This has, no doubt, already been covered. If that's the case, please forgive the repeat.
Get a bunch of men together and it's fairly likely that someone is going to pop a boner at some point. And, no, it's not guaranteed, but it is likely. However, men do like talking about sex, which frequently leads to boners.
So, here's the question. If you're with a bunch of your male friends and you're all nude, how would you respond if one of them popped a boner? Maybe you'd just totally ignore it -- no big deal -- normal and natural -- would be more surprised if someone didn't pop a boner. Or, , what? How would you/do you respond? If you see a boner, do you have a tendency to pop one yourself? Yawns are contagious -- boners can also be contagious.
What if a guy pops a boner and then sports it around -- calls attention to it? Is that ok or is that crossing a line? If one guy starts calling attention to his boner, do you think that would be likely to cause other guys to pop boners?
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Here's my opinion on the subject -- and I recognize that I'm probably way off to one side on this.
I believe boners are normal and natural. They are how male bodies are made. By means of ultrasound, we know that boys have erections and masturbate before they are born. Thus, boners should not be a source of shame or anything to be shocked about. Boners should not cause any affront or alarm. It's just a cock doing what a cock is supposed to do. And I go so far as to say that it shouldn't matter who is there and sees it -- men, women, adults, children, boys, and girls. It's just an erect cock. No one was ever harmed by merely seeing or being in the presence of an erect cock.
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- MEMemberApr 19, 2022
The subject of boners has been covered before and there was been both guys for it and others not so for it. It all depends on where and why they happen. If it is among guys that expect it and is "appropriate" for the gathering, then it should not be something anyone should have an issue with it. If it happens at a non sexual gathering, which dohappen, then the individual should take measures to reduce 'showing' it off. In these cases, doing other things, will distract the mind from what is stimulating it and the penis will return back to it's normal every day size.
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Apr 19, 2022I'm in a male nudist group that meets once a month. It has straight, bi and gay guys from 18 - 70. We meet at a guy's place with a hot tub and swimming pool. In the warmer months we have 60+ guys. You always see guys walking around with boners. No one gets upset. Many of the newer guys are concerned (nervous) about getting an erection but after they see it's very common, they are much more relaxed.
ReactReply - HI
Apr 19, 2022i AM ALL FOR EVERYONE THEN GETTING A HARD ON WITH EVERYONE ELSE AND THEN HAVE A GROUP MASTURBATION SESSION AND SEE WHO COMES FIRST AND LAST! HAH! MAKE IT SOMETHING THAT EVERY SINGLE GUY WOULD LOVE!
Hickguy M.D.ReactReply - HO
Apr 19, 2022I frequent Apollo Beach in New Smyna Beach, FL. Yhecrowdthere is mainly older, and often see a lot of older men with boners. My opinion is that elrections are normal. In fact it's a nice thing to see. The bottomline is that naturists beaches are a public place and everyone respects that.
As long as there's good behavior, let everyone enjoy the view.ReactReply - MEmensasnemOriginal PosterApr 20, 2022Indeed [quote] Its kind of liberating to stand in public with one and no one cares.[/quote] I go to a local men's only clothing-optional resort. Boners are not common (surprisingly so), but when they happen -- they are a total non-issue. Well, someone may make a joking or supportive comment about it, but no one gets upset about it.ReactReply
- HA
Apr 20, 2022I would have to agree. I too attend a men's clothing optional camp and boners are rare but no big deal.
ReactReply - BE
Apr 20, 2022It's remarkable how much observation goes on with eyes supposedly averted. Nobody appears to look at anyone. Eye contact happens, but the eyes never appear to drift downward.
Until there's a boner.
Then everyone stares as much as they can without getting caught by the boner owner.ReactReply - MEMemberApr 20, 2022
Over the past 6-7 visits to a busy clothing-optional urban spa (on the clothing-optional men-only days) and multi-day visits to two different clothing-optional hot springs resorts (mixed crowds) where nearly everyone was nude, I've seen one prominent semi and no full erections. These settings also have rules against sexual behavior. So I'd say the phenomenon of erections is largely situational, despite the popular belief among some nudists that boners "just happen." In my experience, they happen where they're not strictly prohibited but might be tolerated, appreciated or even encouraged. Otherwise, they generally don't.
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Apr 20, 2022As stated, they are natural and common. Those of us that grew up male know that they have a mind of their own, which at first can be embarrassing (shouldn't be but often is) but we learn how to deal with them/it. As for dealing with it that really depends on the individuals present.
Ive always said, dont worry if you get oneworry if you don't!!!
