Sex-Shaming - General Discussion on True Nudists

Feb 9, 2020

I just read through the comments on a topic titled "This Sites Culture." Many commenters expressed negative feelings about people who posted naked body images with no faces. Others referred to people who post content they considered sexual as "bad." Well, my feelings on this topic may offend some. But, oh well, here goes: One of my issues with the nudist/naturist community is how much they seem to like to sex shame. Sex-shaming is, after all, just another form of body-shaming. I wrote some about this in a recent blog post titled [url][link]/link/4e54463aa4d7bfa7/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubmFrZWR1bmFzaGFtZWQub3JnL3Bvc3QvY29uc3RydWN0aXZlLXdheXMtdG8tY2VsZWJyYXRlLWFuZC1wcm9tb3RlLW51ZGlzbQ%3D%3D[/link]Constructive Ways to Celebrate and Promote Nudism[/url]. Sure nudism isn't about sex. Nudity and sex are, however, linked in multiple ways. Furthermore, there is nothing wrong with that. And, one thing is certain: if we accepted and embraced the notion that humans are sexual creatures then nude-shaming would be a thing of the past. Sex-shaming others actually perpetuates naked-shaming. As to why some people chose to NOT post photos that include their faces here is a fact: Some people simply cannot risk doing that. I am one of those. In my day job, I am somewhat of a public figure and if my naked body with face was out on the Internet my career would be over. That is a sad statement about the culture we live in. But, it is a fact. And, IMO, y'all who are on the "others are not nudists the way *I* am a nudist so they are bad" bandwagon are living in a paradigm that is not really much different than the modern culture which says your nudism is bad. Shaming others for expressing their nakedness/sexuality differently than you do is no different than the people who would shame you for being a nudist. You can't have it both ways. Live and let live. And, treat others as you would like to be treated. Then, the culture here will be just fine.

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StevieLorna
Apr 24, 2020
Im in lock down, I have time.

Wolf, you really are a superior human being, Almost Jesus like (maintaining the biblical link)

Please tell me how you can go through a day, a week, a lifetime not seeing anything moronic, offensive or just plain wrong. Your world must be like Eden.

I know the site has a sex and sexuality forum but it also has a statement at the bottom of every page you look at on the site...

True Nudists is for genuine nudists, if you are seeking sexual content please use True Swingers.

Its on every page, every single page.... even in the sex and sexuality forum. Bit of a paradox that. Maybe the owners who set up the forums were not clever that day. Who knows... God or his son probably... or maybe the superior Mr Wolf?

Faux outrage... I like that.
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StevieLorna
Apr 24, 2020
As a side note.
Apparently 24th of April 2020 will go down in history as the day the worlds news media used the word Moron to describe a person. (Something to do with injecting people with disinfectant.)
Thats not me MR Wolf, its the entire world.
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JDW1983
Apr 24, 2020
... one day ... one day I might understand ...
It takes a lot of skill to use so many words to say so little
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StevieLorna
Apr 24, 2020
A skill I
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No-Boxers
May 1, 2020
You need to flag the images in question in order for them to be reviewed and removed if found to be inappropriate.
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StevieLorna
May 1, 2020
WOW...
Youve found something to be inappropriate and judged it not fit for a naturist site.
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StevieLorna
May 1, 2020
True, you dont.
But you are often outraged and judge others for finding things inappropriate.
But hay, ho. Im not superior so fair play.
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ME
Member
May 1, 2020
Does not belong on TN, wolfsteve. Im no longer in that group.
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ME
Member
May 1, 2020
Wolfsteve,
Very welcome my friend! Looking forward very much to our hot tub discussions at King Spa!
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homeclothesfree
May 1, 2020
Straight up porn inappropriate and the group owner who set that cover photo should be challenged. Not holding my breath. I have unfriended anyone who joins that group based on that photo
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StevieLorna
May 1, 2020
They have never bothered me as I dont troll for pictures.
Not that that makes me superior.
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StevieLorna
May 3, 2020
Guidelines... But if I dont want to follow some of those guidelines because.....
Funny how some peoples guidelines are more non judgmental than my moronic ..... guidelines.
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ME
Member
May 5, 2020
[quote]I am posting this in a totally incorrect place. I have been attempting to get something addressed and hope someone who is paying attention to our conversation knows how to get it addressed: I have not figured out how to report this: https://www.truenudists.com/group/nudist-photo-montages/. Others have seen it better here: https://www.truenudists.com/groups/?sort=lastupdate&name=nudist+photo-montage&public=&media=%20and%20sent%20a%20response%20under%20%22report%20bug/issue%22 "Nudist Photo-montages" has a photo on the splash page that is pornography. Apparent, 779 members are members. This is pornography. Hiding an erection in a woman's rectum is not discreet. Having the woman grab erect penises to hide them in her hands is not discreet. If anyone knows who and how to report it, please do![/quote] Save yourself some time and don't report anything. Reporting accomplishes nothing. I have reported a so called member who did nothing but openly abuse men. When 'she' was finally kicked out of chat, 'she' came right back with a brand new profile. Nothing was ever done to rid the site of this man hating creep. This site has long ago ceased being a site for 'true nudists'. If this site was for 'true nudists' then the site would be cleaned up by getting rid of the garbage. This will never happen. Good luck and hope you find true nudists in the real world. What happens over and over again on this site is enough to put anyone off nudism for life.
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StevieLorna
May 5, 2020
If the site was properly moderated it would have the potential to be the largest best site for nudists.
Id give modding powers to people who have a real sense of what it is to be a nudist, someone whos superior. Whos already found and called out inappropriate material and judged it unfit for this site, come business. But then, Id probably be the first to get banned.
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ME
Member
May 10, 2020
[quote]Sunluver101; Someone did report that one and it changed twice. Apparently some do know how to effectively report. I have not been able to either. Maybe they can share how they do it.[/quote] It would take a group of real nudist members who come together, coordinate, and keep reporting until either the frauds are banned or the real nudist members are. One person here or there reporting abusers accomplishes absolutely nothing. I reported to one mod with the result that the mod told me that he had to go back to watching the room and then turned off his PM so that I could no longer say anything to him. I also reported the problem to TT2 with no response or reply. Mods actually have very little authority here and it is obvious that they are not trusted due to abuse of power by a few. The message is clear: If people want a true nudist site, then they need to speak up as one voice and be willing to pay a price for their beliefs. Otherwise, let the perverts and frauds overrun this site as they are doing now.
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ME
Member
May 30, 2020
Wow !!!
Beautiful explanation. As true nudists it doesn't even come to our minds even once how the other persons look like. We respect each other and not even see others as being nude. It's just OK. What we are more interested is in being friends or knowing the other person. Respecting one another. Nude not even comes to mind.
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