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nudist_in_canada Textile Joined: 11/02/2009 Location: V 1 posts	Starting a family in an anti-nudist environment 3 weeks ago My situation is a bit complex, and I need some advice on how to move forward. I am a male nudist, under 30. My wife is not interested in social nudism, but is very comfortable being nude around the house. We are just starting a family and we would like to have a "nudist" or "clothing optional" household. Left on our own, the answer would be "sure, we`ll go nude at home", but we have some obstacles: 1. My wife`s extended family is large and very conservative, though some of my wife`s cousins have been told or hinted to. Our kids will have a lot of non-nudist cousins or second-cousins that they will see fairly regularly. 2. We will eventually live right next door to some of my wife`s immediate family, none of whom are nudists. Some of her family are aware that we go nude at home, but others would be very anti-nudism. We`ve no idea how to define any logical "rules" regarding when our children should be clothed or not. We are worried about confusing our children, making them simultaneously unashamed of their bodies, but also encouraging them to hide our true behaviour when in the presence of extended family. Does anyone have suggestions on how to handle this? Should we encourage the children to go nude when "it`s just us as a family", and somehow equate nudism with family time? How should we handle sleepovers if our children are accustomed to being nude in the evenings? How can we minimise the risk of backlash from family and friends who are not understanding of nudism? We need to answer these kinds of questions before we can consider raising our children as nudists. Note that I am aware of how nudism can be beneficial for children. Also, we cannot choose our living arrangements or live further away from family. We will at the least have our own separate living space, so that is fortunate. Thanks!

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Starting a family in an anti-nudist environment

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My situation is a bit complex, and I need some advice on how to move forward.
I am a male nudist, under 30. My wife is not interested in social nudism, but is very comfortable being nude around the house. We are just starting a family and we would like to have a "nudist" or "clothing optional" household. Left on our own, the answer would be "sure, we`ll go nude at home", but we have some obstacles:
1. My wife`s extended family is large and very conservative, though some of my wife`s cousins have been told or hinted to. Our kids will have a lot of non-nudist cousins or second-cousins that they will see fairly regularly.
2. We will eventually live right next door to some of my wife`s immediate family, none of whom are nudists. Some of her family are aware that we go nude at home, but others would be very anti-nudism.
We`ve no idea how to define any logical "rules" regarding when our children should be clothed or not. We are worried about confusing our children, making them simultaneously unashamed of their bodies, but also encouraging them to hide our true behaviour when in the presence of extended family.
Does anyone have suggestions on how to handle this? Should we encourage the children to go nude when "it`s just us as a family", and somehow equate nudism with family time? How should we handle sleepovers if our children are accustomed to being nude in the evenings? How can we minimise the risk of backlash from family and friends who are not understanding of nudism? We need to answer these kinds of questions before we can consider raising our children as nudists.
Note that I am aware of how nudism can be beneficial for children. Also, we cannot choose our living arrangements or live further away from family. We will at the least have our own separate living space, so that is fortunate.
Thanks!

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curt44319 Butt Naked Joined: 05/07/2009 Location: Akron, Ohio 372 posts	RE: Starting a family in an anti-nudist environment 3 weeks ago While I have no personal experience to relate, it seems that you just don`t make a big deal out of it. No one has a problem with a little kid running around naked. They all do that. No big deal. The rest of the family doesn`t need to know when the kids go to bed, whether or not they brush their teeth in the morning, or evening, or whether they wear pajamas, or whether you get a cat, or a dog, or who takes care of the pet. It seems that if you put this in that same vein, it likely won;t be a problem, though there`s never a guarantee. Hopefully, you`ll get some response from some of those that were raised nudist, and they`ll have a more direct perspective.... Cowboy......

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RE: Starting a family in an anti-nudist environment

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While I have no personal experience to relate, it seems that you just don`t make a big deal out of it.
No one has a problem with a little kid running around naked. They all do that. No big deal.
The rest of the family doesn`t need to know when the kids go to bed, whether or not they brush
their teeth in the morning, or evening, or whether they wear pajamas, or whether you get a cat,
or a dog, or who takes care of the pet.
It seems that if you put this in that same vein, it likely won;t be a problem, though there`s never
a guarantee.

Hopefully, you`ll get some response from some of those that were raised nudist, and they`ll
have a more direct perspective....

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Gerry-4 Topless Joined: 09/21/2009 Location: Fredericton, New Brunswick 89 posts	RE: Starting a family in an anti-nudist environment 3 weeks ago My children have come to know when it`s okay to be nude and when it`s not. For sleepovers, they usually have at least some underwear. Otherwise, we rarely receive anyone anyway, so it`s not much of a problem. Our bathroom door is never shut and, and even in the coldest months of winter, we’ll walk naked from our respective bedrooms to the bath tub. Do you expect people to be visiting regularly? Are you natural entertainers? Children usually learn quickly what can and can`t be done, and in what circumstances. However, there can be problems. I do remember one instance where a couple I know had a daughter who once was going to have a friend stay overnight for a sleepover. Their daughter quite naturally and matter-of-factly mentioned to her friend that her father had a penis and told her what its function was. The visiting girl found this so interesting she had to phone her mother to tell her all the details. This led to a rather heated discussion between both mothers as to what was acceptable for children that age. Unfortunately, the two young girls never got to see each other again. It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so. -- Mark Twain

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RE: Starting a family in an anti-nudist environment

3 weeks ago

My children have come to know when it`s okay to be nude and when it`s not. For sleepovers, they usually have at least some underwear. Otherwise, we rarely receive anyone anyway, so it`s not much of a problem. Our bathroom door is never shut and, and even in the coldest months of winter, we’ll walk naked from our respective bedrooms to the bath tub.

Do you expect people to be visiting regularly? Are you natural entertainers? Children usually learn quickly what can and can`t be done, and in what circumstances.

However, there can be problems. I do remember one instance where a couple I know had a daughter who once was going to have a friend stay overnight for a sleepover. Their daughter quite naturally and matter-of-factly mentioned to her friend that her father had a penis and told her what its function was. The visiting girl found this so interesting she had to phone her mother to tell her all the details. This led to a rather heated discussion between both mothers as to what was acceptable for children that age.
Unfortunately, the two young girls never got to see each other again.

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