My wife will not participate in nudist activities. She said she dont like nude people and and dont even like to see me nude. Have I got a snowballs chance in hell of ever converting her over to my side. I love her very much. Should I just give up on the whole nudist thing?
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- JR
May 8, 2012It can take many years. So far it has been 27 years. I have made a little progress, but there is more to be made. It takes a lot of love, compassion, all around sweetness and more patience than you think you had. Never argue about it. Just gently discuss your desires with her and that it means nothing if she is not with you. But you have to see to her needs, wants and desires first. Zig Ziglar has said, "You can get whatever you want, if you help enough people get what they want, first." -JR
ReactReply - AB
May 14, 2012Larry, my late wfe was never supportive of my being a nudist either. I found out the more I tried to convince her to try it the more determinded she was to resist it. I took my nudity to my nude buddies and their spouses in the Navy. They finally told me to quit trying to get her to be a nudist. When I stopped she quit getting pissed at me. So when the ship would pull into San Diego my buddies and some of their wives who would make the trip down from the bay area would hit Black's beach for the weekend. If she's not into it now she may never will be. Just stay nude with those friends you have and all will hopefully be fine with you.
ReactReply - MEMemberOriginal PosterMay 21, 2012
Thanks for the good advice. I have became a member at the nudist resort that is 5 miles from my house. I go there 3 times a week and work out in the gym and use the pool. I really enjoy this and as a result being an at home nudist has lost its importance.
ReactReply - SUMay 31, 2012I find that most guys that describe their non-nudist spoouse really have not sat them down and talked to them and debunked their myths that it's just a sexual thing. Really, sit her down in front of the computer and show her AANR and all of the resorts and beaches and women talk and how positive it is.ReactReply
- MA
May 31, 2012[quote]I find that most guys that describe their non-nudist spoouse really have not sat them down and talked to them and debunked their myths that it's just a sexual thing. Really, sit her down in front of the computer and show her AANR and all of the resorts and beaches and women talk and how positive it is.[/quote]Yeah sure, if only that bullshit worked. Most guys like myself, have already tried and there comes a time when enough is enough. One has to admit to marrying a none human.ReactReply - NU
May 31, 2012[quote]I find that most guys that describe their non-nudist spouse really have not sat them down and talked to them and debunked their myths that it's just a sexual thing. Really, sit her down in front of the computer and show her AANR and all of the resorts and beaches and women talk and how positive it is.
[/quote]That's just one ingredient; not the solution itself. I liked Phil's quote, it sums it up nicely.- There's a lot that goes into a spouse's "potential" for becoming a nudist. Sometimes, the anti-nudity views are so deeply ingrained that there's no amount of rational discussion that's going to change that fact. Very often it's the result of upbringing and education. I call them nudity-adverse spouses.
- Then you have nudity-reluctant spouses, whose views about nudity are more moderate, and the concerns are usually body-acceptance or sexually related (fear of voyeurism or being objectified). That can sometimes be debunked through conversation, debate and example. By example I mean setting the example and demonstrating comfort with nudity. But she has to be open to that for that approach to get anywhere.
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