You make an interesting point about the elephant in the room and attempts to ignore or trivialize the impact. There seems to be a tendency to take outlier type experiences a guy with oversized testicles" and position them as normal for nudists and rationalize them for the general public. It seems like an effort to justify certain behavior. I just keep asking myself why? Why try to take behavior that is clearly limited to a small group of people and try to make it the norm?Some folks just want to ignore the elephant, pretend it is just a small, un-noticed accessory and wonder about all the fuss.
StevieLorna wrote:Was he deformed in some manner?Sitting down for men isnt an issue.
He didn't seem to be. He just felt that it was more comfortable for him.
I kind of agree with the argument that outlier's behavior shouldn't be construed as the norm. All the same, I'm willing to cut that guy some slack, since I knew he wasn't bullshitting me. He's one of the most honest and unassuming people I've ever met.
But I don't buy the idea that just because somebody does something for a good reason (at least to him) means that somebody else can do it for a clearly frivolous reason.
I wear a cock ring at home naked as well as clothed. It is clear and does not draw attention to itself, though it positions my penis and testicles to be more prominent. I haven't worn it at a nude beach because there are none around. I consider my cock ring a good tool - combined with a lot of focused exercise - for improving my anterior pelvic tilt. This is a condition where my genitals are positioned under my stomach and my butt sticks out due to weak core muscles caused by too much sitting. Now my legs, stomach and chest are more aligned and as a result my penis is more proudly in front. I still have a long way to go (ncluding losing an inch of belly fat) and consider my cock ring positive reinforcement. Perhaps we should consider women's brassiers an elephant in the room because they call attention to their breasts and unnaturally defy gravity.
You know if an individual wants to use pretzel logic to justify their own behavior I dont have an issue.
Its the generalization of that to normalize that makes it unttenable for me. Don't try to normalize what are individual actions as generally accepted norms of behavior for the nudist community.It never ceases to amaze the excuses and the whataboutery the older single man can devise to justify his choice.
Since I don't know this person I would not presume to make assumptions about his motives or intent. My concern is using that individuals actions to justify the behavior in general since it isn't easily generalized to a norm in the broader population of the nudist and naturist community.But I don't buy the idea that just because somebody does something for a good reason (at least to him) means that somebody else can do it for a clearly frivolous reason.
An update of sorts:
I posted something about a friend of mine who used a cock-and-ball ring, which he claimed made him more comfortable by pulling his scrotum forward so that his balls didn't get in the way of his sitting down or moving. One of the posters on the thread scoffed at the idea.
Well, I was cleaning out my garage a couple of weeks ago and found some rings, one of which was about 2 inches in diameter. On a whim, I put it on to see if it made a difference. As it happened, I went on a weekend camp-out at a nudist resort here, and wore it much of the time. My pubic hair concealed it from public view, although at this particular resort, it would have been tolerated if it were visible.
Result: it did what my friend claimed. It wasn't as marked on my body as it was on his, because his scrotum was larger than mine, but it definitely got the testicles more out of the way when I was sitting. Erotic effect: zero. Pleasure effect: almost nil, although I did feel it, and liked the small difference it made, simply because it was different than the usual sensation. Much like wearing contact lenses or a watch, it's something you feel but don't notice it once the novelty wears off.
So if I saw somebody wearing such a device, I wouldn't give it a second thought. It works as advertised, and I'd put it in the same category as a support bra for a full-breasted woman, or sandals or sunglasses when the environment mandates them. If it were heavily adorned with jewels or something, that would be a different matter entirely.
I met a guy at Studland wearing a cock ring. We discussed it at length and then he allowed me to remove it and then he fitted it on me. Then heremoved it and I fitted it back on him. interesting exercise!
Studland beach is Englands most well known naturist beach. Right now it is fighting for its continued existence because of the unacceptable behaviour of a few perverts. Everyone who uses this beach knows this, but it seems one interesting experience is more important to some.
Woodsman thanks for taking on the social experiment, but its just like an underwire bra?
Seriously?
Sounds like just another excuse.
I met a guy at Studland wearing a cock ring. We discussed it at length and then he allowed me to remove it and then he fitted it on me. Then heremoved it and I fitted it back on him. interesting exercise!
With respect, and depending on the style of ring involved, I cannot help but think this trading of jewelry between strangers is way too personal an exchange in a public forum. Considering that both men were essentially handling each other's genitals during the transfer, the allowance of this kind of activity is what will probably make Studland into just another place lost to healthy social nudity -- unless this scene happened back in the dunes or otherwise out of view of the general population. Seeing two guys wandering back into the dunes lends the bare space an air of overt sexual activity. That has doomed many naturist's places. I don't care to bring my nude family for an afternoon of sun and fun anywhere near that adult action. All I'd hear would be, "Grampa, where are those men going? Is there a playground back there?" Why yes, there is a playground, but only for consenting adults - and this sort of sexualized interaction will likely ruin the natural place for wholesome nudism. It happened locally to the only beach we had, a nature preserve which allowed nudism to be practiced until a sexual element began and became news and the authorities did what they had to do to stop people fucking around on the sand in view of everyone.
A more 'interesting exercise' would be to keep hands to oneself on a public beach, and try to remember that the bigger picture is more important than any instant gratification achieved by the tempt of intimate contact, and the likely attachment of libidinous-driven action to nudism by those people who don't know any better. Instead, exercise restraint - keep nude beaches out of controversy and keep them open.