Hi there,
I have been nudist for some time now and recently been wearing a ball stretcher.
Although I find it a pleasure to wear, I haven't seen much nudist wearing 'jewellery' at resorts or beaches.
The only place I have seen cockering was at Chargo del Plato.
Is this been frowned upon when wearing it at the beaches or resorts?
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- GA
Feb 5, 2019We need thumbs up and down on the forums so people can see how others feel about their comments. Maybe there is one and I just don't see it.
Thumbs Up on your comment. I joined to be with nudists. I'm finding it difficult to find them. I was chatting with a guy in pm. Just discussing everyday stuff. Somehow the chat got to be about our wives. He asks if my wife and I are "f***ing" a lot. I told him I was surprised by his comment and that my sex life was not the target of our conversation. He replied "I'm sorry, I just get so horny on this site". I was tempted to just block him right then and there. Is it just me, I don't get horny looking at other nudists. And its not like my libido is dead or anything. It just takes way more than a naked body to do it for me.
Anyway, co-rant over.
ReagierenAntworten - HO
Feb 16, 2019[quote]We need thumbs up and down on the forums so people can see how others feel about their comments. Maybe there is one and I just don't see it. .[/quote] Definite would be a good feature to addReagierenAntworten - CO
May 26, 2019[quote]Commercial pools can kill all the commonly transmittable STI's instantly except Hep C. Urine isn't a health risk, but the added fluids to make for unpleasant potential.[/quote] I'm not particularly worried about an ounce or two of body fluids diluted in 30,000 gallons (or more) of chlorinated water. And what most people don't even realize, is that healthy urine is sterile. Someone had sex in the pool? So what?ReagierenAntworten - NO
Jun 11, 2019My imaginary friend likes genital jewelry and has commented several times to me why didn't I think of that.
ReagierenAntworten - NW
Aug 18, 2019Im curios as to why its ok to shave ones genitals to draw attention to them but if you add jewelry you get labeled as a pervert. I cant for work have jewelry seen other then a wedding ring so I have a couple and like it and so does the wife. I do not keep them in for sex most the time.
ReagierenAntworten - FU
Aug 19, 2019Shaving, at least for most of us, is a personal preference comfort issue. Some say shaving is wrong. Jewelry is a personal preference of a different type but still a personal preference. I know my wife some friends and I all think jewelry looks ridiculous so we wouldnt have it. But we all say if thats what you like then go for it. We may think it looks ridiculous but otherwise it has no impact or bearing to us. Some say shaving looks ridiculous as well. Id say neither qualifies one as a pervert, its just personal preference.
ReagierenAntworten - NWAug 19, 2019[quote]Shaving, at least for most of us, is a personal preference comfort issue. Some say shaving is wrong. Jewelry is a personal preference of a different type but still a personal preference. I know my wife some friends and I all think jewelry looks ridiculous so we wouldnt have it. But we all say if thats what you like then go for it. We may think it looks ridiculous but otherwise it has no impact or bearing to us. Some say shaving looks ridiculous as well. Id say neither qualifies one as a pervert, its just personal preference.[ Thats a good way to put it.ReagierenAntworten
- SE
Oct 13, 2019Yes, I agree, well said. I'm disappointed, though not surprised, in comments like 'all genital jewelry says to me is ...look at me I'm an idiot !!!', 'any man that in anyway decorates his dick or makes it the center of attention and says its not sexual is doing just one thing pissing on your foot and telling you its raining !!!' and 'genital jewelry is just a method of screaming, "look at me".
This type of judgemental language is like some would use to criticise nudists - all of us - in general... perverts, weirdos, exhibitionists, worse. Let's not descend to that type of name-calling. If genital jewellery isn't your thing, that's fine. If it is, that's fine as well. I don't go around judging people's rings on their fingers, or in their ears, or people's tattoos. (Well, maybe I do but I accept that it's purely my opinion.) I wear a cock-ring sometimes, most often when I'm home on my own, not because I'm screaming 'look at me' (not much point in that), but because I quite like the sensation. I've worn one only once 'in public' at Le Cap d'Agde, and enjoyed the sensation and the freedom of being able to do it, but on the libertine beach there a cock-ring barely gets a look anyway.
