Yes I understand if youre in a monogamous relationship that what does it matter, but if you enjoy same sex activity is one not true to themselves if they dont pursue those desires.
But isnt being part of a monogamous relationship that you knowingly forego sexual activity outside that relationship?
There is not one kind of monogamy. There's romantic monogamy, sexual monogamy, serial monogamy, strict, loose, etc etc...
From our first day on this site we have had a steady stream of messages from other members. (although it has died off quite a bit over the last few months. )
Many of the messages were from other couples, the ones that had either one or both profiles set as bisexual were always trawling for swingers. So now when I see a profile with a bisexual partner I assume that they are most likely swingers or wannabe swingers.
My GF enjoys sex with women on occasion. She has been with three good friends since we have been together (10 years). The rule is that I have to be there. She can't go behind my back or do it without my consent. It has worked great for a decade. She gets her girl fun and I get to watch.
Hi to couples out there that might read this.When I read profiles of couples I notice that many state that one is bisexual and other straight. So how does that work? Does one continue to enjoy same sex liaisons in private? Openly with consent? Do you enjoy together?Im bi but my partner is straight and is against the idea of two guys together. So out of respect I have kept the two areas of sexuality apart.How does it work for you ?
I'm bi, but my wife is straight, and we're happily monogamous.
For me, bisexuality just means that I can be attracted to either sex whether it be sexual and/or emotional. I have no need to be with both simply because I may find both attractive, no more than I have any need to be with any random person I see that I find attractive. It's not a compulsion or a disability, lol.
Not saying there's anything wrong if some people do have that need, nor do I really care if people are in multiparty relationships. If that's their thing that's their thing; so long as it's not hurting anyone I'm not going to judge. I'm just saying that bisexuality can run the relationship gamut like every other orientation.
As for your situation, if you really do feel the need to engage with both, you're going to have to decide: do you love your partner enough to 'forsake all others' (if that's her desire), or are you incapable of sustaining that? If the latter, I suggest amicably ending things now before you break her heart later.
As an aside, one thing about being openly bisexual that bugs me though (especially online), is that so many people assume that if you're a married bisexual man, that admitting as much is an indication that you're looking for hook ups; or that any time you start a conversation with another guy -- you're looking for hook ups. It's almost enough to drive me back into the closet, but for the opposite reasons!
Like I have read on here from many posts, its what works for your situation. I am Bi and my wife is straight. We are in a poly relationship in which she has a BF and I have BFs. we have been married 16 long years and together over 20. We are still VERY much in love with each other and our private life is still flourishing. But we talked about it and understand what we are doing. There is nothing secretive about it. We both know the passcodes to each others phones and could read messages at any time.
But again this is something that works for us and does not work for all. Its about open discussion and not hiding anything. and at the end of the day if it is not working then you need to make decisions on what is best to move forward. That being said I do not think that Bi-Sexuality means much these days. More the 50% of engage in Bi-Sexual acts at some point and as long as the relationship is ok then go for it. As for Bi-Sexuality in nudism, again I do not think plays a factor. Being a nudist is not a sexual thing. So trying to bring Bi-Sexuality in would be like saying that all men want to have sex with all women simply because they are naked.
I think people need to leave Sexual identity out of being a nudist as it should not have any bearing on who you hang with nude.
For me, I have ours as male is straight and female is bi curious. We don't hide any of that from each other. My husband is very vocal about no other men but knows that I really like women. We have talked a lot about inviting another woman and both love the thought.
This thread has spun out in so many directions. There are two aspects of being human which drive us: we are sexual and we form relationships. Sometimes those fit into neat boxes. In real life things are more complex and labels falter. When does attraction become sexual? When does body care and sensuality (such as massage) become sexual? When does a sexual relationship become mundane or transactional? How can we honor our sexuality which is likely dynamic and evolving and maintain relationships? It all takes work, commitment and communication.
There was an interview maybe twenty years ago on "Fresh Air" where the guest was a Roman Catholic priest who came out as gay, and was being asked to leave the priesthood. He maintained that while he identified with being gay, he was also absolutely committed to his vow of celibacy. He argued that because of that vow, it shouldn't make any difference whether he was gay or straight.
I think it's the same dynamic happening here. Two people of different genders may be in a stable relationship, although one of them identifies as bisexual, even if that person didn't actually engage in sexual relations with their own sex. Just because you find that a person of your sex triggers sexual excitement doesn't mean that you're going to act out on it. It's simply an acknowledgement of a part of their personality.