Thats an interesting situation youve shared. It made me think about my own setup and, while I am happily married now, what if I wasnt married and I had my boys around and was in the dating scene. I would absolutely need to meet someone who was very cool with all of our nudity without any qualms, hesitations, or weird feelings.
First and foremost when it comes to his sons dont expect anything at all. They may decide to wear clothes more often. They may decide to not interact with you right away. It is what it is and if you push it things can go bad quickly. Take cues from their dad but give the boys agency to make their own decisions.
Secondly for anything that could be construed as sexual in nature you will be at risk for anyone under 16 years old. That is to say the whole masturbation conversation going on could get you in trouble. Its one thing for the teens to experiment amongst themselves and their dad can explain how things work but its something that stays with them not you.
People are talking about fantasy that has real world consequences and thats dangerous.Thank you so much for starting this thread and conversation. Men like you give me hope for a better world!May I make myself very vulnerable and ask some honest questions? Please dont judge me. I truly want to navigate a new friendship in the healthiest way possible.I was not raised to be a nudist. And since becoming one, Ive always been in awe of nudist families, who raise their children to embrace their bodies and sexuality, without shame. What a gift to their childrenand to a society that is otherwise raising children to hide their authentic, beautiful selves.And if were honest, we live in a time when child abuse is in the headlines, and prosecution of suspected perpetrators is harsh and rampant.I recently met a man through another nude website, who lives in a different country. He is raising his three sons (12, 14 and 18) to be nudists. As we have texted and then talked, we have become close. Ive expressed my admiration and respect, and hes expressed how much he and the boys would like to share their lives with someone like me.Weve scheduled a vacation together where they will stay in my home this summer. We'll do tourist things (clothed) and also go to the nude beaches and nude hiking. We'll cook together, hang out around the house, and watch tv together...all naked.As weve talked, Ive asked lots of questions about how they live, what to expect and how I should engage with the boys. As weve talked, Ive heard (like many of you here) how healthy this is for their communication, trust and closeness. Ive learned that sometimes, he and his sons masturbate together. Sometimes, they shower together. And, he (with the boys permission) has invited me to be a part of these activities. That is the part that makes me nervous!Ive told him, I will only participate in any nude activities with his children, if he is present, and if the boys specifically ask me to join them. I never want to harm or abuse a child in any way! And to be clear, I have no sexual interest in children. But, nor do I want to communicate that what theyre doing is wrong, shameful or somehow less than positive.He has expressed his fears of opening their very private lives to someone outside of their family. So, were both navigating our fears through this.I am thrilled (in a non-sexual way) with the idea of sharing in this kind of intimate, familial setting. Its the kind of family one can only dream of!So, my questions are these:What additional boundaries (if any), do you think I should set?What legal risks am I creating for myself?Is there anything else that I should be thinking of, as we plan this get-together?Thank you in advance for the benefit of your experience and wisdom...and inclusion.
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