There's no such thing as a 'real nudist', unless it's simply someone, like all of us here, who prefers to be naked. Just because someone wears a genital piercing doesn't make them any less of a nudist. Go down that track of 'purity' and you're into the land of the witch-burners.ReagierenAntworten - KE
Oct 13, 2019Well I feel like I have to give my two-cents on this and I hope I can do it without being offensive to anyone - reason being that nudists are ostracized and misunderstood enough that I hate it when some people are so opinionated in any aspect of nudism as to preclude one's participation or comfort in participating in it, because our rights and freedoms eroding continually it doesn't do us any good to be divided...
1) No one other than the person with the piercing knows the reason for having the piercing (and it's no one else's business). Many people do it for themselves and it becomes visible because they're nude, while many people do it solely because they like the aesthetic. Maybe someone has done it because their partner likes it, and maybe it was a rite of passage or it marked an event in a person's life; regardless of the reason it's not for anyone to judge.
2) Does it matter what a man does with his penis as long as he's not being sexual with it when participating as a social nudist? As long as a man isn't thrusting his erection into other people's faces does it matter what it looks like when he's not being sexual? As nudists we'd all say "don't stare" and that means whether there is a piercing or not.
3) If body modifications do become relevant then all modifications should, and that would include shaving, breast augmentation, using hair dye or make-up (among other things). I don't shame anyone for doing what makes them feel better or happier with their body if it doesn't impact me and none of these practices do.
4) Shaving has been acceptable in resorts and on beaches for many years, and people have for centuries attempt to alter or eradicate body hair. Body piercings date back to ancient Rome and ancient India. The practice of tattooing and piercing is just as old as the practice of shaving, and nothing objectifies an adult's genitalia more than removing all of the hair that marks us as adults, but I say go to town with your Gillette or let it all grow - it's your choice, just as piercing is.
5) Some nudists think that genitalia is no different than any part of the body: to some piercing any part of their body is no different than piercing your ears, and no one is complaining about that, however 20-30 years ago the practice for men was thought to be inappropriate. The same complaints being made about genital piercings are not being made about anything above the neck, an odd argument from people who believe we shouldn't be ashamed of our genitalia but have strong opinions about what others do with them.
6) Religious remonstrances doesn't work in this argument - we're not all the same religion, nudism is not a religion, and if some uses Christian principles as their argument I'd ask them if they consume pork, attend a church that allows women to speak, watch football ( or basketball or soccer), or has ever worn a man-made fabric.
7) This protest does not make any allowance for different cultures or for a person to own what happens to their own body and is the opposite of inclusion.
8) It is not for any person to have to explain to your child why any portion of their body looks they way it does, including piercings. If your child is at a nudist resort they have already seen every conceivable body type and body alteration already and it would have been up to the parent to explain them Hell, if your child has been let out of the house in the past 30 year you'd have had to already explain tattooing and piercing to them, so I assume in this case a parent could explain what the terms "personal freedom" and "democracy" mean.
People need to understand that in this day and age people will do various things to their bodies in order to express themselves and should accept that. I'd also state that the reason that organized social nudity is in decline is because a great many youth are more at liberty to do with their body want they want (as opposed to following the social normative blindly) and as such are probably viewing dialogues like this and want no part of the judgement.
Some of the comments made on the thread have been hateful and belittling - not what I would have expected from a group so unfairly treated and portrayed by so many others when calling themselves nudists, and the lack of tolerance here has been saddening...ReagierenAntworten - KEOct 13, 2019
Appreciate that my friend , it's good to know that I've associated myself with good, kind, thoughtful people who are respectful of others - you're a good man.
ReagierenAntworten - MIMitgliedOct 13, 2019
Couldn't agree more. Our bodies our choices.
ReagierenAntworten - JA
Oct 13, 2019Kevin has made the point & covered the issue thoroughly. As one who has been austricised by our peers for having genital piercings, he certainly speaks for me. There is nothing more that I can add to his comments other than to simply say "Thank you!"
JayReagierenAntworten - MIMitgliedOct 13, 2019
I too side with what Kevin said. Thumbs up. I'm so sick of the judgement of others anymore.
ReagierenAntworten - NOOct 13, 2019
No amount of logic will change the minds of the prudist nudist .so I feel I am wasting my breath to try to talk logically to them.i wear huge amounts of testicle weights because I like to.some hate them some are fascinated by them .but over all it is my choice what I do.if you worry about your children seeing don't take them to places that they will be exposed to real life.in my humble opinion the prudist can just ignore me as I go about my life.
