RE:Adding "Friends" Who Are Not Real Friends

Distant friends are hard to keep. I've had several who were close when we were physically close, that is live in the same town. Jobs, job changes, and activities with new friends tend to take over, and though you may make attempts to maintain contact, it gets more difficult as time passes. We had things in common, we did things together, but distance reduced the times we got together. We maintained contact with letters and phone calls, and they came farther and farther apart. Eventually, they stopped coming at all. So, if a friend is one through Internet contact, and there is little in common to begin with, it is probably a waste of energy to agree to the friend request.

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I make my real friends at the beaches and with the hiking group, so what happens here is not taken too seriously.
Like most internet based nudist sites, such as this and various fb groups, most 'nudists' are wannabes. A lot of the guys I've chatted to don't actually get naked outside their house ('home nudist' seems to be a term that exists only on the internet), never get to a nude beach, and don't interact in any way socially with other naked people. It's all fantasy.
Having said that, there are a few genuine ones here which I have had interesting chats with, and am happy to have them on my friends list.
But when a blank profile - or a profile just with a skype username - requests friendship, I don't bother. Anyone who is seriously a nudist will put something meaningful in their profile.
And the ones who block their profiles or photos from non-friends. That's the height of arrogance - what they're effectively saying is, " I can see your pics, but I'm not letting you see mine".
I'll accept the friendship just so I can see their profile and/or pics, and then delete the friendship.

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It's funny, when I see the 'advantages' of being someone's friend. You get to see more images. Same is platinum membership: you get to see more images of random people that someone just picked of another site.
I see pictures as the internet way of shaking a hand with a fellow nudist. That's how I like the images to be, just about the person. I thought there are much more prolific sites for tittilating images.
I flagged a 'friend-requester' who had no personal info except a link to some porn site. Actually relatively innocent, unless that's a scam too.

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........As TN is dying and the posting volumes continue to decline, I'm more interested in converting good TN contacts to friends and acquaintances outside of the platform.

Yes, TN is indeed dying. The chat room is unusable and unsafe for most now except the clique members. Those who are not clique members can be banned at any time and for absolutely no reason by out of control mods who do whatever they want with impunity. The blogs section has been ruined by trolls who either bombard the blogs with complaints about other members or endless postings about the scam Nude Therapy by someone with multiple profiles. It takes weeks to get this troll banned and the scam postings removed only to have the troll come right back with a different profile. There is no one in charge who can take immediate action to ban such trolls. There also far too many fake women who are either running various scams to get money from lonely old men here or men posing as women. There is only a handful of legitimate women left and they do not engage in any kind of conversation and so what is the point of them even being here. The forum is noticeably quieter now as most of the long term legitimate members left. The question now is what does TN really have to offer anyone other then the fakes, frauds, scammers, and other assorted misfits who only come here to steal money from the lonely and unsuspecting? Yes indeed TN is sadly dying day by day now........

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Like most internet based nudist sites, such as this and various fb groups, most 'nudists' are wannabes. A lot of the guys I've chatted to don't actually get naked outside their house ('home nudist' seems to be a term that exists only on the internet), never get to a nude beach, and don't interact in any way socially with other naked people. It's all fantasy.

100%.
The only way you're going to get a real nudist community is by going to a real nudist venue.

There's only a handful of people I've friended over the years. Mostly it was because we'd interacted online over a period of time; and because our nudist values and experiences aligned to a certain extent. And there are nudist nudes of my wife in my gallery; so there has to be a level of trust established.

I see pictures as the internet way of shaking a hand with a fellow nudist.

Because the opportunity to meet these good folks in person is remote; having nudist pics of my wife and I is a way to at least give them a glimpse into our nudist life. It's a "confirmation", of sorts.

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I agree Nudony. I too have nudes of myself and my wife, showing those I've friended that we are indeed real people, real nudists. Too, too many people want to be friends with me because I have all my photos in our profile gallery set to Friends Only.

I can't tell you how many times someone has requested friendship and I've ultimately declined. My methods of accepting friends include, screening their profile, checking the groups they've joined, how many friends they have accumulated and a small requirement that they converse with me a bit before I accept friendship. 99% of the time, they state they are willing to converse via messages. One, two very short messages from them and then, crickets. If someone isn't willing to converse with me about themselves, it shoots up the red flag that all they want is access to our photo gallery and that ain't happening.

We know we are real; we know we are and have been nudists and social nudists for 50 years. We live it, we've visited countless nudist venues, belong to a club, belong to naturist organizations and promote nudism/naturism when we have the opportunity to do so. It matters not to us if we are in question about the validity of our nudist life or about the numerous things we've done or experienced in our 50 years of living this way. We know our truth and it doesn't matter what others think.

Granted, we have too many friends here on TN. I've always kept the number around 150 but many of those people have left the site. Keep hoping they'll pop in and send a message stating all is well. I only converse with a couple dozen people on my friends list and that's fine with me.

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