Meeting an ex
Baden Baden is famous for its baths (spas) of course (as the name says it), but it also a very cute town, where it is nice to have a coffee or dine.
I was last week in Baden Baden with two girlfriends, travelling from a nearby outlet mall. We had coffee and a couple of drinks, and one of us (not me) said Hey, while we are here why not also have a bath. The second one (who actually lives in Baden, she's Russian and Baden has a huge Russian diaspora) was a bit reluctant, and so was I as the weather was gorgeous and the only place where we could have gone is Friedrichsbad, and its entirely inside (the building is magnificent though). The advantage of Friedrichs is that you can come as you are, you need no preparation, no bathing suite, slippers, towel or robe. You will be fully naked all the time, and you will have a sheet to lay on the wooden bed in the sauna, which you will discard immediately after, and another one to wipe yourself at the end, after the final shower and before creaming yourself up from head to toe with the provided cream, in front of huge mirrors. OK, there is another, last stage, where you are supposed to sleep for half an hour, but I always skip it.
In the end we decided that why not, lets take a bath. We went to the place, undressed and went to the first station, which is an entrance lobby with huge (and I mean huge) showers and a small cold-water pool. Two actually. It was a mixed day (a couple of days a week the two genders are segregated in the two quasi-identic wings of the buildings, while still meeting (if they so wish) at the central pool to cool down.
Under one of those wonderful showers (there is no separation) I saw a middle-aged guy looking at me with a bit of intensity. I didnt mind much, I know by now that a blond woman taking a shower in the nude will always attract a longer-than-usual look from guys, so I didnt pay attention. But once I finished he came and kissed me (on the cheeks, yes, the French still kiss each other when they meet). It was only at that moment that I recognised him. I had had a short relation with him a decade ago, but he had changed a lot, he was now in the low fifties, looking much older, with a beer belly and little hair left. I had only slept with him a few times, maybe three, maybe four times, and Im not even sure why. Most likely because he was showering me with compliments and seemed very infatuated with me. Then I stopped seeing him, he took it a bit badly, but what can a girl do. It was not a case sexual dissatisfaction, he was giving me lots of orgasms, but I didnt love him and honestly he was neither as smart nor as educated as I thought he was when I decided to open my legs for him. I guess wine ,au have had a role in the decision too.
So here we were, more than ten years later, fully naked. He hugged me, and keeping my hands in his and spreading my arms he examined me from head to toe and made me some compliments about how good I looked and how I hadnt changed a bit. I felt a bit odd to be examined like this, I introduced him to my two friends, who were finishing their showers. I had no intention to spend the next three hours with him, but this is what I had to do.
Now, Im sure that single guys in a nudist context feel a bit embarrassed and would highly prefer to have a female partner with them. A male one is possibly also helpful, but likely not the same (except for gay guys). You become a couple, you are somehow legitimised, you are not there to ogle, you dont disconsider those naked ladies you look at as your wife or partner is as naked as they are. And probably, being in a group with three naked ladies must be even better.
But here is the thing. For almost three long hours, he barely looked at them. His eyes were all over me all the time. I would have expected (hoped?) that the opposite was true. He knows me intimately, Im a notch on his bedpost, whatever. Fine. But these two young ladies are sexy, newly met and a few years younger than me. And really not hard to look at. He acted as if he were my boyfriend, helped me up and down the stairs, chatted me, always close to me, even touching me a bit (not with his hands). Id say he was trying to seduce me but he hardly ever looked into my eyes only at my body. He offered to give me back rubs in one of the warm-water pools I accepted but then I felt that he had got an erection, and I proposed to go cool down in the big central pool. It took him some time to follow us there, then he disappeared to the toilets (I think he did something a bit more original than peeing there) and came back, as clingy but not as erectile as before.
The girls had noted but they were convinced that he is a former serious ex, someone with whom I had some emotional affinity, some common history, and they were surprised when I told them afterwards that we had only dated a couple of times. It was bizarre, I normally can tell off guys who are too daring but this time I just accepted his continuous attention. Even if you do the nastiest things to me during the night or the day I expect you to treat me like a lady in the evening, when I dress up. But this time it was different. The lack of clothes made me feel more vulnerable. As my girlfriends told me afterwards, it looked like we both believed that the fact that he had (excuse my French) fucked me a couple of times gave him some sort of authority over me. They simply did not recognise otherwise sassy and pugnacious Flora.
Im sure he was thinking at all the things he had done to me during those couple of nights. I also remembered them all of a sudden, but this did not arouse me, it just gave me a bit of discomfort or shame. I regraeted I had slept with him, although why would that matter, it was ten years ago. I asked my girlfriends and they said that the feeling was normal, they would also feel less than comfortable if they met an ex in the nude. Not sure if they meant it or they said this just to reassure me.
But what do you think? If you are a lady, do you feel uncomfortable if you meet an ex in the nude? Do you remember the things you have done together? And is this more an erotic or embarrassing thought? And if you are a guy and meet an ex in the nude, do you think of all those sweet (or less sweet) little things you have done with her / to her? Does this arouse you? Do you feel some form of superiority, an ascendant over her just because you have fucked her? Does this raise erotic thoughts or are you also more embarrassed than anything else?
I can not think of any possible way to meet an ex-girlfriend (with whom I had been intimate) in the nude that would work well. It just wouldn't happen. I would not think myself superior in any fashion nor status above (very) good friend from the past. Additionally (assuming textile), I would not expect anything more physical than an 'almost-close hug' as an acknowledgement of the past, hopefully, good times together before we parted. If it had been many years ... I would enjoy a conversation about what has happened during the intervening years and the like. You'd have to be quite careful as it would be easy to have an awkward encounter / situation ... but who knows ... it might be a good time with great memories ... reminiscing those days. Maybe this reply will offer some thoughts although anything is possible ... especially after decades and the grey along with the wrinkles start to show.
