A honest question mostly to the women but anyone

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  naturist_Paul

  Aug 22, 2026

  Most people are initially put off when meeting a stranger who, upfront flaunts nudism. Most people equate nudity with sexually explicit activity and pull away. It takes time to un-learn a life time of cultural behavior. Let the issue come up naturally as each of you begin to become acquainted.

  If it is an accidental encounter, there is usually less rejection. Just be polite and cover up. The issue is now open and you have reacted civilly. Sometimes you will find the other person is also a nudist or a nudist wanna-be. If you don't push hard, even a non-nudist can slowly become a nudist.

  I have been gently persuading my wife to join me in Naturist activities. She has gone through all the rejection phases and this week has finally relaxed and spent time outdoors with me at a clothing optional campground. So amazing progress. There is still a way to go, but good progress.

  Breaking the issue gradually and gently has the best chance of succeeding.

  Paul

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  nudistcouple123

  Aug 22, 2026

  I would not put the fact that you are a nudist in your profile at the dating site as that would probably turn off the great majority of women. Wait until you have been dating a person for a while before bringing up the topic.

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  Ade1970Original Poster

  Aug 25, 2026

  thanks Paul makes sense

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  Ade1970Original Poster

  Aug 25, 2026

  yes think this is best way to go thanks for answering

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  nkhiker

  Aug 26, 2026

  I might not leave it out totally. Don't make it sound like it's a lifestyle but subtly mention that occasionally you enjoy being clothes free. Something like you enjoy life, and on occasion enjoy being clothes free in nature, in the right place and time. Make it sound like it's a part of your happy go lucky personality, if that's you. I think you would rather start out with a person that might be intrigued by that opposed to grossed out at the idea. If it's important to you why waste your time who thinks being naked is a sin. Best case, they might ask you about it, and that would certainly make the conversation easier.

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  Ade1970Original Poster

  Aug 26, 2026

  agree completely i'm not embarrassed about being a nudist quite the opposite its give me more confidence i've told a few close friends who just went ok long as your happy and safe will tell close family soon I know they will be shocked but completely fine with it, if anyone asks i will tell them the truth. It isn't the do all if a lady said not for her, but be nice to share how wonderful it is. I googled in the UK 7 million people where confirmed to be naturists that's 10% of the UK and i bet another 1/2 million more so its not as uncommon as we think regards Ade

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  Member

  Aug 27, 2026

  I met a man, became friends, and I cant remember how long after meeting him he told me he was a nudist, but when he did, I wasnt sure what to think. I hadnt heard of the lifestyle and growing up associating nudity with sex, I didnt know what to think about this guy. We continued to be friends and the topic would come up in conversation, I started learning more about the lifestyle through him. He is the one who told me about this website. He has changed my whole perspective on the lifestyle, and I wish I would have learned about it much earlier in my life. I agree with some of the other posts, let it come up in conversation. It took me a few months to warm up to the idea, but I love the lifestyle and try to be nude at home as much as I can. Which isnt often because of family being home.

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  funfolk

  Aug 27, 2026

  I would work on the assumption that you will make it clear in your profile on the intended dating site that you don't just seek a friend to accompany you to things like theatre, cinema, concerts, sports, holidays etc., but that you would want (I assume) to move towards a sexual relationship. The bridge to cross in due course would be moving forward from naked time in bed or around the house to social nudity. I would therefore suggest an honest profile that emphasises your strong personality traits and general interests, and being open about your physical appearance and medical condition. When fishing for your soul-mate, cast an initial net that says more than just boy seeks girl, but with the mesh size chosen so that time-wasters and obvious mis-matches will drop out of the net. Your subsequent follow-up can go deeper into each other's hopes for shared activities, including naturism. How about including a line like this? "Honest, cheerful, respectful, sensual broad-minded guy - more of a friendly and cuddly grey-back gorilla than mischievous monkey, and with no hang-ups about body issues, loving an all-over tan." If you really want to narrow the field at the first go, simply join BN, then you can say a lot with just "Member of BN"

