This will be a bit of a controversial topic, but imagine if someone said "no offence, but I don't accept friend requests from black people". That person would and should be shamed off this site.
Yet I just read . profile that said "no offence, but I don't accept requests from people older than me". I was very tempted to message the person saying "sorry, mate, but that's horribly offensive." Rather than engage him I blocked him, which saves him the indignity of having to view the profile of someone older.
People are free to socailise with whomever they chose, and we all have our comfort levels, You often see statements like "looking for friends around my age", which is not as subtle as the user thinks it is but isn't in your face discrimination. I guess what bothered me about this profile was it was aggressively agist whilst hiding behind the old "no offence" chestnut.
I'm not very PC, but language that sends a message saying "people of a certain category are not welcome" should be discouraged on this site.
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- LOMar 27, 2019
Well..... No, not really....
Being a geezer myself, I can understand why someone could feel more comfortable with people their own age. They would have more in common with the people who are in their age bracket. Personally I have what I would consider my preferred age zone, for a variety of reasons. But that doesn't mean that I would shun someone in their 20s in a nudist setting either.
But if that 20 something didn't want to hang out with my old self I wouldn't be offended, I would just chalk it up to youth. I surely would not be offended in any way. And if they stated it up front in their profile their preferences, I would be compassionate about it and figure that they had had a bad experience.
Again, I would not be offended by it. We all have our preferences. Life. Don't sweat the small shit or look for a reason to be offended....
ReactReply - BI
Mar 27, 2019I believe youre viewing this from the wrong perspective. When a bigot identifies themselves as such it is easier to avoid them. Why would you want to have anything to do with some jerk who doesnt want to have anything to do with you? You shouldnt choose to be offended by that. Its not worth it.
ReactReply - SI
Mar 27, 2019I am a younger person (27) and I've been on nudist sites since 18. You are correct that nudist sites are generally older. That being said, there are always different groups and types of people. If you want to associate with a particular subset, that's your prerogative. But you should also be aware that other people are a part of the site and may interact with you. That's what blocking and ignoring is for.
My opinion on "no offense" is that it's always followed by something offensive. If it's what you believe, own it and don't try to "soften" it by putting no offense. It doesn't change the meaning in any way and just makes you seem fake. If it offends someone, then you just gotta deal with it.
Christian
ReactReply - OL
Mar 27, 2019Let's do the opposite. I just hang out, show a full profile with lots of photos and say what I think in group discussions. Anyone who likes what I am is welcome as a friend. No doubt others won't even ask. And I do the same when looking for a friend.
Incidentally, at my age, most people are younger.
ReactReply - ST
Mar 28, 2019The average life span of a man is 81 years, this means 0-27 is early age 28-54 is middle age and 55 to 81 old age.... depressing I know.
ReactReply - JO
Mar 30, 2019I tend to accept only certified members to whom I I can relate in some way. This usually excludes anybody uder about 30, being 75 myself.
ReactReply - DI
Apr 5, 2019Interesting. I'm 55 and I basically say clearly on my profile that I am not interested in connecting with younger guys, I literally welcome guys from 40ish to 100 (more power to them if they're here on TN at that age!). There are reasons, though. The first obvious one (I hate hypocrisy) is that I find the mature male attractive, not the young ones. Second, I teach college. I love being with college-age students but in a completely different, professional relationship. And when I am on my time, I'd rather spend my time with mature males. That said, I'm not an asshole about it. Just my preference.
ReactReply - MEMemberMay 3, 2020
Well said, this should be totally discouraged.
We are all likeminded human beings, who want a nudist lifestyle.ReactReply - JD
May 3, 2020I wouldn't go as far as saying I won't interact or make friends with anyone of any race, creed, colour, orientation, nationality, whatever. In terms of age, I have friends ranging from around 20 up to their 60s. But generally I find I will have most in common with those closer to my age, and the age profile of my friends reflects that. The ones further away from my age are all ones I've met, had a connection with (hobby, interest, or even just mutual friends meaning we spend more time together than we otherwise might) and so gotten to know them better. I'm happy to be friends with anyone, but there has to be an actual reason, not just "friends" for the sake of adding to a friends list.
In terms of friend requests on here, I refuse pretty much all of them, unless they are people I have a connection with (ongoing conversations, mutual interests, etc). Random requests get deleted, it will be of little surprise that most of them come from older men with blank profiles. I have no interest in collecting "friends", even if some people seem to think that to have a conversation they first need to add me as a friend. Messaging works fine without a friend request!ReactReply - FA
Sep 27, 2020[quote]I tend not to discriminate against anyone.... apart from idiots.[/quote]
My wife had someone make a button for me to wear at times, Does not work or play well with idiots.
I have knots of pre-conceived notions about others. Some (many) are wrong, but some are right. Its human nature, and the fun part of life is experiencing which are which.ReactReply - FO
Jun 25, 2021How does one get personally offended by anothers choice of who they like to socialize with? Right, wrong or indifferent, if someone doesnt want to talk to me because Im old, male, white or whatever, so what. Its not a requirement for people to befriend me because I asked them to. Not trying to be disrespectful or anything, just curious.
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