An interesting situation Flora, i guess it would depend on how things ended. But whatever the way it ended... it ended.
I think your man (ex) seemed to overstep and should have acted with a bit more decorum rather than attempting to rekindle something that wasn't there at the start.
Personally, i would have greeted you of course, but would have looked to engage with your friends more than your ex did... it moved on a decade ago so should he have. That's not to say i wouldn't have enjoyed seeing you naked! Goes without saying, but that time had past, look to the future.
I think you were right to feel uncomfortable and the man should have seen this and moved on, not linger and make things ever more awkward.
Wow that must have been a big surprise ! For both of you
Yeah good question did your relationship just go away or end badly ? I dont think I ever seen an old lover, or ever been naked together. Now your friends could help to keep him away if you needed it.
Still that must have felt weird to have the beer belly looking at you and then. Lol wow you changed !
Your friends must have asked why him ? Since they met D and know who he is.
Okay have a good night from across the world.
Of course, chances to meet an ex in the nude are slim, but the question was to imagine it. And yes,,had it happened in the textile world I'm sure things would have been different. Even a small bikini would likely have made him feel less entitled. Because I think this is the word. Entitled. And somehow I accepted his entitlement. I could have told him off or could have left, but I didn't. The fact that he knew my body well made me somehow accept his long stares and compliments. It is true, unlike his, my body has not changed a lot in the last decade. In fact I sometimes still wear my very first business suit, bought for my very first 'real" job 15 years ago.
But in my book, he should not have been so interested about my body and a lot more about the bodies of my sexy girlfriends. And I should not have cared at all. He knew that body, he had explored it, he had two other young and beautiful (and especially new, guys love diversity) bodies available to look at...
But the opposite was true. I realised that I was doing things I usually don't do, like systematically lowering myself in the pools so my breasts are under water, or covering my pubis when going down after him on the stairs to a pool. He did not touch me inappropriately, but was a bit handsy, always holding my hand up and down the stairs, touching my shoulder and occasionally my knee when laughing for a joke. I don't think he was trying to rekindle anything, except maybe good memories. We spoke about our spouses, he didn't ask for my phone number... He was not otherwise unpleasant, told jokes (too many for the quiet environment of Friedrich's) - while most men grow very silent when surrounded by naked ladies... Without his glances, always on my body, it would have been a nice encounter,
Hmmm, not sure how I would feel. Being of Italian descent, an ex- lover might feel like family, or at least someone who had shared a closeness, with connected memories. Certainly, being naked might act as a catalyst for those returning memories. Maybe he was still in love with you ? Or lust ? At least he was a gentleman, more or less. And of course, how it ended would be a huge factor.
I told you how it ended. I cut it, I was not really interested. I think we only dated three times. He was a friend of a friend who wanted to join my organisation and we had coffee together and I explained him the options. He invited me to diner and he was alone in his hotel (he was living in the North at the time) so I showed him around and dined with him, then walked him to his hotel. We kissed but I didn't want to go up.
I hesitated but he insisted and I accepted to meet him again and, wine helping, I ended in his hotel room. He finished fast, with my first orgasm, which was fine for me, as I had second thoughts and a difficult meeting early in the morning. So I arranged a bit my hair and makeup, put my little black dress back on (I was still wearing my heels), grabbed my purse and walked back home (it was quite close to where I lived). Must have been less than 10 min all in all (we hadn't even make it to the bed, I let him rip my dress off and take me in front of the big Venetian mirror), the receptionist thought I was a call girl and asked me to wait until he called him to check if everything was all right.
He called me but I took it as a one-night stand and didn't want to see him again, but on Saturday, in face aof a long, lonely weekend I said ok, we meet but whatever you think happened on Tuesday evening was only in your head, he said fine, we met, we ate, we drank lots of good wine.., and he ended at my place. This time it was long and intense. And yes, good. We did it again in the morning (does this count as one or two "dates"?
I only accepted to see him a couple of days later, just before his departure, to explain him that it was good, I had enjoyed it, I thanked him for the wine and good time, but didn't want to continue and he had to consider himself lucky with what he had got. In the end, after much insistence, I accepted to give him a last good bye gift in his hotel room (I preferred to face the long glance and wink of the receptionist rather than the trouble to convince him to leave my place).
He left, didn't get the job but called numerous times, in the end I don't remember if I blocked him or only threatened to do it (I probably did block him).
So here you have all the details. A bit of a mistake from my side, loneliness, a guy who showers me with compliments, a bit of good time even though I kind of regretted it each time, a bit of infatuation and sexual impulses from his side (which would have likely calmed down had we slept together a few more times) but never a real relationship
Good morning everyone,
Thank you Flora for the detailed description of the affair. When I spoke of how it ended, as a factor of my analysis, I was generally speaking in broad terms of what I would consider in my evaluation of similar situations, and not your specific circumstance. I did find your description interesting and entertaining, and I am always amazed at your perspective. Also, it may be that you have a mystical power that drives men wild , as is sometimes the case with exceptional women like yourself. .
Good morning everyone,
Thank you Flora for the detailed description of the affair. When I spoke of how it ended, as a factor of my analysis, I was generally speaking in broad terms of what I would consider in my evaluation of similar situations, and not your specific circumstance. I did find your description interesting and entertaining, and I am always amazed at your perspective. Also, it may be that you have a mystical power that drives men wild , as is sometimes the case with exceptional women like yourself. .
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