Finally free to be nude
Hello everyone, I'm new to this site so I hope this is the right place to post. My name is Enrique, I'm 43 and receiving divorced for a list of reasons too long to post in here, but one of them was that I wanted to be a nudist and my wife never agreed with me. For context, we have 3 kids, (10, 13 and 17 years old).
We were married for 20 years, but I guess everything has to end sooner or later.
I always tried to sneak some nude time here and there, when I was home alone or the kids were at school. My wife would always get mad at me because she would be really worried that the neighbors or our kids would see me. I tried to explain to her it wasn't a big deal, it was just a body and nothing much, as for the kids, I've raised them, I've seen them naked a thousand times, why can't them see me? She would always put a but or an if. So I never felt free to experience nudism.
Now we're divorced and I finally get my chance, I got a small apartment just for myself. But now I worried she may be right. What should I do when the kids come over? Should I be honest with them? Or just wear clothes around them? I don't want to be weird or for them to be weirded out, but I also am tired of hiding the real me. I would love to talk more in detail with any of you if you have any advice or suggestions. Again, I apologize if this is not the right place to post this. I'm new and just trying to find my people. Thank you
nudie wrote:
[quote What should I do when the kids come over? Should I be honest with them? Or just wear clothes around them? I don't want to be weird or for them to be weirded out, but I also am tired of hiding the real me. I would love to talk more in detail with any of you if you have any advice or suggestions.
I think that the best thing to do is to be honest with them and ask if they'd be uncomfortable with you being nude, and then go with their reply. But it might be a good example to at least be honest with them about nudity, and tell them that you don't think it's abnormal or perverse behavior.
And let them do some research on it if they're curious, by contacting the various naturist web sites like AANR or TNS or BNS, and draw their own conclusions.
What should I do when the kids come over? Should I be honest with them? Or just wear clothes around them? I don't want to be weird or for them to be weirded out, but I also am tired of hiding the real me. I would love to talk more in detail with any of you if you have any advice or suggestions. Again, I apologize if this is not the right place to post this. I'm new and just trying to find my people. Thank you
I will ask them, just tell them you're nudist and that you like spending your time free of clothes.
The only difficult point is their age, sometimes teens are shy and they don't feel comfortable being naked, but also they don't mind if you are naked.
They can also have the freedom to be theirselves with you and be however they want.
Good luck and maybe they are also hiding they're nudist!
Best of luck to you with your new found freedom. Whenever you meet your next partner, be up front with that person on your desire to be naked.
I see that you are in Toronto. Maybe one way to break the news to your children is to mention taking them to the nude beach at Hanlon's Point. You can let them decide whether their swimsuits come off or not. Don't pressure them. But you can mention that you want to sun your buns, and it is a legal spot to do so. Ages 10 to 17 is a wide range of growth for kids, so don't expect them all to have the same desire to participate with you. But, at least they will know a bit more about their father, and that your caring for them has not changed. They will also get to see that people are all different, plus, just like we all find out: When you are naked, you talk to people you might not otherwise at a beach. You look people in the eye. Once we acknowledge our shared humanity, we can relax around each other.
I'd second treeboy. A public place is by far the best place to approach this. I don't have kids, but my nieces know I'm a nudist because I took them to a c/o beach once, where in fact all three of us stayed dressed. Even though their mother sent them out from rural Ohio to stay with their gay San Francisco uncle to "shake them up a little bit", being naked around them in my apartment seemed a step too far. (Let alone the sort of suspicions their mother might have had if she were not already more or less on board.) Forty years later, one of those nieces, and family, is coming to stay with me again - this time in Hawaii. She won't be shocked that the shower is outdoors ... but we still won't sit down naked to lunch.
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