Father And Son Nude Bonding
Fathers and Sons who have either been naked with each other or Fathers and/or Sons who have wanted to have that kind of relationship. This is a group for discussions concerning both.
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A disadvantage for fathers, when it comes to bonding with sons?
Return to DiscussionsBoys are bonded to their mothers since even before birth, and then there is the process of birth and nursing. That makes the mothers care for their kids as an extension of their selves, and as something which is the most valuable thing in existence, for them. Not generalizing all mothers, as there are people who have not had good experiences with theirs. Also, not saying that the dads don't value their kids (sons, in this instance), but generally it doesn't come easy to them. Dad-son relationships are amongst the most strained ones, in general, with sons wanting more, and dads not knowing how to give more.
Do you this that nature has somehow put dads to a disadvantage, when it comes to bonding, due to lack of possible ways of physical intimacy? And how do you think this can be corrected in a perfect world?
I have always heard your point of view, and it maybe the majority of cases. However, in my case I believe that my kid is actually more attached to me than his mother, with the exception when he was a toddler. But even then, when he was crying, it was with me that he would calmed down.
I am so happy for you and your son. And as i said earlier, i am sure there are many fathers who have played a role more important than the mothers, in their kids' lives. I also hope that more and more fathers and sons have a relationship as yours.
A son needs his father as an emotional support as well as for being a gender idol. Someone on whom the sins can base their gender confidence on. Where there's nothing which is taboo. Just the true connection, in its pure form.
I agree that parent-child relationships and bonds are complex and nuanced. I have two sons. The first one seemed to bond with me at birth and I'll never forget the ways his eyes connected with mine when he was only a few minutes old. He seemed to recognize my voice and was curious to get a better look at me. The bond between my second son and his mother was as immediate.
Raising sons, I felt a deep joy/sadness; joy for having them and sadness for not knowing how to bond or interact with them, as my father was absent as typical of his "silent generation." So I decided I'd have to accept I had no clue and would raise myself along with them, all while my wife left me due to mental illness and then instigated new parenting complications such as her dating an abusive alcoholic bipolar cop.
The key factor for the father/son bond is gender alignment. As an old saying goes, a mother can bring a boy into the world, but only a father can transform him into a man. For me, with my sons now 18 and 20, this has been an imperfect and perilous journey. But we put up with and love one another enough that I am happy to continue to support them as they find their way in this wide world.
Thanks for sharing your story. It's really great that you got to bond with your elder son, and sorry to hear about your sons having been treated badly by the guy your ex was dating.
I do agree, when you say, "happy/sad feeling". I don't have a son, so i can't say what i would feel like, but it must feel so happy, proud and masculine, to know that you have created a man. And on the same note, it must feel really scary as well, considering our generation doesn't have many wonderful experiences with our fathers, to reference our parenting style upon.
But the key is to always be willing to change and adapt to new things.
Do you all think nudism between fathers and sons can play a role in making the relationship stronger?
I am sure that physical contact between father and son strengthens the bond and helps to reduce the barriers that time and differences create in the relationships between them. Perhaps because there is no link between pregnancy and breastfeeding, the father needs to make a greater effort to establish this bond with the son and being open to physical contact from an early age is essential.
The physical contact I had with my dad brings me good emotional memories and despite the differences, I am sure of his love because he always showed it not just in words but physically.
[...]The physical contact I had with my dad brings me good emotional memories and despite the differences, I am sure of his love because he always showed it not just in words but physically.
I totally agree. Was the same at me.
I have never heard this "As an old saying goes, a mother can bring a boy into the world, but only a father can transform him into a man" and it's so true. For many years I struggled thinking I didn't have the bond that I wanted with my son. My ex wife was always in the way. But I know now it's not true. Thanks for helping me recognize that I transformed that boy into a man.
Yeah agree up to a point its a disadvantage but as one myself with my husband, we have been lucky to find the exact opposite but then I know its a unique situation what we have and we are so lucky for that
[...]but only a father can transform him into a man" and it's so true. [...]
Yes, that's true. Its a natural rule, that only a father can transform a boy to a man. I was transformed by my father and nudist mentors. Only by them, since teenage I'm a passional nudist and man.
But the key is to always be willing to change and adapt to new things. Do you all think nudism between fa thers and s ons can play a role in making the relationship stronger?
You are so correct that adaptation is key. Things may change for the better or worse, but they will always change, and that's the only thing to count on. Adaptation is also the key to our evolution as both individuals and as a species. The role of nudity can also strengthen the bond between f ahters and s ons. A naked f ather is authentic, vulnerable and natural to a s on, modeling what he will become physically and may choose to become emotionally and spiritually - free and unrestained. Notice I said nudity, not nudism, at least the social nudism of being included as a young family with others who are comfortable with nudity. I can't speak of the role of family nudism with my s ons because local resorts discriminated against us for not being accompanied by a woman. So we remain clothing casualists, but don't call nudists!