When your nude or talking about being nude, sexuall context will appear in any conversation. It's just par for the course. How you handle it is a reflection on your maturity. I have been naked a lot of times in both large and small groups and discussions have turned sexuall in one way or another. I never considered it to be a big deal. A bunch of people getting naked in front of each other takes a lot of confidence, if you can't handle a little sexuall discussion and comments then maybe nudism isn't truly for you. You have to be comfortable in your own skin and your circle of friends
You've clearly set expectations for how others should behave. Who is accountable for nurturing and guiding them or are they left to their own tools and resources?
Trying to fix. manage, and control how another person thinks ] behaves ] believes can't be done in a single post. What are you doing to preserve or change the culture for the betterment of all?
What are you doing to preserve or change the culture for the betterment of all?
Great question! We need to foster a positive spirit of nudism. Will we always be aligned? No. But an attitude of empathy and compassion goes a lot further. Two negatives won't make a positive. We lead by example. Thank you!
Unfortunately there are (and always will be) a lot of people (mostly guys) who are looking for sexual encounters and they don't differentiate between sex and the practice of being naked.
Just look at almost any nude beach. There will be a percentage of people who are there only to look for sexual encounters. It's not about being naked, but for them it's a gateway to getting it on with someone and getting off.
Then of course you get the spammers on here who register fake accounts and send you messages to "check out my pics at www. --- .com".
Funny how every one of them has their pics on the same web address!
I just ignore all of this and focus on why I am here.
Just like when I go to a nude beach, I don't pay any attention to the guys walking past playing with their cocks.
Im totally understanding you and agree. When Im at a nudist resort, we dont talk about the size of penises or breast sizes. Never have I had some dude walk up to me and say Im sexy. Thats a good way to get knocked out. Yet people freely do that from their keyboard at home. My rule for online interaction is to not say something I wouldnt say face to face. And if you do say those things in person, there is something uncivilized about you.
Resort and online conduct are apples and oranges. I find it easy to ignore sexual comments and friend requests because the posters fail to engage with me. Conduct at mixed nudist resorts appears quite controlled, especially given their discriminatory policies. My experience at Haulover and Hippie Hollow were positive where people seemed to be calm and respectful. But on the other hand, it tends to be easier to be that way around men who aren't photogenic.
In general I find it strange how quick nudists are to judge others, but I've never read anything which has given careful consideration to how to behave. For example, what can you tell a new nudist visitor about how to look at others? The two extremes are to stare at your feet or the other's genitals. What are sound guidelines in between? Who's defining the solutions? Of course the right attitude is important, but concrete guidelines from ANR or TNS would be helpful.
My feeling is that nudity is natural. Act like youve been there before. Its sophomoric to make something titillating that doesnt need to be as such. Its just how we are. Its really not hard to figure out. You dont even need a written policy. Its just standard conduct.
My feeling is that nudity is natural. Act like youve been there before. Its sophomoric to make something titillating that doesnt need to be as such. Its just how we are. Its really not hard to figure out. You dont even need a written policy. Its just standard conduct.
I agree. On the other hand, I recognize that common sense is not so common. As long as resorts choose to discriminate against single men for being penis holders without giving them the benefit of doubt to enter the premise, a code of conduct would be a better alternative.
Judgement coming from every direction here - personally, I feel no need for any guidelines more than a quick read-through of the rules of conduct at any nudist place I visit. Respect for everyone is likely the most important part of being socially nude, and that means respecting their attitude as well as their physical person, up to and including how close you get to them. If anyone needs guidelines as to where they keep their eyes when interacting with another nudist, they'd better learn some important bare lessons sooner than later. ALWAYS talk to someone's face, look into their eyes as any verbal communication occurs; show them total respect by not taking more than a momentary glance at any part of them before setting the gaze on the part of them which is interactive in the social sphere - their head.
A person's outward beauty ought have nothing to do with where one's eyes rest. A lack of control in such interactions shows a general disregard for everyone involved. It would be good to invest in some very dark or mirrored sunglasses if the perceived beauty of someone is too much to control yourself from taking an extended gawk at anything below their chin. Any appreciation for someone's physical beauty in a social nude situation should come complete with the assumptive rule that they are not being turned into an object of lust.
Yeah but my point is how men treat other men here like they are chatting on Twitter. They would never say those things in person. It doesnt matter if it is a resort or not. I try to have the Integrity to never be a keyboard warrior, or pervert for that matter. If some dude walked up to me and asked about the girth of my penis, like happened this morning, I wouldnt put up with that. Its like a bunch of grade schoolers. Id ask them to grow up! Unfortunately, men do that to women here too. No respect!
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