Talk Man To Man

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When man to man becomes man to troll

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This is a great initiative for authentic discussions of sharing integrity and insight. So far so good, unti the inevitable of social media happens: the trolls arrive, disparaging, condemning, taking thinks out of context just to rock your boat. It usually feels like someone has poisoned the well,

I've found a few things that can help: 1) defending others against attack, even if it has nothing to do with you 2) sending a personal response to someone if it could be mistaken by others for something else and 3) being willing to be vulnerable despite everything. Together, we discover our own courage to be men. Be prepared for when those trolls strike and tell them to go to the light.

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RE:When man to man becomes man to troll

Online and in real life, my strategy is "zero engagement." A troll is ultimately someone who just needs attention. They aren't going to be shouted down by sane, rational argument. They aren't going to evolve on whatever fucked up position they've staked or personal attack made in the thread. They aren't going to apologize to someone they offended. They. just. want. attention... good or bad. But... because I'm not a monster, I like to take a few seconds to empathize that they might be going thru some shit in their lives that's caused them to lash out at strangers on the internet, but then fuck them... BLOCK!

The best revenge we can enact on a troll is silence. Let them gnash their teeth, have their tantrums, and shout into the void ... I'm not going to engage with it on any level. Now imagine if everyone blocked them right from the start? Maybe if the troll doesn't get the needed attention from their shitty antics, they might learn a new behavior that does get them attention in a healthier, more constructive manner?... or not, and I don't care because they are blocked. LOL.

I like the idea of reaching out to the bullied to check in on them and let them know they are okay. But also, I'll be encouraging them to block the MFing troll.

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I find that being humble to others and seeing them as I would want to be seen is the route I am on and hope that other men share. I used to want that acceptance more than anything until I learned to be able to love myself for who I am. With some of that confidence I was able to meet others and realize that those that put me down had a problem with themselves. Once that reality set in I actually could be open to them. Still hurts but I knew it was them and not me.

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This is a great initiative for authentic discussions of sharing integrity and insight. So far so good, unti the inevitable of social media happens: the trolls arrive, disparaging, condemning, taking thinks out of context just to rock your boat. It usually feels like someone has poisoned the well,I've found a few things that can help: 1) defending others against attack, even if it has nothing to do with you 2) sending a personal response to someone if it could be mistaken by others for something else and 3) being willing to be vulnerable despite everything. Together, we discover our own courage to be men. Be prepared for when those trolls strike and tell them to go to the light.

Trolls hate sunlight. They also hate rules. This is true of physical spaces and digital ones:

1. Group Norms for each discussion. What is ok what is not ok. Everyone contributes and everyone signs on to follow their rules for engagement. Every single time. If someone is a nuisance they forfeit and have to leave.

2. Open identification. First name and city are the bare minimum. No ID? No honour.

3. As Anders says do not engage have another brother do it. I'm always here for that defense.

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RE:When man to man becomes man to troll

Very well said :-)

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