Sometimes I enjoy kiwi, and sometimes I enjoy mixed berries, however, sometimes I combine them all and call it fruit salad!
As some of the other responses mentioned, it makes more sense for one to refer to themself as bi-sexual when there are at least two people of the same sex engaging sexually with each other along with at least one person of the opposite sex in the moment. Otherwise, sex is more likely considered to be hetero or homo.
I prefer to keep it very simple as a being who is ...sexual, although that might harbor too much mystery for some folks who like to keep sexuality in neatly wrapped boxes.
Nudistdad I agree with you completely.
I consider myself bisexual because I equally enjoy sex with men and women separately. Its not about having a threesome. Its about appreciating the man or woman for who they are as individuals.
I dont consider it a label. It describes in one word my sexual preferences.
Iagree i was molested when i was young and gave in to a brother in law in my teens let him give me oral sex more than once and i was married .when i got devorced i only dated girls but thought about getting head from a guy every once and a while.eventualy i gave in and sucked a guys cock and sort of liked it but did not keep doing it but now i try not to think about it but when i see a hard cockIget hard.SO I just jack off lol but im affraid im going to give in and suck a cock and if i got the chance i would eat pussy and suck cock at the same time. iIM not looking for that but probably could not say no.
I agree with nudistdad: "I do believe that it's getting to the silly stage with multiple choice descriptive classifications."
It's a bit like the artificial construct of ethnicity. If I like eating pizza, does that make me Italian? How long has the term bisexual even existed? Not very long. The term homosexual didn't come into being until the 1860's at the dawn of the industrial revolution and a blink in the history of humankind. It's not that homosexuality didn't exist until then, but the shift came in viewing it as an identity rather than just a behavior. It's kind of like being right dominant. I'm not very fluid with my left hand, but if my right hand is not available I wipe my ass with my left hand, I don't consider it an identify shift.
I believe in only one sexuality for men: masculine. I believe that mankind's and especially men's greatest gift to survive and evolve is based on adaptabilty to changing environments. That's why I don't give the sexual spectrum much credence. It's more a sexual matrix where sexuality is defined by biology, relationship and bonding. I see homosexuality as natural and a societal need that men without children contribute to the survival of a tribe. The labels we use today may help us develop authenticity, and they certainly help others to categorize us, but I don't think they help me personally.
So sexual prefixing is getting silly. I love the sun on my naked body but don't need to come out as solarsexual. However, I honor others' identities as they wish. If someone has sex with a man and a woman, calling it bisexual or good at multitasking is their call.
In regards to gender orientation, I'm evolving to accept and honor however a person chooses to define theirs. Is it a threat to my children or society if someone enters the "other" bathroom? Well, it's a bigger threat if they have to shit and piss all over, either figuratively or literally.
Human sexuality is a beautiful, unique gift and each sexual fingerprint is different from the rest. If we survive as a species without aging out or killing each other, it's serving its purpose, isn't it?
Iagree i was molested when i was young and gave in to a brother in law in my teens let him give me oral sex more than once and i was married .
Please accept my condolences that you are the victim of sexual abuse. It does not define you, but trauma can lead to unhealthy feelings and behaviors as a result, which can be refered to as acting out or PTSD. Please consider getting professional help to determine if your trauma has a negative impact in your life. You deserve to be free from it if so. Good luck.
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Human sexuality is a beautiful, unique gift and each sexual fingerprint is different from the rest. If we survive as a species without aging out or killing each other, it's serving its purpose, isn't it?
Well said! I'm getting very tired of labels. No need to put folks in a box that defines them.
Why all the need for labels, straight sex, gay sex, bi sex. In the end you are having sex with the partner if your choice, that is all. It is sex, irrespective of your gender or their gender.
I acknowledge the desire for terms such as gay, bi, straight etc in terms of sexuality but when it comes to sex then it is sex full stop. No need to label it.