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  Member

  Aug 27, 2026

  Its a really fine line. I find the general community opinion splits on either wanting to ridicule or criminalise nudism/nudists. This is mostly due to how mainstream media has treated the topic. So when you "put it out there" as part of who you are, be that on a profile or in a discussion, you usually get either of those reactions. Its about 5% of the time it meets with a like minded person

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  Aug 27, 2026

  I agree with want2bfree in what she says. I did not go on Tinder after losing my wife to cancer 5.5 years ago but met a few women through other people. I did not mention nudity to them initially but after spending time with one the subject came up and we went to a CO beach not long after. She was in a bikini initially, then was topless and after a while fully naked. That relationship did not last but I am now with someone and again I did not mention nudity until it came up somehow, maybe after we had started to have sex. I have not managed to get her to a CO beach yet but she is more comfortable in her own body around me, is topless in my yard when it's warm and is OK wit me being a nudist, as was my wife. Nudism seems to have a strange image to many due to bad behaviour by some or maybe people think its all about sex or orgies or outrageous behaviour. So I would say you love nature and all the things it brings, maybe being free in nature, maybe mention beaches but I don't think I would say I was a nudist.

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  wildwilly1

  Aug 27, 2026

  Finding a partner who enjoys social nudism in a world full of wackos isn't easy. It is a fact that many people have success in finding friends online, and relationships are now commonly begun in such a way. But here's an old fashioned notion ~ go to a nude resort and meet people if you want to date a nudist! Have patience and network with real people instead of through social media websites. You can't swipe left if they end up being strange, it is true, but the real deal is still a viable way to connect if one does the footwork.

  Now to the actual subject, using dating websites for partnering up ~ I'm on the side of a gentle nudge of information to tell others reading a dating profile of one's desire to share bare experiences, that rather than a sledgehammer proclamation of, "If you ain't naked I ain't interested!" Absolutes like that statement will thin the herd of prospective candidates a touch too much. The written language is a wonderful thing with its ability to convey a thought through nuance and/or double-meanings. Humor and tongue-in-cheek innuendo isn't that tough to weave into a message that will get across a need to be nude without making it sound either desperate or purely sexual. Subtlety works best, and if someone doesn't catch the meaning behind the words, it informs that they are either not overly intelligent or they are possibly running through many profiles at a speed that doesn't bode well for any long term, meaningful connection. I have never filled out a dating profile, but if I did, it would be written with great care and filled with pointed comments meant to weed out the weak-minded and unworthy.

  The idea of not mentioning social nudity at all in a profile (for someone who has strong feelings about the subject), or to begin to date someone who knows nothing of the other person's deeply-held desire for non-sexual, bare interaction, seems silly to me. Going out with someone for a few dates or a few weeks before revealing such important information strikes me as dishonest, an excellent way to undermine any trust that has been built between the two people, and a very poor way to start a friendship.

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  Ade1970Original Poster

  Aug 28, 2026

  Thanks for responding I think everything everyone has said so far is right. I met a female friend yesterday for a meal id not seen in ages. She is one my favorite people in the world (not an attraction thing just good friends) so after a while I decided to tell her about the Spa I go to as all the people i've told so far not horror just inquisitiveness her first question was re sex and i explained that yes there are places you can go if that's what you want but 99% is just people who enjoy being nude rather than clothed. I've offered to take her and she said she will think about it. I think she will do it when she wants. We did book to go to a Burlesque Cabaret her suggestion

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  Ade1970Original Poster

  Aug 28, 2026

  Thank you for the response yes joined BN I think here there more chance than most dating sites so i will see. love the comment though may nick that ta

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  Ade1970Original Poster

  Aug 28, 2026

  yes agree first thought with most is it sexual then. We know its not like that on most nude places. This was my thought that especially on a dating site comes across a bit sleazy because you can't articulate what you are saying in 500 words

