My only issue is that she has no idea that I am active in groups like this and would be very upset to find out that I am. She is not a prude by any means but is conscious about her weight right now and is less likely to disrobe unless she is under the influence of alcohol. Then she is totally uninhibited and will get naked, usually in our friends hot tub together with my buddy and his wife. Any ideas for me? I feel like I am doing something wrong and behind her back joining groups like this but also feel that these groups provide me with insight on what I can be doing to actively participate.
The answer is simple - Give your wife plenty of alcohol before telling her about this site.
i know it sounds silly and unbelievable but one day i was at work texting and we where talking about summer plans and i just texted why dont we try to go to a nudist resort this summer.i fully expected a fast responce of are you f..ing kidding me.but no i got a responce of sure ,i allmost feel off the chair.i dident keep saying rerally are you sure i went right into ok great and dident talk about it again till i found the perfect place for us to go.clothing optional good nudist additude and just far enough away from our home to not have her worry about knowing anyonne.so i booked it and told her we where all set and slowly thru the months showed her pics of the place and stuff there is to do there.i got her some books to read and told her i would get her a massage there .so my point is you never know till you ask.i just wish i asked 17 years ago.oh well better late than never good luck Tom
well said.. wish I could help out but got the same problem here..... I have asked many times in the chat room, and only got "go to this site or this site",,,,,,,,,, well no wonder you see more guys than women......... sorry to vent. every one have a good day nude. do hope to hear from some soon....
you must have a very understanding wife. I just wish mine was the same way.I left my computer open and she saw this site, she told me this morning she was "not happy" ..well how do I explain,,,, I did tell her I wanted to be a nudist..... so what is next????
well said.. wish I could help out but got the same problem here..... I have asked many times in the chat room, and only got "go to this site or this site",,,,,,,,,, well no wonder you see more guys than women......... sorry to vent. every one have a good day nude. do hope to hear from some soon....
You kept, repeatedly, asking to talk to women in PM's about your wife. You were advised to go the AANR and TNS site for literature that relates to women and nudism. It was sound and solid advice. Take the advice or not, just stop whining.
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Nudism is a personal journey.
It's your journey. Don't worry about your wife. If you want to be a nudist, start being a nudist. Be considerate of your wife, for sure, but start being a nudist. Sleeping nude is a start (believe it or not, many people still don't). Getting up and making your coffee without putting anything on is another step. If you're lucky enough to have some secluded space where you can lie in the sun, start working on those tanlines. One good beginning is having your morning coffee, or tea, outside n the sun if you have a protected spot where you will not be seen by anyone other than you wife.
While you're doing all that....DO NOT PRESSURE YOUR WIFE AT ALL!!!!!
Please excuse the all CAPS...but it is the most important thing I will say in this whole response.
You want her to JOIN you....not to become a nudist at the same time you do. That would be lovely...but it is a personal journey.
Don't ask her if you can go hang out with other nudists right away. Bad idea. It also makes us question whether you're a nudist, or an exhibitionist. Nudism is about being nude. Being nude with others is something nudists often do, but it is not a requirement for being a nudist. Evaluate your motives. You might find you're on the wrong site...and you will have problems with your marriage too.
Oh...one more all CAPS coming up...also as important. RESPECT YOUR WIFE AND HER CHOICE...ALWAYS!!!
Don't ever try to pressure her. I am a nudist. My wife...sort of...with me, in quieter, secluded spots. Until she wants to join me, without me pressuring her, I will not be going to nudist resorts or going to meet other nudists. I am a solo nudist until my wife chooses to join me, at which point I will be part of a nudist couple. Even then, we may not ever go to nudist resorts.
It's a personal journey for everyone and you should respect her, no matter what. Get her want to join you of her own free will. Don't try to persuade her. It will likely never work, and will most likely backfire.
I have to agree with Londo's post above - Nudism is an individual journey and can't (nor should it be) forced on anyone.
My wife of 33 years is not interested in social nudism other than with a very few select close friends. Even then, experiences are few and far in between. Nothing wrong with that, it's what works for her. As for me, I love being outside naked (usually solo) especially if I'm able to fish, hike, camp etc. That's what works for me. I would love it if we would share more nude time together but am happy she understands my desire to be naked in nature and I respect her desire to embrace nudity on her own terms. I will never stop encouraging her to join me but will also never force the issue. I know that doesn't answer your question about how to get her to join you but if you continue to do the things that together bring you joy, you never know - she may just decide to join you. After all, there was a time I didn't like brussel sprouts...
I'm in the same boat! As far as my wife goes, its not about people seeing her...its about her seeing people. She does go nude occassionally around the house, but not very often. We were stationed in Germany for a bit....went to the sauna(which is all nude)....she walked in....and immediately walked out. Since then she hasn't even considered the idea. Now she won't even consider a clothing optional vacation because she will still see nude people. It's to the point where I am about to give up on nudism completely....as a couple....and alone as well.
My wife tends to fit into that category but has not totally shut the social nudist door yet.
And I for one won't give up my nudist lifestyle if she close down. It will just lessen my options.
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