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Compliments
Return to DiscussionsGuys are not as free with their compliments of each other as women are, but I have had men, who were total strangers, tell me I have a great beard. It happens once in a while, but it's not common. I've heard guys compliment each other on their haircuts. I don't think it's too much of a stretch that one man could compliment another man's hands or face. I'm pretty certain that positive comments about biceps, pecks, or abs would also be well-appreciated.
But what would happen if, in the locker room, one man said to another,
"Nice set of low-hangers" or
"Nicely shaped mushroom" or
"Great cock" or
"Very pleasing set of equipment"
Etc?
This topic came to mind because a guy sent me images of himself wearing some new jewelry he recently purchased. The jewelry was very nice and I said so. But his cock and balls are well-formed, visually pleasing, attractive, and, quite frankly, very beautiful -- and I told him so. My compliment was quite well-received.
But it got us talking about how men seem so frightened about discussing or complimenting another man's cock and balls. Are we that insecure? Are we afraid to give and received compliments regarding our male sex organs?
Now, understand, none of us did anything to deserve or merit the cock-and-balls set we got. We simply have the set we were given and that's it. There is nothing we have done, could do now, or could have done to change the set we have. From that perspective, we have no cause for pride or shame.
Nonetheless, some sets are decidedly more shapely, visually pleasing, handsome and attractive. Is either man harmed when one acknowledges this in the other?
There's a men's-only clothing-optional resort near where I live. Although it's perfectly acceptable to wear clothing anywhere and everywhere throughout the resort, a good deal of the men take advantage of the fact that they are not required to do so. At that resort, compliments on male equipment flow freely. Low hangers seem to be almost universally appreciated. A good stiff dick elicits a flood of compliments.
Why is this essentially unheard in any other context?
I was in a setting once where three of us guys were having dinner at the apartment of one of the other guys. Naturally, we were each nude. When we finished dinner and got up to move to the living area for conversation, the host said something to me about my cock. Honestly, I did not really hear or understand what he said, but I could tell from the context, the tone of his voice, and the look on his face that whatever he actually said was a compliment. I took it the way I would take any other compliment and said, "Thanks!" None of us felt weird, at least I certainly did not. It was just a compliment. Maybe part of it is that most of us are not naked with other people as often as we are with others clothed so that compliments about normally hidden areas just don't come up. My experience has led me to believe that if I am in a nude setting with others, I will try to be free to make a compliment when one is due. Now, I may be wrong, but I think it would be even less accepted if one were to offer a compliment to a nudist lady about her lady parts, even when one were due. I think I will limit my compliments to guys until I know the particular lady well enough to know how she will take it. As for shaking my cock by way of greeting, I would love it!
Ancient Roman greeting: Cupping.As for shaking my cock by way of greeting, I would love it!
It's actually mentioned once in the Bible when Abraham sent his servant off to acquire a wife for his son.
To cup, two men stand face to face -- each slightly to the other's right.
Place left arms over and around the shoulder/neck of the other man and use your arm to pull the other man close -- hugging. With your right hand, cup the other man's cock and balls.
We have an expression, "I have your back." Cupping says, "You're safe with me; I have your balls."
Just an outsider looking in on this as Ive never been to a clothing optional anything. I can see where most men would be uncomfortable complimenting another guys genitalia. Our society has engrained in the male brain that if you look at or think about or even talk about it, period, then you have some psychological issues. Its a double standard for men as women can freely discuss the guy they are withs cock and balls in their lady groups but we as men cant. They talk about topics like their cycles, body parts and other things but men cant even broach those subjects when together.
Live and let live! If you want to compliment mine, go ahead, and thank you. If you wanna talk about your cock and balls and feel comfortable doing so with me, lets talk. If I feel comfortable with you and I want to, Ill compliment yours. Weve got to get out of the close minded mentality we live in and yet retain our civility amongst each other. Freedom not used is eventually taken away forever.
Ancient Roman greeting: Cupping.As for shaking my cock by way of greeting, I would love it!It's actually mentioned once in the Bible when Abraham sent his servant off to acquire a wife for his son.To cup, two men stand face to face -- each slightly to the other's right.Place left arms over and around the shoulder/neck of the other man and use your arm to pull the other man close -- hugging. With your right hand, cup the other man's cock and balls.We have an expression, "I have your back." Cupping says, "You're safe with me; I have your balls."
Learned of this several months ago on a similar TN post. I have cupped quite a few times and highly recommend it. It is a physical manifestation of trust. An excellent step to begin a friendship.
usually when somebody says they like my junk it's a gay dude wanna get down on it - it's all good
Not junk. Cocks are too important to belittle. No kids are made from junk. It may be light-hearted, but the words we choose about ourselves reflect our self-image. It's kind of like the difference between being proud of your six pack abs versus pulling in your gut. We need our pride!