Bi Men and Transsexual Woman Sex

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• SI

  

  Singemusique

  Mar 3, 2019

  I can't speak for others but I know for myself, I care for the person, not the parts. Whenever I'm with someone, I do everything I can to make it a pleasurable experience for them. That usually takes some dialogue before, during, and after to make sure I know what they like, whether I'm doing it right, and if they want me to do it again. It's also a partnership so I make sure they know what I like too.

  I know this puts me in the minority for most men, no matter their sexuality. However, I believe that it isn't too much to ask of your partner to be at least a little understanding if they truly want to be with you. I believe that life is too short to settle for less.

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• ME

  Member

  Mar 4, 2019

  I dont consider myself bi. I did friend you and rember messaging you then that I requested your friendship on account of you honesty of yourself and coming to grips with your sexuality.
  I have a niece and nephew that struggle with their gender and have no support from their parents or older sibling. All the counseling they've gone through and because of their lack of a support system they still are denied any comfort. To me it's refreshing to know someone like yourself and maybe I can learn tips to help them.

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• TR

  

  TravelNudie

  Mar 6, 2019

  Human sexuality comes in many ways. Myself, I am not attracted to any touch of male in females, but have number of friends and acquaintances (both male and in lesser part female) who find "girls with cocks" hot, for one reason or another. Anyway, deducting it to genitals only misinterpretes it, as unless a male is a gay male attracted to feminine gay men, it is about something else. Those who said the cock is most interesting/exciting part of you probably mean it that being otherwise feminine, the contradiction of male sex organ in your makes it interesting, not the male sex organ alone.

  Besides, those who are attracted to ladyboys can be of any sexual orientation obviously.

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• ME

  Member

  Mar 9, 2019

  Sorry I cant help you out on your question. I am happy to say that from my limited experience nudist are welcoming to all and its great that you have so many friends here and happy to be your friend if you wish.

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• NU

  

  Nudistpig

  Mar 21, 2020

  [quote]I am a Transsexual Woman, meaning a woman in a man's body Many times guys have told me I am a desirable woman for them Yet the first thing they get attracted to is my penis! They mention they would love to play with it. If I am a woman in the wrong body, my penis shouldn't be there My male genitals are like 20 percent of my body Meaning I am like 80 percent a woman and only 20 percent man If the most important part of me for them is my penis, then they are attracted to only 20 percent of me, and the wrong part in me! So what about the other 80 percent? Why they would be attracted to this woman if what they want the most is her male parts? Shouldn't they search for another man instead? He would have a working penis that loves to play While I prefer my penis not being involved in sex Are they really Gay guys who don't want to admit it to themselves? And so they search for male parts to play with under the masquerade of a woman? So they can say they are with a woman, not a man? Yet can still play with male parts? The truth is, when they say they want to play with my penis they are insulting me. Is like if they tell a genetic woman they would like to play with her...if she straps a dildo between her legs! So the man can play with her dildo attached to her How do you think that woman would feel? I am still learning about this whole thing So if somebody can explain me: Why some guys who like Trans women want to play with her male parts, disregarding the rest of the body? Are they really Gay guys in denial? I've talked with Gay guys and they are not interested in me because even though I have male parts, I am mostly a woman. Seems honest, realistic and respectful to me! They see me as a woman with the wrong parts Why then Bi guys don't see the rest of my body but mostly just my male genitals? As I said, I am still learning, so I'm posting this questions here to see if somebody can enlighten me about the mind and sexuality of Bi men. Thank you Angela[/quote] So trans is... according to the many trans people I know and share with, different for everyone who identifies as trans but also not necessarily well understood in the larger community. I'd say first that gender isn't sex. You can identify as what you are comfortable with and others should accept that. As for genitals and bodies there is much objectfication and fetishization that for many people replaces the person with a fantasy or commodity identity or a specific kink that they reduce you to. None of this is ok but it's how our culture operates by and large. It's going to express differently in different populations.

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• KC

  

  KcodyH

  Sep 9, 2020

  I will keep this short as I dont want to offend anyone by a generalization of your feelings. It sounds as though you are finding men who are interested in sex but not necessarily mindful sex. Mindful meaning they arent thinking of how the sex feels towards you or mindful to the connection, and perhaps just acting on a carnal desire only they enjoy. I doubt 99% of men youve engaged with mean to be disrespectful, but thats not to say you feel lesser during or afterwards. Sex, however casual, needs to be honest and agreeable in order for it to be enjoyable. Next time, I would be very straight forward and inform the person that you dont want your penis to be part of the session. If they dont follow your wishes, clothes back on and find someone more respectful of your feelings.

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• ST

  

  SteveinKona

  Sep 9, 2020

  Guys have nipples, and those nipples are sensitive. Some guys like them played with. Others don't - maybe because it's not a "guy" part, maybe because they have other things on their minds. That's really their business. How is a sex partner to know? Communication, maybe sensitivity to body language, paying attention to responses. You have a preference about your penis. How are your partners to know? A general appeal to gender and gender-identity categories won't cut it. They should learn what you, personally, do and don't want in the context of interacting with you. If that isn't working - the communication isn't good enough, they're oblivious or fetishizing, then you get to decide how much of that to put up with before you call a halt. I had a relationship with a pre-op / pre-hormone transsexual, whom I will refer to as "he" because that's the pronoun he used while we were together, although that has changed now. It took some mental adjusting - doesn't everyone with a penis center their sexuality on it? Doesn't everyone relate to their body rather like I do? Well, no. But I had to hear that before I could begin to understand it, and I had to hear it from him. I wouldn't have, then, and wouldn't, now, justassumethat I knew what he wanted, no matter how woke I think I am about gender identity.

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• MA

  Mar1955

  Oct 13, 2026

  Hello Angela,

  Actually I think many men are not willing to admit that they are bisexual and interested in men and those are not the ones you are interested in. I have several trans friends and it's true that it's hard to find the right person. Me myself I had a close friend and we had a relation for a while, I was indeed interested in her penis cause I enjoyed sex with her, but only because her female side attracted me very much. When we made love, even she had a male body and we enjoyed eachother, she was not a male for me but a woman.

  I hope you will find the right person for you and I hope you will find that person for whom you feel that woman and who sees you as a woman, but that you can fully enjoy sex together.

  When you love eachother it should not be an issue at all.

  I don't know if I express in a right way what I want to say, just understand that I see your problem.

  
  

  Martin

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