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Showering with other men...Gave me Legit Bromance friends

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My co-workers know/knew I was gay. A year into my new job as a fitness coordinator, my straight male co-workers invited me to go camping with them for some sports camp weekend thing. I was beyond happy because it was the first time ever straight men invited me to hang out with them as one of the guys. LoL tons of different good and bad scenarios were constantly running through my head.

We all rented one big passenger van and headed up to the campground. It was (to me) so surreal to finally hear and be apart of the "locker room talk" that straight guys do so much of. The co-worker who invited me, Roy, he was the one who always asked my opinion or included me in the topic of discussion during the ride up there.

We arrived and there were a lot of men there to my surprise, only men. We found our designated spot and set up our tent. there were 6 of us altogether and we all shared one giant tent. I was nervous the whole time because I never felt comfortable around so many straight men before. There older men, young guys, male family units like dad and son uncles nephews cousins, fat, thin, bodybuilders, all kinds. In fact, the last time I was in this same sort of scenario I got jumped by 3 guys who clearly didn't like gay men.

Orientation started there were all kinds of different sports that were being held that weekend. Ryan selected for us, so we were in the volleyball, softball, flag football, and relay race swimming competitions. Yeah proud of my self cause I kicked ass in volleyball and flag football.
Later on that first evening after dinner. "We" decided to go shower and get to bed for tomorrows competitions. I WAS NERVOUS AF, cause the guys all stripped down and used their towel to cover up. I was so nervous because I had secretly liked Roy since i met him. I was the last one out of the tent and we walked to the showers. It was kinda full but the guys said let's just use this one (right at the entrance). At that moment I said fuck it and started showering.

It was the most amazing feeling being in the showers with other men and not feeling turned on or aroused. I finally felt relaxed. We talked about the competitions and joked around. Then Manuel says Hey Jayson, glad your not boned up brah we all laughed and i said well its easy when your friends are ugly and that was the ice breaker. everything was cool from then on.
Saturday Roy, was kinda ignoring me and i had no clue why. I asked the other guys why and they just told me to ask him, so i did. I asked him whats up with him and why he was ignoring me all day. He apologized and asked me to walk with him to the dining hall. He told me that he had this crazy feeling ever since we met. i asked why? well, 4 years ago his brother unexpectedly passed away and it devastated him. All his life, he and his brother did everything together. His brother was almost 2 years older than Roy and always looked out for him. This was odd because im younger than Roy by 2 years and we dont resemble each other at all. Then Roy says, his brother was gay. Which Roy didnt care at all about. He began to tell me that my mannerisms and my attitude were exactly like his brother. I asked Roy if it bothers him i can go. Roy then said no, i just want to hug you because it feels like my brother here.
I of course was gonna hug him, but the guys flew up out of nowhere and horsed around with us all the way to the dining hall, so I didnt hug him.
To shorten this up, Roy told all the guys months ago about how he feels like his brother is there with him when im around. We hit the showers and Roy was quiet and kinda just stood there. I hugged him and yeah the other boys and men kinda took notice.
When I hugged Roy it was full embrace. everything from feet to head was touching. To my amazement feeling his penis with mine didnt spark any sexual feelings. The hug lasted like 5/6 seconds and when i let go i just told I Love You Bro
Roy to this day has always been a true friend to me. and im blessed i have him in my life.

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Great story. Thank you for sharing it with this group. I hope you and Roy continue your friendship for many years.

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Your story was amazing there was lots of similarities to something that happened to me 10 years ago except for me it was a father son thing

I moved England to a joined a local rugby team the coach was a jerk to me for months with out any reason until one day I got mad and asked him what his problem was !!
He said I was a messer and didnt take the game seriously which I couldnt understand.
The next week I was on the sub bench the whole game we where loosing when I told him to let me play he kept saying no until 5 min before the end of the game he had no choice but play me when I got out onto the field I was like a rocket scoring trie after trie until we where 1 point down last min of game i scored the winning point. Then the coached ran up to me and hugged me and said well done son. Then walked off . After the game his wife came up to me and stirred at me and brushed my face and started to cry I was like what the hell id going on here then the couch came over to me and asked if he could have a word with me he told me he had a son who was killed 2 months before I arrived I reminded him of his son looks wise and how I play the game and was sorry if he was a jerk to me. I said dont worry and I was sorry if I make him feel sad Ill leave the team if its to hard to see me. He said no he enjoys me been around . Anyway me and him became close and got on like a house on fire I would go over to his house for Wednesday night dinner. His wife would mother me giving me bigger portions and say things like ur a growing boy u need feeding up . I think it helped her to heal seeing me

I came home 2 year later Im still in touch with them I send her flowers and a card on Mothers Day with a message saying to my second mum have a great day see you soon xx

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Your story was amazing there was lots of similarities to something that happened to me 10 years ago except for me it was a father son thing