ReagierenAntworten - NOOct 14, 2019
Has it occurred to any one else that funcouple and Andy di might be more than a little judgemental
ReagierenAntworten - ST
Oct 14, 2019No they are just normal naturist couples who think men who wear genital jewellery look ridiculous.
Its your choice to wear what you like.
Finding something ridiculous isnt judgmental its simply being able to spot a fool.
ReagierenAntworten - TH
Oct 14, 2019[strong][strong][strong]notclothed_ur9764
Post # 140
[strong]did not mention the post # he was referring to, I sure ain't going thru the thread looking for them.[/strong][/strong][/strong][/strong]ReagierenAntworten - KEOct 14, 2019[quote]Has it occurred to any one else that funcouple and Andy di might be more than a little judgemental[/quote] I would say that the people who have stated that this and other personal preferences are okay have done so with well-thought facts, arguments, and opinions while the majority of those opposed have basically said that they don't like it and as such anyone who does is stupid or perverted and deserves to be pointed at and called out in any way. Kudos to those for attempting to have an open dialogue, and as to those who've been spewing hatred, name-calling, and moral judgment I would say that this behavior would eschew anyone from joining this site or participating in social nudism way more than someone's personal piercing...ReagierenAntworten
- STOct 14, 2019
Its funny how so many single guys think naturists have a problem accepting them as genuine.
ReagierenAntworten - KEOct 14, 2019
As a single guy I know how many females and couples want nothing to do with me.
ReagierenAntworten - NA
Oct 15, 2019I dunno. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who has been generally felt pretty well accepted as a single guy for who I am, and it's been OK. Sometimes I've had another guy come on to me (note that it's "a guy") and it's led to consequences more often for worse than for better (sorry, whoever you are: but that in itself says something, eh?). But I've generally not had a problem as a single male being received, even with my tattoo and my metal jewelry, quite well as who I am. Like I say, I guess I'm lucky.
ReagierenAntworten - KEOct 15, 2019Regarding the comments about single men not being excluded or treated differently, here's a post from another thread:
[strong][em]Post #6
StevieLorna
Super Nudist
RE:MALE NUDISTS
To all the lone men, would you sit down next to a dressed couple in the park and expect to be treated like an old friend just because you are all wearing clothes?
They would probably think you a weirdo.
So why do you expect the reaction to be different on a nude beach?[/em][/strong]
The tone in this post (from an entirely different thread) is that I shouldn't expect to be spoken to as a single man in a clothed situation so why should I expect to be spoken to in a nudist situation? I'm not sure how people treat one another in Lanarkshire GB, but usually in the US when someone would sit down in proximity to someone else in a park there would be a common courtesy of saying "Hello" and "How are you?" without being thought of as weird or there being any sexual overtones to it - to us it's being polite.
-The only landed club close to me has a non-discrimination clause however a club employee has informed me that background checks are run on single men only.
- The only active non-landed club will allow any women and mixed couples into the group but will not allow single men or married gay couples into the group unless they have a a matching number of women; this is discriminatory against men and predominately against single men.
I've attached 3 screen captures from the first 3 couple profiles that had any entries in their profile, and all 3 state specifically that there is to be no contact from single men. That's the first three couples all stating no contact from single men, so laugh all you want but if someone doesn't understand that nudists as a whole are segmenting themselves based on marital status and gender then I don't think that they are being very honest...
And no worries, I pass a background check with flying colors :])ReagierenAntworten - STOct 16, 2019
Kevin, you have reposted my comment from another thread ( where it had context.) and misinterpreted it for your own ends.
Nowhere in that short post are sexual overtones mentioned or even hinted at. Nowhere does it suggest we are ever impolite to anyone, dressed or nude.
Expect to be treated like an old friend... those were the words. Not a polite hello.
We have no problems with singles of either sex.. We only ever meet people while on holiday at naturist resorts (not clubs) where singles are in the minority and we treat everyone the same, regardless.
We only have problems when people act in an inappropriate manner, that includes textiles.
You mentioned honesty. We have trouble believing the guys who decorate their cocks and say its jusy jewellery and they arent doing it for a sexual thrill or to draw attention to their genitals.
We believe they, are not being honest.Re-read this entire thread, pay attention to my comment about our experience of those who wear cock rings. Check the profiles of every pro cock ringers. Come back and tell me how many times Ive been wrong.
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