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  Ade1970Original Poster

  Aug 28, 2026

  first sorry for your loss, thanks for responding. yes the more I have read here I know it best to bring it up when the time is right. I have my own morals on life the most important is that I don't lie, don't expect people i love to either. What ever is said we will get over it pretty quick. I also don't be-leave in regret , you never know what would have happened with the thing you never did Lol. So yes after a while I will drop a hint then if asked will be honest. Glad you have met someone new

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  Ade1970Original Poster

  Aug 28, 2026

  thanks for the response I agree that the old fashion way is the best so I have been going to a Spa, swimming regular and just booked an appointment at a local nudist camp site. I do think that looks are not everything and personality is a big thing, no way you can do this online in a profile. unfortunately i live far from any resorts but next year will look to go to some. So the dating sites are really an extra tool. What I should say is that the first thing i'm looking for is a companion i'v been single for close to 20 years even if she will not be nude. But the dream is that she will join me as I think its such a great world no judgment

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  Voodoomagik

  Aug 29, 2026

  [quote]So this is a real question please read whole before you scrap as it will sound like scam. So I have recently joined a major dating site to meet a women for a real relationship so I believe in being real honest as possible within the 500 word allowance. So my question do I put on the bio that I am a nudist or will this scare most off. I do hope that I will meet someone who will join me on the journey but as long as they are ok with me then I will live with it. I found on here many men in particular hide there nudism to there partner, I don't want this. thanks Ade[/quote] We have a friend in your exact scenario as well. He was telling me how he has lead with the fact he is a nudist and had women run for the hills thinking he is some kind of perv or something. He has waited and told them a week or two into chatting only for them to ghost him as soon as he told them. He eventually ended up settling on letting them know up front, that way if they were going to split he wouldn't waste much time on it. He found a female earlier this summer on a dating app and told her, she seemed very intrigued and told him she loves being nude when she can. They went on multiple dates, things were going well, then she just ghosted him. Stopped replying to any messages. No idea what happened there. I would say its not something you need to put at the top of your profile, but maybe slip it in that you enjoy living life nude when you can. That could spur more of a conversation where you can delve more into it.

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  Ade1970Original Poster

  Aug 29, 2026

  Yes understood I have now asked a few women at the spa I go to think the general reply as wait till maybe the second proper date then if they do run for the hills was just not meant to be. I am trying to go to as many events as I can at the moment so there is a garden party I go to in September I wasnt going to go but been asked by the staff to so it may be fate so I will see what happens. I'm very much not a religious person but do be leave in fate when the times right it will happen, just hope thats sooner than later LOl

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  nudie_pr2290

  Oct 12, 2026

  I would, and have never mentioned anything about my enjoyment of nudity in advance. For what it is worth my dating experience has been to say nothing and then let things unfold over time. I've dated lots of women from my mid twenties where I have, for example, gone to the beach for the day with a lunch and over a few such occasions I've worn less and less. One young lady did once suggest that if I wanted to be naked then she was OK with me doing so. I "revealed" myself over a few hours so that when she finally saw me totally naked she just loved it. [I'm smooth and have a few piercings]. After a few weeks she joined me after admitting to me that she also enjoyed nudity. After that we spent a lot of time naked either at a beach, in her garden, or outside in a few places that I knew and it became a very sexual thing for us both.

  I can't remember when I last dated a lady who didn't either enjoy nudism when we met or after I'd introduced her to it which suggests to me that being naked outdoors is not as taboo as one might think. It is, in my opinion, worth taking the time to introduce a lady to it.

  I'm a keen sportsman and therefore athletic and over the years ive found that most women seem to be quite keen to see me naked😁 and have even had a few female "friends" whom i have regularly been naked in their company and they have not complained. 

   Ade1970 wrote:
  > So this is a real question please read whole before you scrap as it will sound like scam.
  > So I have recently joined a major dating site to meet a women for a real relationship so I believe in being real honest as possible within the 500 word allowance. So my question do I put on the bio that I am a nudist or will this scare most off. I do hope that I will meet someone who will join me on the journey but as long as they are ok with me then I will live with it. I found on here many men in particular hide there nudism to there partner, I don't want this. thanks Ade

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