I moved England to a joined a local rugby team the coach was a jerk to me for months with out any reason until one day I got mad and asked him what his problem was !!
He said I was a messer and didnt take the game seriously which I couldnt understand.
The next week I was on the sub bench the whole game we where loosing when I told him to let me play he kept saying no until 5 min before the end of the game he had no choice but play me when I got out onto the field I was like a rocket scoring trie after trie until we where 1 point down last min of game i scored the winning point. Then the coached ran up to me and hugged me and said well done son. Then walked off . After the game his wife came up to me and stirred at me and brushed my face and started to cry I was like what the hell id going on here then the couch came over to me and asked if he could have a word with me he told me he had a son who was killed 2 months before I arrived I reminded him of his son looks wise and how I play the game and was sorry if he was a jerk to me. I said dont worry and I was sorry if I make him feel sad Ill leave the team if its to hard to see me. He said no he enjoys me been around . Anyway me and him became close and got on like a house on fire I would go over to his house for Wednesday night dinner. His wife would mother me giving me bigger portions and say things like ur a growing boy u need feeding up . I think it helped her to heal seeing me

I came home 2 year later Im still in touch with them I send her flowers and a card on Mothers Day with a message saying to my second mum have a great day see you soon xx

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Beautiful story!!! Congratulations!!! A real bromance!

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That was beautiful. I have longed for straight friends like that that would see me as one of the guys. I am so happy for you! Thanks for sharing.

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That was beautiful. I have longed for straight friends like that that would see me as one of the guys. I am so happy for you! Thanks for sharing.

Let me assure you, anyone who saw you hanging out would assume you are one of the guys... cause you are. We see ourselves as outside of what we want to be or be in tight with socially based on things that often go wayyyy back...and not to belittle that stuff, I was a tiny femmy boy who got bullied pretty much non stop, but I thought it was all because of x y and z and it turns out, some of it was, but most of it was because I grew up in a place and time where boys who bullied had dads who beat them stupid... and they hit everyone. My second big discovery was that you don't have to be self confident. You just have to fake it half decently...because a good chunk of all men are at any time, and as a result no one calls anyone out unless total asshole behaviour is happening... no one wants that, so they go superficial and say "yup he checks out" and the reason we look for confident men is that when your group is majority confident, it isn't likely to fall apart if shit hits the fan....and the guys who are less secure want cover...which is all of us most of our teens and twenties...but the crazy thing about faking it, is that the reactions you get that are different, better and more affirming ARE REAL...and those, those make you feel better and that starts a change. I throw in being affirming of others quietly and firmly and not being negative. If I have had a straight guy make a gay joke I throw it back in his face fast because that's exactly what his buddies would do... nothing bitchy, usually self deprecating but in a cocky way, and that fixes that. I had a colleague admonish me for "looking at his cock" in the locker...I said well, you're standing two inches from my head and spoke to me, and I barely managed to miss it...what was I supposed to look at...it fills my field of vision at...no distance from my nose...and he blushed and said holy shit man, you're totally right... I waited a few and said, don't sweat it, it's a nice cock.

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I believe that as men we all secretly want to belong, but aren't willing to give up too much of our individuality to get there. There's a fine line balancing our personal integrity and authenticity and responding to the groupthink and culture around us.
As one who identifies as straight, I see the gay/straight divide as being steered more by personal than sexual dynamics. People can't really choose to hide their race or ethnicicity in many cases in order to be like others, but sexuality is personal enough that it can be held in confidence and practiced discreetly. But is that the healthiest for the individual? Most often not. Therefore identifying as gay is an act of courage in its willingness to be different.
I remember in my 20's feeling envious of gay men who "came out". I too had my closet of repression to climb out of, though it wasn't sexual or easy to discern. Coming out wasn't about leading with your dick but rather having balls, which makes it a self-affirming deeply masculine process. Damn that's threatening to most men who fake it - a lot of it shit - and not necessarily until they make it. In the same vein, nudism is also something that can either affirm or scare others.
Showering naked with other men is a great equalizer in that whether we call attention to them or not, the fact that we all have balls is obvious. Once we get past the naked vulnerability part, we can open, grow, learn, transcend and transform. This is the dynamics of how gay culture is changing the concept of masculinity. We breeders may think we consider gay men a threat to our masculinity, but if we take a couple deep breaths, our internal voices are our greatest threat. Thank God for the authentic men such as those who've come out to affirm the inherent gift of having and celbrating having balls, and it's all good.

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I agree with everything Andy said. Couldn't have stated it better.

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Thats a great experience, certainly a valuable friendship to treasure for life.

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All great stories and such powerful men. So strong and so thankful you shared. Powerful bonds can happen when nude together and great when locker rooms are open for men to be men. Great guys on here for sure!

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