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I found put last year l was born with Spinal Bifida Occulta. I have also never been able to get full erections due to nerve damage and my testicles are the size of small peas. I have never married or jad sex. I am Bisexual and l have the desires but nothing to full fill them any advice

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RE:Need a friend to talk to

I would feel both relieved and angry to learn about something that defines me so much but also so late in life. I would need a LOT of people to talk with. First to process the information and to deal with all the emotions and issues I may not have had a name for. Second to help me make the most of what I do have. In my case I have some back issues that would require surgery if I didn't address them. Instead of just getting by with the shortcomings, they've defined my journey to make me how I'm above and beyond. So my support has come from all kinds of people from counselors to chiropractic to exercise dudes, and it all forms a good whole and vital entity. I believe you can do the same and do it with the networks and resources you have, preferably locally. It's all a process and you're at exactly where you need to be, and all shall be well.

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I'm surprised that you just now found out about this. Seems odd that some medical professional didn't notice something was wrong a long time ago.

In all likelihood, it wouldn't have made any difference, but I would have wanted to know a very long time ago.

Moving forward, if I were you, I'd make an appointment with a psychologist -- keep in mind that it can sometimes take a while to find one you like. So, if you don't like the first one -- or two -- or three -- don't give up.

I would also look for a friend I could really talk with and be totally open about what was going on.

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A couple of things need to be addressed:

First, in truly nudist environments, nobody gives a damn about how big your testicles are, any more than people care about how big a woman's breasts are or how many fingers you have, etc. They take you exactly as you are, so anything that you consider deficits in your body should be of no concern to you regarding what other people may think.

Second, I agree with those who recommend counseling. I also encourage you to see if there are support groups for people in your situation. You are not alone. There are hundreds of people who share your condition, and surely there are enough of them with internet connections to connect with. If simply using a search engine doesn't turn them up, go to sites that offer general counseling for other psychological issues, because they may have a list of resources that you can use.

Good luck! Don't try to compare yourself and your capabilities with other people and theirs. Just be the person you are.

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