qualify for assistance (how's THAT for racism? If we were anything but white, we would have received assistance). Anyway, any clothes we had were hand-me-downs and were for school. Mom and dad went without clothes because we didn't want to run the air conditioning and have a large power bill, but they put on clothes when company came over, us kids did not have to. None of this caused any confusion for us, we figured it out pretty easily.

Even when it was cold, we would just wrap up in a blanket, nude beneath. No biggie.

I eventually just became accustomed to being nude and it felt 'normal', certainly more comfortable.

As far as relationship with other kids, school, etc., it didn't change anything. Some kids visited our house, and didn't make a big deal if us kids were nude. In fact, it made swimming in the pond much better. Some of the kids would undress when they came over because it was more comfortable for them too. It wasn't a big deal. It wasn't until the Jr. High gym showers that my all-over tan became a point of ridicule for other kids. I just told them I was Mexican and left it at that. Seemed to work at the time.

After I got older, I just stuck with being nude at home or the beach or the lake or wherever I could and be comfortable. It isn't like I go out of my way to be nude, or be a militant nudist like some here, but when convenient. Wife and I met when we were 12. She had no problem with nudity. Seemed pretty normal to her if I was nude. She got into it also. We joined a nudist resort not far from home and visited a lot when she first got into it. Now, she's pretty much like me.

As for how being raised a nudist might affect you as an adult... Well, your mileage may vary, of course... However, I remained a virgin until after I got married, the way God intended. I have a very successful company, make good money, debt-free (house also), and have good savings. Pretty successful by modern definition. No porn addiction, and a very conservative Christian. So, I guess all the nudity my whole life has been somewhat beneficial to my way of thinking and my self esteem and success.

Good luck! Hope your kids are equally blessed by your decision to free them of the chains of body shame in their formative years.

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RE:Nusidm with the family

Our family followed a similar path. Daughters and grand children enjoyed our retired life as nudists: for a while. Then a grand daughter hit puberty; her mother got a Significant Other with traditional Mexican values, and everyone became modest. Even though the pubescent granddaughter posted nude pictures on the web; no one was allowed to enjoy skinny dipping or bar b nuding or?
any insights any;one? Or?
As time has passed; I am the only nudist in the house: unless I take the flea collars off of the dogs and run around the pool. It was so much more comfortable when we all swam, schmooozed, bar b nude, and enjoyed nude.
Touching wasn't much of a problem. Oops, got too close. maybe.

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As a person that grew up in a nude home we were taught by our parents very early on that there were certain limitations that should be observed. Basically, if you wouldn't do something clothed, then don't do it if you are nude. That included physical contact and unwanted attention, such as staring or eaves dropping. And these rules were especially true for strangers or casual family friends.

True, there were times when incidental touching occurred. But it was just that, an accidental brush against the butt or breast while in a crowded situation, or horseplay, etc.

There were some special exceptions to the rule, but only with those persons that you knew very well. Even then, caution should always be used to make sure that these did not escalate to an unacceptable level. For instance, when I was in my teens, my now mother in law used to pinch my butt on occasion. My dad might momentarily cup one of my mom's breasts when giving her a 'honey I'm home' kiss.
About once a month my mom would give us an overall body scan for abnormal skin spots, rashes, etc. Even as teens we knew that were not sexual contacts, but were demonstrations of closeness and familiarity.

Growing up in the wholesome home nudism culture we knew that nudity did NOT equal sex and we were not to confuse the presence of a nude person as some form of implied consent or invitation for sexual behavior. And we did all of our normal everyday activities, wearing whatever we wanted, even nude. As nudists we knew that we were actually naked under whatever we happened to be wearing.

Over the long term, living nude is probably no more sexual than the textile lifestyle. I do think that textile people tend see nudity as a sexual overture because they are not used to nudity in everyday situations and they only enter some state of nudity when engaging in sex. As a true nudist, any sexual activity should always be engaged in private and with the same levels of public discretion and decency as you would in a textile environment.

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RE: Nusidm with the family

Our son saw both Mum & Dad naked from the very beginning.
Nothing to be ashamed of.

He had no problem whatsoever to accompany us to nude beaches when he was a little boy.

Now he is 13 and things are different now of course.
We are still coming out of the shower bare naked but we wont take him to a nude bech, unless he would ask for it.

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