RE: Getting my girlfreind to become a nudist

"Finding a safe situation" ... really needs to start at home and then progress into public nude areas, such as a beach or club. The safest place to begin is in the home. If you have a reluctant partner or a partner that isn't comfortable with simple nudity ... you're not going to get them "into" this lifestyle and certainly not going to make them become a nudist. The reluctant partner must see simple, non sexual nudity as non threatening, non sexual, comfortable, freeing and natural. As stated ... if you can't get your head around not wanting to jump her bones each time she's naked ... then nudity becomes only sexual. Try getting her to be comfortable with nudity inside the house, then outside in the backyard, patio, balcony ... wherever you can provide her some privacy. This process takes time and it'll take more thanseveral times before you can suggest that you try a nude beach or club. Beaches and clubs are best because you can sit away, by yourselves, and observe what goes on. She will see that nude beaches are typically no different than beaches were you wear bathing suits. Clubs are no different than textile parks. There are also many things that can discourage a reluctant partner after they've tried public nudity. If that happens ... you need to communicate openly and honestly about it to find a solution so they will return.But ... seeing as the OP hasn't logged on for over 4 months, it's a good bet he's not coming back for any more advice! : )

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RE:Getting my girlfreind to become a nudist

Did you bother to notice (oh no you didn't) that you are responding to posts from 4 and 5 years ago?

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RE:Getting my girlfreind to become a nudist

Personally we view trying g to gets someone to become something is perhaps the worst mistake anyone can make. Is it more important to be true to oneself and be greatful to be able to be so in the presence of a loved one without adding pressure. Worst thing is to try to pursudae cajole in anyway. We find most visiting guests who started as a one nudist couple agree. It takes time. Good luck on a bliss full happy naturist couple future. Cheers

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RE:Getting my girlfreind to become a nudist

Cheers

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Shortly after my gf/future wife started, I gave her a news letter from Elesium an suggested we go there when I finishesd my project. She ws curious. We went. I told her she could wear her swim suit. I changed in the men's room and went to the pool. She came to the pool nude. She reasoned that a shy person got more attention by not being like everyone else than by wearing a suit. I vdry much noticed her. No one else paid attention. WE HAD A GREAT TIME.

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RE:Getting my girlfreind to become a nudist

Shortly after my gf/future wife started, I gave her a news letter from Elesium an suggested we go there when I finishesd my project. She ws curious. We went. I told her she could wear her swim suit. I changed in the men's room and went to the pool. She came to the pool nude. She reasoned that a shy person got more attention by not being like everyone else than by wearing a suit. I vdry much noticed her. No one else paid attention. WE HAD A GREAT TIME.

And it's a very good line of reasoning. "Gradual acclimatization" might seem safer or more comfortable for many women; but it's actually more beneficial to just jump in and blend in.

Kudos to you!

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RE:Getting my girlfreind to become a nudist

Why do you feel the need to 'convert' your gf to naturism? How would you feel if she attempted to pressurise you into doing something that didn't sit comfortably with you?
Just because I happen to be comfortable being naked doesn't mean that I expect my gf to come to the beach or a swim with me. I hope that one day she might take the plunge, but I'm certainly not going to insist. If I can practise body acceptance, can I not extend that acceptance to someone whose choice is to remain clothed?

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This thread is a real "time-jumper!" From 9 years ago to 4 to now. I think it's a-ok though; if there are no new threads, why not bump old ones?

If I can practice body acceptance, can I not extend that acceptance to someone whose choice is to remain clothed?

Absolutely; but there are also very good reason why someone would prefer their partner participate. From a practical standpoint; acceptance at many nudist venues is much easier as a couple than as a single guy. From a relationship standpoint; it is validating and "connecting" when your partner embraces nudist activities with you (rather than living a "double-life").

With that being said; it is also very important to be respectful of boundaries. When I first met my wife I went to the nude beach by myself; as she wanted no part of it then, which I respected. When she eventually decided to accompany me to a nudist resort - with the condition that she would not be openly nude - I also respected her choice. And when she decided to be nude with me; it was entirely her choice.

And the reality is: nudist life is infinitely more enjoyable with my wife by my side. And I did not have to "convert" her; she made the decision all on her own (with some encouragement from me) and in a sense "converted herself."

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RE:Getting my girlfreind to become a nudist

The best way (in my opinion) is to let them know what you are doing. A good relationship will allow the conversation. Invite her to join you without expecting fast results. The same as she Invites you to do things she likes. You may not always go to the same activities.
With a good relationship you can continue.
With luck she may join you. Do not press, invite.

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