We host farm volunteers for periods from a week to a month, and let them know we're casual about nudity. Only the occasional visitor is really comfortable being naked. I used to be gradual about resuming my usual in-home nudity with such visitors around. But I've found, like the OP with his housemates, that the best thing is just to keep on with my regular habits, which fairly quickly lets the visitors understand that my nudity is, in no sense, about them, it's just me living my life.Does this mean I'm being "non-sexual"? Not at all. I'm a sexual being, drawing energy, ebbing and flowing, continually from my sexuality. My sexuality puts a spark in my eye showing my receipt to the tiny old woman checking my receipt at Walmart's door or walking past the farmworker stopping his weedwacker as I pass.But I do not, in the course of living as a sexual being, engage genitally with everyone I meet. No one does.To say that nudity is non-sexual just means that one is naked in a context where the nudity itself is not meant or seen as a particular signal of sexual arousal, assertion, or availability. And the simplest, most reassuring way to manifest that is to follow the conventional definition of social nudity - to act, when naked, more or less as one would when clothed.
I think the problem is in that last sentence. Clothing and textile culture along with the objectification it produces and circulates results in a whole range of social behaviors and effects that are not holistic, intersubjective or nuanced. This is obviously not the case for you and having read your comments and regarded the wisdom therein I feel very certain about this evaluation but... the vast majority of us are still in process out of that space of distortion and repression and not yet at a place where unclothed conduct can or should mirror clothed conduct... in essence the excesses of one are mirrored in the repressions of the other. But... unpacking the idea "conventions of social nudity" is also for me the answer and solution to the dilemma. What is the social setting? Who is included or excluded? What are the rules either implied or explicit and what is our individual responsibility to them for everyone's sake? And careful attention to the self and others with humility humour charity and grace always for me are the best way forward. So I agree just getting long winded and detailed if anyone cares to read or needs the extras. Thank you for being you, as always.
Anyone else getting bored with old-school nudism and the recurring, ridiculous protestations of nudist asexuality?
What makes you think naturists are asexual?
Thats not a way Id describe me or any of our naturist friends.
Definition.
Asexual A term used to describe someone who does not experience sexual attraction toward individuals of any gender
Is it because no one is sexually attracted to you, so you assume it the same for everyone?
Anyone else getting bored with old-school nudism and the recurring, ridiculous protestations of nudist asexuality?What makes you think naturists are asexual?Thats not a way to Id describe me or any of our naturist friends.Definition.Asexual A term used to describe someone who does not experience sexual attraction toward individuals of any genderIs it because no one is sexually attracted to you, so you assume it the same for everyone?
Because that is how he and others like him try to justify and find cover for their libertine behavior while destroying the a way of life that predates them.
I've learned we all are just sexual beings per se. So you can't switch sexuality off. But we can behave polite and adequate, depending on the social situation.
This is the heart of the issue. It feels like some people want to behave in a sexual manner when it comes to nudity regardless of the context. In "polite" society it is understood that every behavior is not appropriate in every context. I think that applies to behavior while nude. It strikes me as odd that some can't seem to apply that rubric to nudism and naturism. Instead they insist in promoting the idea that non sexual nudity is prudish.
That is nothing but a myth meant to diminish the opposing perspective.
This is excellent post about proper etiquette for being a nudist around others who may not be or are curious about it. Not everyone developes this. It took years for me to not get aroused when nude. It takes a lot of arousal focused attention to be hard in perticular settings cause of it but I consider it an evan trade off so that I am not making others in my company uncomfortable..
This is a good discussion. I have not yet been socially nude yet, and I wonder about this. I get a bit of a thrill just being alone nude in my yard where nobody can see me. So I really wonder how it will be in front of others with my girlfriend when we go to a resort. Sexual thoughts are unavoidable. I'm a man, they happen all the time, clothed or not. I guess I'm normal.
Being all alone and bare, like what is being described in the quote below - with the ability to freely let the mind and body go wherever they care to - is a solo pleasure where a ripe fantasy can take over without any issues. But when one is involved in a nude social situation and allow such ideas to manifest and take hold can be quite problematic. Simply feeling the sun and breeze on the whole body can and does bring up certain male parts for a man who's new to nudism or for the uninitiated, and that can quickly escalate to when someone on staff at the resort will have to confront the fresh-to-being-bare visitor, without some immediate intervention like a towel tossed across the crotch or a turn onto the belly. Living and working at a nude resort for a while does afford me some insight into how often this sort of thing happens. Thankfully, it is quite rare, though not rare enough.
You can find plenty here in True Nudists who suggest that there's nothing wrong with letting the dong show freely when it's flying high. Those who encourage this neglectful attitude have never had to warn a person to stop staring at someone across the pool area, to ask them to cover themselves as their penis is freely oozing, even with their hand absentmindedly stroking, having let their thoughts of sexual intrigue take over any common sense. In extreme situations, having to escort the person to the gate because he cannot help himself, that walk of shame is something no one wishes on another. Confrontation of this kind is required if the resort is to maintain a reputation of wholesomeness and comfort for all.
To say that a seasoned nudist will always be able to control all sexual thoughts is not fair, and does not take into account the level of stimulation involved, much less all the variables at hand, things like how long it has been since any activity, the phase of the moon, etc. How the person deals with those thoughts and reactions is what matters inside the gates of a family nudist community. The difference between those of us who can in short order unplug our bodily reactions from such thoughts, versus those who cannot, is mostly due to the nakedness becoming so commonplace that everyone around you being undressed gets to be very unremarkable.This is a good discussion. I have not yet been socially nude yet, and I wonder about this. I get a bit of a thrill just being alone nude in my yard where nobody can see me. So I really wonder how it will be in front of others with my girlfriend when we go to a resort. Sexual thoughts are unavoidable. I'm a man, they happen all the time, clothed or not. I guess I'm normal.
I had a lot of situations when I was naked in front of clothed people, while hiking in nature, I often encountered other people, who were confused at first, but later, during the conversation, interesting. I had situations when walking along the river bank to meet fishermen with whom I talked quite normally. I've never had a situation of sexual excitement, because it's all in my head...
This is a really great post/topic and here is a womans point of view (which one of the posters asked for). Im a late nudist bloomer. I didnt come into this lifestyle until I was about 48. And I dont go nude all the time like I prefer to, but I very much enjoy being nude. So up until I was introduced to the nudist lifestyle, I always associated nudity to sex. Thats just how I was brought up. After meeting other nudists and learning more about the lifestyle, I have learned that being nude is not always associated with sexuality. I do know that there are some people who participate in social nudity and sex is involved. I have a nudist friend who has been to places like that (they did not know the place was like that until they went there). Anyway, to each their own. I am private with my sexuality. To me, sex is special and shared with your partner in private. I now understand that being a nudist and being nude in social situations is different from being nude and having sex. Most of my nude time is at home and in my backyard. And yes, I do get a bit of an arousal when Im nude at home (which Im always alone when nude at home). I love the feeling of the air and sun on my body. I have been to a nudist resort around other people and have NOT been aroused. For me, being around other nudists and my conversations with other nudists was no different than being around textiles. I never felt uncomfortable or awkward. People at this resort were welcoming and friendly. I think there are some people who want to make it known that nudity does not always have to be associated with sex, especially the nudist who would like nudity to be normalized.
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