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This group has been created for the men out there who don't ask questions or speak about issues.Because men don't speak to eachorher about stuff, they don't realise that certain things is normal or not normal."Is this suppose to happen?" "Am I the only one?"Feel free to start topics, even if you're just curious about things.Woman talk to eachother all the time...
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Help in bedroom
Return to DiscussionsNot sure if my issue started here but about seven years ago I was having an unrelated issue and had an MRI. That showed a baseball size tumor on my kidney. Most of my kidney was removed and everything was okay. Fiv years of checkups and no issues. About the fourth year in it was discovered that I had Hodgkins Lymphoma. Caught very early and had an IV study drug no chemo or radiation its presently in remission. On about my six year anniversary for kidney issue Dr checks my PSA , normally for me 0.76. It jumped two point 2.85. Another MRI and he thinks I have prostate cancer. I looked at the scan and definitely a dark area in prostate. He does a biopsy on it and it comes back negative for cancer, thank god! All of this has taken a toll on me mentally but Im okay with whatever comes next, my wife on the other hand watches over me and anytime I say ow or say I dont feel well she trys to become a personal Dr. Now during all this Ive been going soft in the middle of having sex and cant get it back up for nothing. Ive tried pills and now they have me on testosterone cream and Im still having problems. Wife thinks its her and I know its taking a toll on us. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I do have a Dr but sometimes I just need to know if there are more out there. Thanks for reading
I would definitely let your endocrinologist know what is occurring when having sex. They may need to adjust your HRT / TRT (Testosterone Replacement Therapy). There are a number of things that I have been told by my endo that can impact the therapy. Also, if you are going flaccid during intercourse you could have some sort of circulatory issue and not know it. It may only show up in conditional situations. While we do not hear about it a lot, it does happen.
One thing I learned with the PSA test, you need to lay off the sex and ejaculation for a couple days or a week before taking the test. If not it can impact. I have my PSA checked at least once a year, my father had prostate cancer so.
I am going through TRT, I do he injections, I give myself 2 shots a week in the thigh totally 250mg of testosterone, I also take Anastrozole to block estrogen production. You may may hormone imbalances, has the Endo checked your labs. When you take Testosterone your body converts what you burn to Estrogen. As men, we need Estrogen to sustain bone density and other things. If the level it too low, you can have issues and same if it is too high. During sex, you may be spiking one some of the hormones and that may be something to look at. This is stuff that I have been learning as I navigate my own TRT process. I have been on TRT for going on 3 years now. Yearly your Endo should be checking your labs on hormones. Its a balance. Also, depending on your treatment type, it may not be the right one for you, I tried the pellet implants and they did not work for me. Injections in parts of the thigh does not hurt, so I do those myself.
BTW, I am not a doctor, so again this information is based on my experience. You will want to check with your doctor/ endo for sure.
Thank you, that is a lot to think about. I have only been on TRT for about 6 months and he has increased my dose. I do the jel on my shoulders every morning. Its just frustrating. Talking with Drs I sometimes wonder if they really listen because afterwards I dont feel any better when I leave and when I tell wife its just a waiting game for now I can see the sadness/frustration on her face also. Thanks for letting me vent and listening it means a lot.
My wife sailed through the menopause nearly 40 years ago and her sex drive is, if anything, stronger than it ever was. It may be significant that she started HRT early and due to a heriditary risk of osteo-porosis has never stopped. Or it could be that she never said no; only 'not now' so i never stopped asking. Or I could just be lucky in my choice of woman - my boyfriend has a woman of 70 who spent 20 years unfucked after her husband, who was not interested in sex, died.
So my advice is use it, or at least try to use it, or lose it
Hey there... I would talk to the Endo on something other than the Gel. I do the injections, it is the most affordable. I get a 10 ml vial of 250 mg testosterone using good RX for $42 for a 2 month supply. The syringes can cost a bit, but you can get those cheaper online if you search for them. You just have to make sure of the MM, they are sterile and the needles have the right tips. I would stay away from the implants personally. I did them and it was $1200 for a 5 to 6 month implant. The issue I found with the implant is that the body does not break down an absorb the testosterone on a consistent fashion, its more of a bell curve where are the injections you keep the curve flat if you maintain the same injection time. I do my injections on Tuesday and Thursday mornings at 06:30am. I did get some benefit from the implants, but the cost was prohibitive and it was not helping with the gym. I was starting to see some of the sexual benefits. When I switched over to the Injections, I was seeing stronger results (back to my 20's again) within 1 and 1/2 weeks of starting the injections. There are a number of factors to think about with TRT. You are going to get a lot of things back by supplementing. I have found that it is not an "Cure All". You can still experience ED. Some of that stuff I am finding are linked to the aging process. There is no escaping it. I hit 52 years of age this year. In taking the Test and my wage, with the body not producing testosterone, the testicles have lost mass. Also, while I still have erections they are not quite the same as when I was younger. Test does help, don't get me wrong, its just not the 100 all encompassing wonder drug that some think. I does help a lot though making it worth it.... There are times I still need to look to viagra or ciallis, again, there is not escaping the aging process. As noted in mast posts, I am not a medical professional, I am only going off of my own experiences going through TRT and the human aging process (the part that sux' - LOL!)....
Your welcome... There are a lot of options on the TRT. Also if you do some research on the google (have to weed through it) there are a lot of options you will find for ED and even prostate issue. I am fortunate to a degree, here in the State of Florida, Vanity is big and we have medical treatments for just about everything advertised. Not every state is like that, I know from my work travels. Also, I used to live in Virginia and at one time the only place you could buy shower curtains was at a drug store, so each state is different.
As with any treatment seen, I would always ask my doctor. Also one last thing about the Test, if the endo is not checking you B12 level, you will want to have that checked for 2 reasons. 1. Test can increase plaque in the arteries. B12 and B supplement prevents that. I am on one. Also it will impact your energy and maybe the libido. I inject a liquid B-Formula using an insulin syringe in the belly and I done feel it. It keeps things in check so something to look at.