Male Bonding2
For those who like to explore the concept and dynamics of male bonding. Men are socialized in different ways in different societies, and so many men would like to have close male friendships, yet after spending time establishing a career, primary relationship and live in general, find themselves without close male friends. Many of us want male friends with whom we can share openly without...
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Unexpected cuddling with another guy
Return to DiscussionsHey guys, I thought I'd share an interesting and fun story that happened to me last night and this mornng..So I have a workmate, Kevin, who has become a good friend over the years. He's straight. He knows I'm gay. Never been an issue. We don't hang out too often outside of work. But we'll grab lunch together during the work day and chat a little here and there during the day. Nice guy. We've never talked about nudity (it's a challenge to bring that up at work)..Last night our coworker was having a retirement party. A lot of the office crowd went. It was fun. Open bar. I had a little too much to drink and figured I shouldn't drive home. Kevin's apartment was in walking distance so he offered for me to crash at his place..I should mention that I was wearing a kilt. So, when we got back to his place, I realized that it was an "efficiency apartment, which is basically a very small studio apartment. Just a bed and a bathroom and a tiny kitchen area. And it was insanely hot in there. Kevin then said that he can't regulate the heat. The heat is for the entire building and he has no thermostat. And then he starts stripping down. Well, me being in a kilt, I wasn't wearing any underwear either. So I undressed too..I went to the bathroom and when I came back, Kevin was already asleep, naked, in bed. I was like "ok" and jumped in with him. (It was a queen size bed) and passed out promptly..Hours later, I wake up and he's cuddling me in his sleep. I'm "small spoon" and he's nuzzled up behind me. His beard between my shoulder blades and his arm draped over my torso. It felt great..I fell back to sleep, really enjoying the comfort of his naked body against mine..When we woke up in the morning, we had moved apart at some point and were sleeping on our own sides of the bed. I didn't mention it and he didn't either. But neither of us had any issue being naked in bed together. We chatted for a bit about the party and I got up and got dressed and left. Now I wonder if he's a nudist too. I'm looking forward to more nude fun with Kevin. Hopefully more cuddling.
Great discussion guys. I never can figure why if a man is straight and therefore not attracted sexually to other males he would have any hesitation to cuddling with a male close friend. It can be a truly beautiful bonding experience clothed or nude.
The great thing is that this discussion is even happening, because if nothing else I feel it helps each of us to be more open to male bonding, which has to start somewhere and what better place than with us. The absence of male bonding is, to my mind, one of the largest factors contributing to the epidemic of depression in older males. Let's embrace each other, support each other and have a healthier life.
The great thing is that this discussion is even happening, because if nothing else I feel it helps each of us to be more open to male bonding, which has to start somewhere and what better place than with us. The absence of male bonding is, to my mind, one of the largest factors contributing to the epidemic of depression in older males. Let's embrace each other, support each other and have a healthier life.
I'll drink to that!! :)
I think this sort of thing is happening more and more with each new generation. People often confuse male intimacy with sexual orientation and men have isolated themselves from the kind of intimacy that is possible with other men in a non sexual way. I think gay men have also confused this intimacy with sex. Which leaves lots of men without outlets for intimate bonding.
I think this sort of thing is happening more and more with each new generation. People often confuse male intimacy with sexual orientation and men have isolated themselves from the kind of intimacy that is possible with other men in a non sexual way. I think gay men have also confused this intimacy with sex. Which leaves lots of men without outlets for intimate bonding.
Good point. We live in a highly sexualized society, therefore there must be some sexual undertone in everything and anything, even when there is none or should be none.
I guess that's why it's so cool. There didnt appear to be anything sexual about it at all. I mean, he was definitely totally asleep. and his cock wasn't hard.
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As an update, we've hung out twice this week for lunch at work. Our dynamic hasn't changed at all. Still friendly and laughing. We've talked loosely about getting together again this weekend. No definite plans. Perhaps go see a movie and grab a drink. He's also offered to help me rake leaves at my place. Apparently he enjoys yard work and has no yard at his apartment building.
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Pretty cool. If it happens I'll bring up my nudism somehow and see if he's cool with it.
AussieDain summarised it succinctly. Cuddling and hugging are part of the human condition. It does not immediately correlate with sex. It is both a need and a joy to hug others, be it male or female. Why the ongoing hang-ups in our societies.Hugging is a sure way to show friendship and a great stress reliever.
I lay in the bed with my brother naked. We sleep together at times naked. I am gay, he is not. We have no hangups about being naked together. Our Parents are extremely conservative, they do not agree with nudism, homosexuality, or males sleeping with males. Unfortunately we live under their roof and they can not know we are nudists, I am gay, or that we sleep together at times.
Deryck