Need a nudist women's advice!
I am a 26 year old female and I'm currently in a 3 year relationship. My boyfriend told me a little less than a year that he loves being nude all the time and would like to go to nude beaches/resorts/camps. I agreed and we did go to a nude beach this past summer and I surprisingly enjoyed it. However, as we look towards our future, he is now telling me that when we have a family, he wants us all to be nude in the house together. I am not sure I'm comfortable with this. Once I have children, I would prefer to only be nude when the children are asleep or away. I was raised in a household that was strictly against nudity around each other and my boyfriends family is even more conservative then my own. I don't believe our families would be accepting of these actions and I don't know how we could keep that secret from them. I also don't want my children to go through any issues or embarrassment with their peers if we were to do this. Since we live in America, most people frown upon nudism. Lastly, I feel at a certain age children shouldn't see their parents naked. Maybe around like 5-6 years old. Maybe I feel this way because of how I was raised. I would just think it would be weird and uncomfortable if I had a 14 year old son and I was walking around nude in front of him and vice versa with a daughter and my boyfriend. I would LOVE any advice that could be given, especially someone who has had a similar experience. I would love to talk to a woman who is a nudist with a family and can give me her words of wisdom!
You should try a family resort...like Pine Tree in Maryland or Penn Sylvan in PA...both are not too far from you and are open year round. Many places are strictly couples and families only. There will be other kids and their parents around. Talk to anyone of them, you may change your mind.
I am a 26 year old female and I'm currently in a 3 yearrelationship. My boyfriend told me a little less than a year thathe loves being nude all the time and would like to go to nudebeaches/resorts/camps. I agreed and we did go to a nude beach thispast summer and I surprisingly enjoyed it. However, as we looktowards our future, he is now telling me that when we have afamily, he wants us all to be nude in the house together. I am notsure I'm comfortable with this. Once I have children, I wouldprefer to only be nude when the children are asleep or away. I wasraised in a household that was strictly against nudity around eachother and my boyfriends family is even more conservative then myown. I don't believe our families would be accepting of theseactions and I don't know how we could keep that secret from them. Ialso don't want my children to go through any issues orembarrassment with their peers if we were to do this. Since we livein America, most people frown upon nudism. Lastly, I feel at acertain age children shouldn't see their parents naked. Maybearound like 5-6 years old. Maybe I feel this way because of how Iwas raised. I would just think it would be weird and uncomfortableif I had a 14 year old son and I was walking around nude in frontof him and vice versa with a daughter and my boyfriend. I wouldLOVE any advice that could be given, especially someone who has hada similar experience. I would love to talk to a woman who is anudist with a family and can give me her words ofwisdom!
First ... apologies for chiming in, in the woman's section, but we do have experience in what you're going through and thought our story may be helpful.
By the time we were your age we had two daughters and had been full
time home/backyard nudists for about 4 years. We talked
openly and extensively prior to our first child becoming a toddler
about how she and our other children would be raised and being
naked with them and in front of them was at the top of the long
list of things to consider when raising children.
I don't know a couple that we know or have met that agree 100% on
every topic or issue in their relationship. Relationships and
marriage are a constant compromise to make life together,
work. My wife and I are polar opposites and don't agree on
many things but we find compromise in everything ... including
raising our girls as nudists. We were successful up to a
point but without any support system, no internet groups to ask
questions as you have, we let nature take it's course and the
girls stopped being nudists around the ages of 10-12. Not
because they didn't like it or want to do it anymore, because of
peer pressure from friends that found out by them telling their
friends about the way we live. Teasing and name calling was
the last straw and no matter what mom and dad said, they seemed to
side with what their friends had to say.
We didn't stop being nudists and our nudity around the girls
diminished some. They'd come home unannounced and find us
sunning, floating in the pool, sitting on the couch reading or
watching TV. We'd just grab our robes, house shorts,
house dress and cover til they went to bed. It was merely a
courtesy to them because they were uncomfortable but they continued
to see us naked daily before showers, after showers, while I was
shaving before or after a shower, changing clothes, getting dressed
and they were well aware that we slept nude and it didn't bother
them to see us get up outta bed. Most times they'd follow us
to the bathroom until we closed the door, all the time talking and
asking questions or asking to do something. Our nudity
never stopped but it wasn't in their faces all the time.
I don't agree with the idea that our children should stop seeing us
naked at a certain age. If you feel that nudism isn't wrong,
then hiding it from your children only teaches them that something
is wrong with your nudity and theirs. Families and nudism
don't always mix and in most cases, most nudists are in your same
situation; do we tell family or keep it from them.
There is no real right or wrong answer. Some families can
handle it and other can not. You'll have to gauge what
category your families fit into. As the children grow and if
you decide to raise them as nudists, new rules apply when they are
able to understand them. Who's to know and what is shared are
typical discussions many nudist families have. Because we
didn't have this support system, we simply told our girls that our
nudist life was something we kept to ourselves because most people
won't understand it, a lesson they learned later from their
friends. This will be a topic of discussion for you
both to decide which is the best way for you to handle who knows
and who doesn't and what to tell your children as they get older
and can talk and tell others how you live or what you do at
I'm of the opinion that nudism has helped my wife deal with
some very difficult but close bonding with her parents during their
last few days on earth. While my wife's siblings were
quick to find anyone ( stranger) to come and assist with care for
ailing and dying parents, my wife disagreed and said, "We/I should
take care of dad/mom and We/I should be the ones that do all these
very personal tasks, instead of some stranger." Indeed, my
wife did care for her father, changed his diapers, cleaned him up
and got him comfortable and ... she did the very same for her
mother when she died recently. While she had no reservations
at all in seeing her parents nudity and caring for them with these
very personal situations, the other siblings left the room and
would have left the building.
We are convinced that our daughters, having grown up partially with
nudism and then leaving, only to return to partake in nudism in a
vacation/recreational/ hobby aspect, as opposed to our daily nudist
life, have a closer relationship with us and when that time comes
when we need care, we know we can count on them to be there for us
and not some stranger or not some facility where there is little to
no personal connection with those in need. Our
grandkids have seen us nude many times and though they are not
nudists or as accepting as we'd prefer, they are not opposed to our
nudity, disgusted by it but are a little embarrassed at first but
get used to it. It takes them a bit longer to adjust if
they've been away for longer periods of time.
You and your future husband will need to sit down and discuss this
openly and honestly. ALL your concerns, fears and desires to
live together and raise your children will need to be discussed and
it's on ongoing process as the number of children increase and the
ages change ... so do the rules, priorities and guidelines you
initially had. You are lucky. You do have a place to go
and ask questions of others that have been in your bare feet and
can take bits and pieces of all the advice, information and
experiences of others before you.
We wish you well! ;-)
My husband and I enjoyed nudism before we were married and before we had children. We chose to continue our nude lifestyle even after having our family. It was a great decision for us. We have two daughters that we are raising nude. They are now in their early teens and are wonderful, happy, confident young ladies. They have a very positive attitude about their bodies, nudity and human sexuality. We feel nudism has been a positive influence in their happiness and strong self esteem, which is often times very challenging for teen girls, especially in American culture. We are happy with our decision and would encourage other happy nudists to consider continuing the nude lifestyle with their family.I hope this helps.This post doesn't seem to be in sync with the blatantly sexual shots in your profile.
Can I ask why the need to display?