I would like to hear how nudism has impacted your sexuality, if at all. When sex is stripped away from nudity, do you become less sexual in general? Do you lose taste for fetishes, particularly relating to certain body parts when you see them all the time in so many different forms? I understand there is a healthy amount of policing of nudist norms but does that pressure and/or internalization suppress desires? If so, do you find this good or bad?
Obviously not advocating for sexual behavior while enjoying nudism in general. I've not engaged in social nudity (yet) so I am curious.
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- NU
Apr 28, 2021[quote] It's all about the context.[/quote] It really is all about context. And behavior. My sex life is pretty much unchanged by nudism. As I imagine much of the nudist population. My wife and I are nude around each other daily; yet unless one of us make a "suggestive move", it remains non-sexual. Most nudists - at least socially - refrain from "suggestive moves" so it's not that difficult to see them "non-sexually." As far as "repressing desires", I don't think it's necessarily unhealthy. I have a rather short fuse. If I went around "snapping at people" and kicking them in the head I'd have a long history of jail sentences. Although one could argue that in a nudist setting it is unnecessary to repress desires, because they are not usually "ignited" in the first place. Unless someone behaves in a sexual way (which is open to interpretation and another topic.)ReactReply - NUnudexplorationOriginal PosterApr 30, 2021
Good to hear it doesn't seem to have diminished your sex life. Of course sexual desires need suppression, nudity or not!
ReactReply - MEMemberApr 30, 2021
As for me, it has enhances our sexuality. When you are always nude around the house and yard, there seems to be more touching because everything is so handy. And guys are generally visually excitable. She can only bend over so many times in the yard till I have to do something
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May 3, 2021[quote]I would like to hear how nudism has impacted your sexuality, if at all. When sex is stripped away from nudity, do you become less sexual in general? Do you lose taste for fetishes, particularly relating to certain body parts when you see them all the time in so many different forms? I understand there is a healthy amount of policing of nudist norms but does that pressure and/or internalization suppress desires? If so, do you find this good or bad? Obviously not advocating for sexual behavior while enjoying nudism in general. I've not engaged in social nudity (yet) so I am curious.[/quote] Personally, naturism/nudity has not impacted on my sexuality, I am still the same person naked or clothed ! The biggest thing I find is using common sense when in the naturist environment, which true and real naturists do. If you think about it, sex and sexuality (which are both part of every single person on this planet), actually doesn't make a blind bit of difference in reality, it's other peoples ideas of what theyperceivepeople are about, without actually knowing that person as a human being and an individual, preconceived ideals. My being gay has nothing at all to do with me loving being naked, alone or with others, simple common decency should be practiced. We all know what we are not supposed to do, so what's wrong with just following that basic ideal ? If you take fundamental things like sexuality and sex out of any given situation (person), you are not the being your true self, are you ? No one can deny that we all look at others when on a naturist beach or resort, it's human nature to look, yes we can see the whole person or parts of their body that excite us, I look at naked men (obviously), but I don't suddenly get erect or spank the monkey because I like what I see, to me that person is just naked at the same place as me, I remain the same person I am, just another naked guy. I fully accept that anyone new to naturism, men in particular have the problem of getting erections, that is perfectly normal, after a few weeks, that simply goes away because you become accustomed to seeing others naked, it's doesn't become about sex or sexuality, it's just another naked person, the norm. The sexual side of being human wanes as you spend more time with other naked people Naturism is about being free, free of clothes, free of expectations, being free and naked in nature, nothing more. Whatever sexuality or sex you are, should never impact on you or others for being naturists, just accept each other, let each and every person be themselves, just see them for their naked beauty. As the OP says on his first post, I am not advocating anything at all here, just giving my view on his question.ReactReply - MEMemberMay 27, 2021
There are therapists that say getting nude will enhance the intimacy and sex life of long term married couples - in fact it was in a TV show here in Australia recently that also featured some of our well known local lifetime nudists.
In practice and from experience I am not seeing the dividends...I am completely open with my wife about my enjoyment of nudity, but she is not. She remains feeling vulnerable when she is nude. I explain the joy of freedom and the liberation that it brings when being in a social setting or authorised public space - but I just can't get her there.
I am about to road trip and will visit nude beaches on my travels. I hope to help an old friend (F) experience nudism at one of those beaches. I truly don't feel sexually motivated towards here and am looking forward to the liberty it will bring her mind. But I am overtly worried what my wife thinks of this adventure...so I am betting it will cool the intimacy in my marriage for some time to come (despite that fact my wife knows I regularly skinny dipped with the woman who introduced us to each other 32 years ago)!
A long anecdote to say nudism hasn't 'upped' my sexuality in any great way in regards to polygamy
ReactReply - ST
Sep 22, 2021I became a nudist early and became sexual a bit late, so the two developed at the same time for me. With one of my early partners, we got easily naked, but things didn't get sexual until we hid ourselves under the covers; the nudity may have been making things too frank and commonplace. I've certainly had chances to do the undressing-each-other ritual, which I recognize had turn-on value for partners (mostly male) or provided a reassuring incrementalism for partners (mostly female). But it never got baked into my sexuality; I get zero turnon from lingerie, underwear, and so forth. Out and about I might notice someone in a revealing outfit in a way that I wouldn't, in a social nudist context; in that case it's not really about what the outfit allows me to see, as about how comfortable and at ease the outfit seems to make the wearer; tight, constraining clothes just don't look sexy to me, no matter how much they reveal.
For physical intimacy, at this point, clothing is just a nuisance.
ReactReply - WO
Sep 22, 2021Well said, Andy.
As for that Aussie TV show, my only thought was that nudists are probably pre-selected as being more adventurous and honest with their partners (especially if those partners are also nudists), so I'd expect them to have better sex lives on the average. It's not that nudity encourages better sexual relations, but that both spring from the same source... honesty and willingness to think "outside the box."
ReactReply - BINov 13, 2021
I agree with you. When I am nude outdoors with people I am conscious of the breezes on my body, especially my penis. I love looking at other men and women who are nude and admiring their bodies. I see what is beautiful about people, the softness of their skin and their curves. This stirs all sorts of erotic feelings in me.
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