Body Positive Nudes

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Hello. I have been a home nudist for over 20yrs, I am at a point in my life where I would like to venture out and experience social nudity. My wife on the other hand has serious body image issues and the negative attitude that goes with it. She is plus size, a BBW, however you would like to call it. She has curves. She is about 5'6", size 16-18 and is a 42DDD. I like all of that, in fact I love all of that. I like bigger women but she has such a negative image of herself no matter what I say, it doesn't help. Her attitude, not her size, has affected our sex life and our marriage. She will not even go topless inside our home. Are there any ladies, or men, who have the same troubles that can offer some advice as to how to change her self image? I love seeing her nude but there is little chance unless something changes. Thanks

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Hello friend, i ve been experiencing quitr the same problems as u. My wife has put on some weight the last 2 years, and she wont evenngo topless in the house when we are alone. Let alone on a beach. We used to practise nudism together a few years back but since she put on weight she has changed radically. I cant blame her because when i had put on some weight myself i didnt feel lime going nude as well but i surpassed it and got nude no matter what. After that i managed to lose some weight and gained my confidence back.

But in her case, she feels totally inattractive and ugly and she thinks that other will laught at her.

She is not even bbw, she is 1.65cm and 78kg. I find that quite normal. But she used to be alot thinner and now she despises her image. If only u could see her u could tell hkw oretty she still is.

No matter how much i try to make her understand that she looks stunning she is stubborn as a mule. Im with u in this but dont know how to help u.

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We visit a clothing optional resort. Years before we met I visited the resort by myself. While I was sitting on the beach by myself a couple slowly walked by. The woman who was a BBW was cheerful and elated. I said I had a feeling why she was so happy. She proceeded to tell me that her husband talked her into visiting the resort even though she was afraid she wouldnt get a warm welcome because of her size. As she told me this I saw tears running down her cheeks. It turned out the reaction she got from others was so heartwarming that she said she was completely naked within a half hour. She was so thrilled that she took her husbands advice. Ive seen them on occasion since then. Taking the first step like this woman did may convince that nudists in general are more concerned with ones character than body shape or size.

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Had the same issue with my wife at first.
Back in the day she wouldnt even wear a tank top let alone a bathing suit.
I finally got her to go to a nudist resort, my advice is go on a weekday because normally way less crowded, usually only the regulars who have seen every shape and size.
Also maybe try a clothing optional where she doesnt have to undress.
By your description your wife will not be the biggest gal there.
Oh yeah my wife had a good bit of tequila beforehand our first time.
Now she has her top off before we get thru the gate
Good Luck

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If all the ladies in the world woke up tomorrow morning liking themselves, a whole lot of businesses and industries would go belly up, losing billions of dollars in profits!! All these companies are preying on the female insecurities that they have artificially created in the first place, in the name of the almighty dollar!! Naturism/nudism is the perfect antidote to our sexist patriarchal society's ill, like sexism, misogyny, chauvinism, body insecurities, body phobias, body shaming, the objectification and sexualization of the female gender, etc.!! Naturists/nudists look at one's character, not how they look. We come in all shapes, sizes, ages, abilities, colors, ethnicities, nationalities, creeds, etc. We are all unique induvidual human beings!! In the general outlook we are the same but in the small, tiny, minute, distinctive and personal details we are all different!! Just imagine 7.6+ billion different human beings!! The mind boggles!! The dynamics are totally different in a naturist/nudist environment from a textile one!! Go and enjoy the nude way of life, to hell with the haters, the bullies, etc. who thrive in the textile world but are (almost) non-existent in our naked world.

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A brilliant reply and completely agree.

My late wife had a gorgeously curvy body in my opinion, in hers she was fat and ugly. She only agreed to go on a nudist beach because it happened to be there right next to our holiday hotel, the sea looked so inviting and there were not many other people around and most of the time her body would be in the sea. Turns out that she just loved the experience, could recognise that her body was of course normal and lovely as are all bodies. It was such a fantastically positive experience and did loads for her confidence. I do appreciate that it is a huge step and one that not everyone will be able to take ....but so far I have found nudists to be the most wonderfully uplifting group of people you could happen to meet, From David, 2 stone overweight and definitely not a 'shower' - and who cares!

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Same for my wife also. She had a a baby when she was 16. From then on she thought that her body was not pretty. It took years for me to show her the truth.
The most beautiful woman are the ones that Smile . I mean that they believe in them selves. Head up, chest out and that look of confidence. Oh so Beautiful !

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Whether small, medium, large, supersized or whatever, the ladies are constantly, daily bombarded with negative messages from various medias, ads, commercials, etc., etc., they are never good enough, never pretty enough (whatever that means!), never small enough, never curvy enough, etc., etc., etc., the list could go on and on!! No wonder they are insecure, ashamed, etc. of their of their bodies, of their looks!! These body insecurities, body phobias, body shaming attitutes, body objectifications and sexualizations are artificially created by various businesses and industries to turn around and exploit them!! After all they are billion dollar industries, all built on these inhibitions, self-consciousness and self-doubts!!! Just imagine if all the ladies of the world would wake up tomorrow morning actually liking and loving themselves, how many billion dollar businesses and industries would go bankrupt!!

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We are all who we are.... for every one barbie.... there are a hudred real people out there... we are all beautiful....

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SueBeeHoney is right on the mark! These companies foster insecurities in women, especially about age and size, so that they can profit by manipulating those insecurities; in the process, the companies reinforce the cultural bias against older and larger women, and of course this bias can be internalized so that many older and larger women are dubious about nudism. The irony is that in nudist culture such women would actually be embraced, since we don't have that cultural bias about women's bodies. That is the message we as nudists should be promoting!

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It's all dogma of what a Pearson should look like. I under stand those who are wanting to be healthy but you don't have to be perfect in body to be healthy I think it depends on one's genetics. In other words you are who you are. It's what's on the inside what counts. But women are targeted more than men. If anyone has read my profile I have a saying the body is art some are just more abstract. I am not I am not what some call ideal in looks n weight. I am working on weight loss for the Dr say it would help with my type 2 diabetes. So to all the women out there in the nudist life I have learnt it does not matter what you look like its who you are as a person.

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