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Apr 20, 2022Id love to hang out at the meeting Paul and I would love to meet other men that are of like minds and Also to explore the more I want. I dont mind a real relationship though but waking in the early hours and seeing a lady nude is quite the same thing if you would ask me cause it also takes away the stress of wanting to always be aroused for another sex and imbibes some ability of self control whenever you can control your boner when a woman seduces you then you are already one step ahead of all the woes
ReactReply - SEApr 20, 2022
Id love to hang out at the meeting Paul and I would love to meet other men that are of like minds and Also to explore the more I want. I dont mind a real relationship though but waking in the early hours and seeing a lady nude is quite the same thing if you would ask me cause it also takes away the stress of wanting to always be aroused for another sex and imbibes some ability of self control whenever you can control your boner when a woman seduces you then you are already one step ahead of all the woes
ReactReply - MEmensasnemOriginal PosterApr 20, 2022Open looking is acceptable at the men's resort I go to. [quote]It's remarkable how much observation goes on with eyes supposedly averted. Nobody appears to look at anyone. Eye contact happens, but the eyes never appear to drift downward. Until there's a boner. Then everyone stares as much as they can without getting caught by the boner owner.[/quote] It's all entirely a non-issue. But, yes, boners get more attention.ReactReply
- MEmensasnemOriginal PosterApr 20, 2022
I don't mind at all.
Our society has become more and more androphobic and misandrist -- to the point that men are supposed to be ashamed of being men.
There's nothing within the physical realm that is more male/masculine/manly than a boner. Society would say that boners should be kept hidden because they are dirty and shameful.
OK to show blood-soaked violence on TV and in movies, but not cocks and certainly not boners.
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Apr 21, 2022I think boners should be perceived however they are presented.
It's kind of like someone holding a police baton. If that person comes up to you holding a police baton in a threatening manner, then no...that's not appropriate. If that person comes up to you holding a police baton in a non-threatening way, then that is fine.
I have lived in horse country for about 20 years now. It is very common to see horses at shows and auctions with big erections hanging to the ground. No one is bothered to see this because this is nature. Nature has its own set of rules, and nature doesn't give AF about the rules we humans have set for ourselves.
We often dismiss that we humans are in the same mammal species as these horses. And while we readily accept all the differences between the two, we are often reticent to accept all the similarities.
So, again, boners should be viewed in the way they are being presented. If the person with the boner chooses to use it to annoy, bother, threaten or display some sort of inappropriate behavior, then that is not acceptable. If the person with the boner is just having a "nature moment" then everyone should accept it (or even embrace it) and go about our businesses.
ReactReply - MEmensasnemOriginal PosterApr 22, 2022
Horses do have complete conscious control over their boners. They can give themselves boners and make them go away in the same manner that people can raise and lower their arms.
ReactReply - NA
Apr 23, 2022have been going to a nude beach for over 40 years. Erections do happen from time to time, esp. if for guys starting out as nudist. its best to flaunt it. Lie down on your beach blanket, think of your grand parents. Otherwise you could be the joke of the crowd.
ReactReply - MEmensasnemOriginal PosterApr 24, 2022BestNOTto flaunt it? [quote]have been going to a nude beach for over 40 years. Erections do happen from time to time, esp. if for guys starting out as nudist. its best to flaunt it. Lie down on your beach blanket, think of your grand parents. Otherwise you could be the joke of the crowd.[/quote]ReactReply
- GA
May 5, 2022i attend a gay nudist camp and weekends boners seem to be the norm of course more younger crowd too , i remember my youth kinda lol but junior and high school i think i and most of my friend spent the whole day with boners but as i age 66 now even at camp not so much but does occur . interesting at least to me when i get to camp i like to cool off in the pool than lay on a lounger and sunbathe usually dosing off and quit often i'll wake up and have a boner , not sure what i was dreaming about or has the oil i use and sun have a effect - clueless but ok with it.
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Nov 29, 2022I have been to many gay nudist men retreats, boners are natural and should be admired!
ReactReply - MEMemberNov 29, 2022
After reading the responses here I have no issues with seeing an erection in a social gathering, be it all men or both sexes. I can see where it might become an issue in social gatherings if it is in fact a "social gathering" and a men gets an erection and draws everyone's attention to it by continually playing with himself, or by swinging it in everyone's face (so to speak). If it were to happen in a more private group where the intent is something like a men's play group then that is a whole different story.
I have been in many social situations where men have gotten boners and for the most part it is viewed as very normal and eventually the man's boners eventually become flaccid again, and no one bats an eyelash. As stated by a couple other guys here, I am happy at my age to be able to achieve one. (LOL)
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Nov 29, 2022I think it's important to be accepting of boners in social nudity. Best not to let it be awkward, and it shouldn't ever cause anyone to be overtly shamed. For some men, it's so easy to get erect that it's difficult not to. I was always scared of social nudism because I was afraid I'd spring a boner. So when I was younger, I kept my nude times to myself. I couldn't get past the fear until I made friends with some guys who encouraged me to get over my shyness and let it show, flaccid or erect. The real moment of change was when I went skinny dipping with a straight buddy. He was erect when he took his clothes off, and mumbled something in embarrassment. I didn't want him to feel bad, and told him I thought it was an awesome cock and that he should be proud, and we ended up laughing together about it. It was a great bonding experience, and there was no way it was going to turn into anything sexual. It was just a boner, one to be proud of. After that, I realized that I had been helping to perpetuate the fear of embarrassment over hardons, and instead I've learned to be laid-back and let it show. If a guy gets all tied up in knots about my boner or anyone else's, I just hope they learn to get over whatever fears they are holding onto. An erection isn't in itself an act of aggression or a sexual invitation. It's just what dicks do sometimes.
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