Plus Size Ladies
Hello. I have been a home nudist for over 20yrs, I am at a point in my life where I would like to venture out and experience social nudity. My wife on the other hand has serious body image issues and the negative attitude that goes with it. She is plus size, a BBW, however you would like to call it. She has curves. She is about 5'6", size 16-18 and is a 42DDD. I like all of that, in fact I love all of that. I like bigger women but she has such a negative image of herself no matter what I say, it doesn't help. Her attitude, not her size, has affected our sex life and our marriage. She will not even go topless inside our home. Are there any ladies, or men, who have the same troubles that can offer some advice as to how to change her self image? I love seeing her nude but there is little chance unless something changes. Thanks
hey there, so sorry to read this message, I dont think there is a simple, quick-fix, answer but there might be some things that may help, if only a little. For me, I started by posting nude pictures where there was no possible way to be identified, it wasnt about exhibitionism as much coming to terms with the fact that i wasnt what I considered to be "perfect". It was so scary at first and I was terrified of the response but in reality, unless you are specifically posting to a place where you are actively seeking abuse (yes, such places actually exist but TN is certainly not one of those) you will be amazed by the outpouring of support. of course there are potentially some nasty people out there but they are very rare in general and even more rarely nasty towards women who have been brave enough to share. I realise that this may be an unrealistic option, if she is already very apprehensive, the urge to strip off for the camera to be posted online is going to be low, I found it very cathartic, like there was something released and I had taken back some of the power that I had willingly handed over. it is very difficult to describe but this did work for me.
I spoke to a gentleman a few weeks ago who sounded like he had a very similar home situation, he and his wife had bravely tried a clothing optional camping/caravan site and over the time they were there they spoke to other similar aged and shaped people who really helped his wife to discover a step change in her comfort with being nude, even though she remained clothed for much of the trip it gave her some confidence to be more comfortable being naked in private which I would consider to be a great "win" for her.
this might sound like a surprising statement but I know really slim girls who are just as scared to be nude as your wife, there are muscular, handsome guys who are afraid, girls with big boobs and small, skinny guys, plus size women, the anxiety and nerves can impact every shape and size of person. I hope she has the support and courage to keep trying, it only gets easier and more fun when she will eventually get past the initial scared phase and remember, nude doesnt have to mean TOTALLY nude, it can be topless, or it can be a light shawl/dress or even a bikini that matches her skin tone, if it helps, it helps!
very best of luck to you both on this journey!
Hello friend, i ve been experiencing quitr the same problems as u. My wife has put on some weight the last 2 years, and she wont evenngo topless in the house when we are alone. Let alone on a beach. We used to practise nudism together a few years back but since she put on weight she has changed radically. I cant blame her because when i had put on some weight myself i didnt feel lime going nude as well but i surpassed it and got nude no matter what. After that i managed to lose some weight and gained my confidence back.
But in her case, she feels totally inattractive and ugly and she thinks that other will laught at her.
She is not even bbw, she is 1.65cm and 78kg. I find that quite normal. But she used to be alot thinner and now she despises her image. If only u could see her u could tell hkw oretty she still is.
No matter how much i try to make her understand that she looks stunning she is stubborn as a mule. Im with u in this but dont know how to help u.
We visit a clothing optional resort. Years before we met I visited the resort by myself. While I was sitting on the beach by myself a couple slowly walked by. The woman who was a BBW was cheerful and elated. I said I had a feeling why she was so happy. She proceeded to tell me that her husband talked her into visiting the resort even though she was afraid she wouldnt get a warm welcome because of her size. As she told me this I saw tears running down her cheeks. It turned out the reaction she got from others was so heartwarming that she said she was completely naked within a half hour. She was so thrilled that she took her husbands advice. Ive seen them on occasion since then. Taking the first step like this woman did may convince that nudists in general are more concerned with ones character than body shape or size.
Had the same issue with my wife at first.
Back in the day she wouldnt even wear a tank top let alone a bathing suit.
I finally got her to go to a nudist resort, my advice is go on a weekday because normally way less crowded, usually only the regulars who have seen every shape and size.
Also maybe try a clothing optional where she doesnt have to undress.
By your description your wife will not be the biggest gal there.
Oh yeah my wife had a good bit of tequila beforehand our first time.
Now she has her top off before we get thru the gate
If all the ladies in the world woke up tomorrow morning liking themselves, a whole lot of businesses and industries would go belly up, losing billions of dollars in profits!! All these companies are preying on the female insecurities that they have artificially created in the first place, in the name of the almighty dollar!! Naturism/nudism is the perfect antidote to our sexist patriarchal society's ill, like sexism, misogyny, chauvinism, body insecurities, body phobias, body shaming, the objectification and sexualization of the female gender, etc.!! Naturists/nudists look at one's character, not how they look. We come in all shapes, sizes, ages, abilities, colors, ethnicities, nationalities, creeds, etc. We are all unique induvidual human beings!! In the general outlook we are the same but in the small, tiny, minute, distinctive and personal details we are all different!! Just imagine 7.6+ billion different human beings!! The mind boggles!! The dynamics are totally different in a naturist/nudist environment from a textile one!! Go and enjoy the nude way of life, to hell with the haters, the bullies, etc. who thrive in the textile world but are (almost) non-existent in our naked world.
I for one think a woman is at her best when she has curve. Beauty in women very a great deal but women that is plus size is attractive in ways that others don't understand. They are extremely attractive to me and a lot of other men. Never ever cut your self short thinking being a plus size is negative when in fact it is a POSTIVE.
A brilliant reply and completely agree.
My late wife had a gorgeously curvy body in my opinion, in hers she was fat and ugly. She only agreed to go on a nudist beach because it happened to be there right next to our holiday hotel, the sea looked so inviting and there were not many other people around and most of the time her body would be in the sea. Turns out that she just loved the experience, could recognise that her body was of course normal and lovely as are all bodies. It was such a fantastically positive experience and did loads for her confidence. I do appreciate that it is a huge step and one that not everyone will be able to take ....but so far I have found nudists to be the most wonderfully uplifting group of people you could happen to meet, From David, 2 stone overweight and definitely not a 'shower' - and who cares!
this might sound like a surprising statement but I know really slim girls who are just as scared to be nude as your wife.. nude doesnt have to mean TOTALLY nude, it can be topless, or it can be a light shawl/dress or even a bikini that matches her skin tone, if it helps, it helps!
So true friend my wife has always been small and petite but has struggled her entire life with self image especially with anxiety of being nude and unaccepted. Its really heart breaking but her parents were super judgmental and always worried about their status in the community. Sucks! Almost mental abuse when you think about even from society judging woman (and men). As she is getting older and after kids she has put on a few pounds and has a little more curve and BBw about her which has lowered her progress and added more self image struggle. So I know how you feel. I just keep reassuring her beauty and try to show her that her body is beautiful either way and that nudist dont view the body that way in a judgmental manner. We all have our flaws.
Hope it helps.
Same for my wife also. She had a a baby when she was 16. From then on she thought that her body was not pretty. It took years for me to show her the truth.
The most beautiful woman are the ones that Smile . I mean that they believe in them selves. Head up, chest out and that look of confidence. Oh so Beautiful !