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finally got rid of a weight around my neck

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I finally ended a friendship with one of the first nudist I met on TN. I met with him at White Thorn Lodge nudist resort. My first time at such a resort. It was great and I was grateful for the opportunity to mingle with other nudists again. Unfortunately, the nudist I met there tried to read more into our encounter than what really was. I made it plain that no sex, penetration or oral play will be tolerated. He kept making hints about prostate massages (which would include penetration). I told him no. We did five each other a total complete body massage. He took it for more than it was. from there he began making hints again about "us." While I was happy to visit and mingle with other nudists I stopped contacting him and heard nothing from him. I though it was all over. It wasn't. he contacted me the other day and asked if we were still friends. I basically told him that depends on him and if he can respect my limits by listing some of the things he did that disrespected me and told him I made no commitment or promises to him. He came back with a string of reasons how he is not at fault and he thought I wanted these things and stating that I wanted to meet with him again. He stated that he was willing to drive six hours to meet with me. He basically said that I led him on. I made it clear to him and it is in my profile that I am not gay or bi. I am straight. He is gay. He turned comments and things I said upside down and made it work for his intentions. I finally told him that I am termination the friendship because he will not respect the limits I put down and wants more than I can give him. I blocked him. Not before he went on a rant about me and how he thought I wanted all of this and his attentions and that I should not do full body massages. I feel much better now that he is out of my life. It is people like him that give nudists a bad name.

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Happy that you have gotten past your hurdle. It's a healthy reminder that some people hear what you're saying and others hear what they want to hear, regardless of nudism. Boundaries need to be respected. It would be lovely if all nudists were also respectful. I like to think that nudists are always better grounded than those who must wear something in public. I suppose that makes me something of an idealist?

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Good for you to see through what that other persons real intentions were. Don't allow him to paint all nudists the same way. He just had a different agenda.

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I told you a little about him. He turned everything I said into something he wanted and then complains about my nit following through. Reminded me of a jealous girlfriend.
Took gf to MRI today. She is in so much pain now. Doing everything I can for her.

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I have always seen or felt that nudists as more trustworthy from past experiences when I was younger. I guess I expected the same.

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That is the kind of person I'm afraid of meeting or of people thinking of me like him. You did most of the talking when we first met and I don't think you're like that but you also told me to be careful and not to trust too easily like you said you have. I'm sure there are even worse out there and he is probably worse to others. It's probably for the best that you just get away from him. Good thing he doesn't live in town.

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I went into it thinking it would be like it was before when I met with nudists but he expected more. I told him how I do massages and it's not meant for sex or to encourage sex. We did massage each other and he was a little up set that I would not massage his erection. What he wanted was for me to masturbate him. He kept dropping hints about a prostate massage which I told him no because it involves penetration and is from my understanding meant to bring someone to orgasm. He also called it milking the prostate. He turned everything I said upside down and turned it around to meet his desires. So I am also glad I'm over that hurdle. I blocked him. I didn't feel good about it because I think he's lonely but for as he's been on TN and with all the friends he has I have to wonder if he has done the same to others for him to focus so much attention on me and want to drive six hours to spend time with me.
I should have been more careful since I saw it coming with all of his "I want you to enjoy yourself, what can I do to make you comfortable, let me know if I can do anything for you and his hints about giving me a blow job and prostate massage. Part of me said he's just friendly and part of me said be careful he wants more from me.
Thanks for you support.
John.

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