How to join

Step one: choose a user name that's more about you than the generic one they assigned you.

You can post pictures of yourself as soon as you join, but you can't post nude ones without going through their age-verification process, which involves uploading ID. Some folks worry, but there's zero history of misuse of personal info by this site, and it's been around a long time. (Yes, info you intentionally post to your profile can be discovered and misused, but age-verification and certification pix are private to the site management.) You do not have to post nude pictures to participate in chat, forums, groups! A face pic is nice. A dick pic is out of order. True, lots of people are on here just for the pics, but it doesn't sound like that's what you're about.

If a woman half your age reaches out with a like or friend request, run away. He's probably not real, and if she's an actual female, she's up to no good. Never, ever, respond to a request from such a profile to move communication off the site. The spam girls have overrun the site's flagging system, but it's still safer than video-chat apps!

Look for groups local to you.

You'll find that the site's active membership is shrinking as its concept and infrastructure age and as its management has become more distant. But make of it what you can, and welcome.

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